DP angry with me over University Challenge

[Teachingquestion]

I wish I was joking.
I don't really care about university challenge at all. DP likes it. He watches it and tries see how many he can score. Normally I am just sitting there/having a cuppa , watching rather than answering all the questions. I just don't find quizzes that interesting. Last night, he asked me to join in. I did and I got double his amount of points. He said "oh for fucks sake don't win now just because you've decided to "
I know this sounds really trivial, but he had this look of absolute disdain on his face. Like a deep resentment. I am intelligent and in a good job that uses it, but I was only able to do that due to a good school being concerned with social mobility. My parents are intelligent but undereducated (again social mobility issues) I have friends of all types of intelligence and although I'm proud of my achievements, it's not the biggest thing for me. Also whisper I don't think university challenge is that hard, most of the time it's quite general knowledge put in a wordy question.
Dunno what my AIbU is really, just want a rant!

DH & I ‘compete’ against each other every week on UC. I ‘win’ about 80% of the time.

On the occasions when DH wins he goes on and on about it for ages afterwards! It’s so tiresome. When I win we just go onto whatever we’re planning next.

We do have different education backgrounds although I would say DH is cleverer than I am generally.

He is like this about most things. On the rare occasions he cooks, he goes on about how great ithe meal was for days. Mows the lawn , i must admire it several times. Etc

why do men do this? I think it is mostly men.

whT twat asks you to join in then says oh youve decided to win

wtf

I am proud of myself definitely but my pride isn't fragile- I love meeting people cleverer than me or having discussions with people of differing views etc
Pride isn't always arrogance
I do think the messaging around clever women is toxic though- lots of posters on this thread feel the need to say things they are NOT good at if they say something that they are good at, as if to counterbalance

You sound pretty clever. What are you doing with him, then?

I think that you need to play at every opportunity. Tell him you enjoyed it so much.

He's not shown this side of him before tbh but I haven't played any board games with him. We definitely talk about stuff and he has seemed to enjoy it, he doesn't shut me down or anything.
I'll just keep an eye and see if he undermines again or if it was just a tired moment...

It's all about interpretation of his reactions. My DH can wipe the floor with me in a university challenge quiz. We love shows like 1% club, catchphrase etc. I'm usually better at 1% club & he hates it but I'd never say his reactions were anything other than funny & I wind him up even more. We both know it's all fun with healthy competition during the show.

My favourite University Challenge moment (misses point of thread):

Paxman: "The term Cheesemongers, Cherry Pickers, Bob's Own,The Emporer's Chambermaids and The Immortals are or have been used to describe which groups of men?"

Contestant: "Homosexuals?"

🙈

Id deliberately engineer some more that and see how he reacts.

It’s unattractive

If that's true, how embarrassing 😂😂😂

I've been dumped for being smarter than a man 😂 since then I usually go on a date to a pub quiz quite early on. Play a few boardgames and see how they react to losing (or winning, for that matter). Filters out the ones easily intimidated and emasculated. I like a bit of competition - intelligence is attractive.

I'm currently happily single, mind 😅

I’m sorry but the answer below made me laugh!
( not very PC I know )

It was a shitty response, he sounds fragile and quite bitchy. Just keep an eye out.

Next week you need to watch it on iPlayer first, note down all the answers and get a clean sweep

See how the poor bastard copes with that

I have an arts degree and a postgraduate qualification. My husband is dyslexic and left school with no qualifications because " his teachers thought he was thick". However, he has a wealth of scientific and mechanical knowledge as well as a wide range of general knowledge. He can understand many aspects of quantum physics. So we both yell answers at the tv - I usually get the Arts ones, he gets the science ones and the world geography.Neither of us is good at flags or football though. We both whoop when an answer is correct (our late dog used to join in at this point too). There is an occasional "How the hell did you know that???" from one or other of us, but in a rather impressed tone. Sometimes he wins, sometimes I do. No big deal. The only complaint my husband makes is when one member of the teams we are watching doesn't seem to contribute . Oh, and if I correct someone's mispronunciation of a foreign language...

Regiments?

Careful here. How long have you been together? Do you have kids together?
He’s going to expect you to shrink yourself to make him feel bigger for your entire life, or at least however long you are with him. This is not a small thing at all. Do you want to spend the rest of your life tiptoeing around his brittle ego?

What's he like on your birthdays, @Teachingquestion ? That's often a good indicator of people who need a close eye kept on them, although it might be a bit early days yet.

Jeez I’m feeling like a right thicko now for thinking University Challenge is really hard! OH and I play it every week and feel proud if we get a few questions right! Normally we average 10-15 between us but sometimes it’s more (or much less, especially in the later rounds!).

You’ve damaged his fragile ego OP…

Wow what a sore loser he was. I'm also so sad for your Mum's lost potential (not that there is anything wrong with being a cleaner). My gran was like that; so intelligent but no chance for a career.

It is really hard - people are just showing off. The questions are on stuff that the average person wouldn’t know. The contestants spend months and months cramming random topics and quiz questions and they have heats at the unis to select those with the best general knowledge. If you picked a random Oxford student they probably wouldn’t know the answer to most of the questions yet they are clearly intelligent.

@Teachingquestion I remember looking up every reference In that song "we didn't start the fire" (after taping it off the radio and slowly copying it out...)

Well, that's made my day. Thank you. Probably made Billy Joel's too.

....you'd hate Monday nights at our house...

They are also probably picked to have complimentary knowledge.

So if you can keep pace with a team of 4x people with good memories that are all trained up and all have knowledge in different areas then you are doing a pretty good job.

One of the things my DH says he really loves about me is my intelligence.
I have a head full of interesting (but largely useless) facts and he jokes that I can give Google a run for its money. However, he is very very technically smart and knows about Physics, AI, Programming etc in a way I never could and I love that about him too.
I would hate to have to hide how much I know just to make a man with self esteem issues feel better about himself