DP angry with me over University Challenge

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I wish I was joking.
I don't really care about university challenge at all. DP likes it. He watches it and tries see how many he can score. Normally I am just sitting there/having a cuppa , watching rather than answering all the questions. I just don't find quizzes that interesting. Last night, he asked me to join in. I did and I got double his amount of points. He said "oh for fucks sake don't win now just because you've decided to "
I know this sounds really trivial, but he had this look of absolute disdain on his face. Like a deep resentment. I am intelligent and in a good job that uses it, but I was only able to do that due to a good school being concerned with social mobility. My parents are intelligent but undereducated (again social mobility issues) I have friends of all types of intelligence and although I'm proud of my achievements, it's not the biggest thing for me. Also whisper I don't think university challenge is that hard, most of the time it's quite general knowledge put in a wordy question.
Dunno what my AIbU is really, just want a rant!

Nope. Not in the slightest the tone of my thread. In fact, I've gone out of my way to say how it's just part of my life and how my DP has upset me. If I wanted to humblebrag I wouldn't make out I was with a fragile ego twat would I?

I don't think it was on BBC I think k he was watching a rerun

I'm the same OP, right down to looking for references I did not know of "we didn't start the fire" 😂
There is a great link somewhere with fabulous scope notes for every reference!

I also STILL note down things I want to look things up except these days it's usually as I'm listening to a podcast on the way to work and I speak into my watch. Sometimes it works and sometimes I have no idea what the 'reminder' is supposed to say 😆

😂

why would it be annoying?

I had a really routine driven after school week with my Mum- it went
Monday - park
Tuesday - swimming
Wednesday- park then library
Thursday - swimming
Friday- park
Saturday morning - town/ library
Sunday - Swimming then park
It was all free and she liked to keep us busy!
I loved the library so much!

I loved the library too, but it never occurred to me to do anything other than take out books.

I got acetone as an answer once and was very pleased with myself. I remember all sorts of random things but never anything useful, although there are things I know lots about, and if they came up on university challenge I'd be well away.

same with me i like to study vaious topics etc and sometimes it can help see the links between eg 1a and 2b etc

On the plus side, at least he'll never ask for you to join in on UC in the future! 😂

I'd definitely be keeping an eye out for any other such behaviours where he's trying to find a way to seem better than you. At least you've got a "well, I did beat you at UC" to throw back at him now.

And also to piss on both your fires,
You can't piss on my fire - I know I'm intelligent

Exactly?! What does that even mean? If you know the answers, you know the answers. Were you supposed to decide not to win?

It seems somewhat odd to me that a grown man is even this interested in tracking his own answers, but I could get on board with that…you know, fair enough. His reaction to you implies a bigger chip on his shoulder though.

I’m impressed by your performance OP, I couldn’t have done anything like as well! Wouldn’t surprise me if I had scored zero.

I think it's good women are proud of their intelligence.

Too many mediocre men still succeed based on society's enduring preference for men, it's time women know their worth.

Your partner sounds like a twat. You don't have to justify doing well in a quiz and it's utterly ridiculous for him to be annoyed at you.
Fwiw, my partner is a real polymath (he has Asperger's which I believe may be somewhat responsible!) and is insanely bright. And I still sometimes beat him in UC. It just depends on the questions; it's all meaningless.

The modern day equivalent is reading on Kindle but constantly googling things, eg does that place really exist. Takes me twice the time to read a book!
I have what even I call a dustbin memory, I can recall the weirdest facts. My late OH and I used to watch Countdown, yes I'm very old, and he got really frustrated if I claimed a long word before the 30 seconds were up, it 'put him off' apparently.

I know what you’re saying, although a memory that good would be an asset in itself, but I also think that knowing a variety of facts like that will usually be part of a wider intelligence. It shows that someone had the curiosity and wide reading to acquire the knowledge in the first place. Also in many cases memory is aided by a level of understanding.

This is me and my dad. I'm so grateful for his encouragement.

Please keep an eye on your partner going forward. Never make yourself smaller for some man's fragile ego.

The new season started on Monday

Yessss! Hell yess to this! 😘

@Teachingquestion how long have you been with this guy?

Because people generally tend to pride themselves on being good or exceptional at something, and that pride will often develop over a long timescale so they have considerable investment in it. It's part of what makes them them.
So not really surprising that they get annoyed when they find out it actually isn't the case.

Same as when someone thinks they look good whereas actually they look awful. Telling them that isn't always going to elicit a positive response.

Maybe next time he should watch an episode by himself first, make a note of the answers, and then watch it again with you so that he can answer all the questions? Would that make him feel better?

"Because people generally tend to pride themselves on being good or exceptional at something, and that pride will often develop over a long timescale so they have considerable investment in it. It's part of what makes them them.
So not really surprising that they get annoyed when they find out it actually isn't the case."

I think you just made my point.

2.5 years

I used to go out with someone who was quite insecure about his own intelligence (due to a rubbish degree at a rubbish university) and he used to go out of his way to try to prove he was more intelligent than me. (like challenging me at scrabble, or wordle or seeing how many answers I got in a pub quiz (even if we were in the same bloody team).) He was so insecure, and really disliked being beaten.

It was all about his insecurity. And actually I just stopped playing games with him - he sucked all of the joy out of them.

If he did this to you, he definitely is regularly doing other unpleasant things. How is he behaving in other areas of your life? Could he be more loving and kinder, generally?