DP angry with me over University Challenge

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I wish I was joking.
I don't really care about university challenge at all. DP likes it. He watches it and tries see how many he can score. Normally I am just sitting there/having a cuppa , watching rather than answering all the questions. I just don't find quizzes that interesting. Last night, he asked me to join in. I did and I got double his amount of points. He said "oh for fucks sake don't win now just because you've decided to "
I know this sounds really trivial, but he had this look of absolute disdain on his face. Like a deep resentment. I am intelligent and in a good job that uses it, but I was only able to do that due to a good school being concerned with social mobility. My parents are intelligent but undereducated (again social mobility issues) I have friends of all types of intelligence and although I'm proud of my achievements, it's not the biggest thing for me. Also whisper I don't think university challenge is that hard, most of the time it's quite general knowledge put in a wordy question.
Dunno what my AIbU is really, just want a rant!

This. If your life partner isn't as proud or prouder of your achievements as they are of their own, then there is a serious problem.

What myplace said, 100%.

I've been enjoying dipping in and out of repeats of House of Games on one of the U channels recently. Easy but challenging enough to be fun.

Confucius said “If you’re the smartest person in the room you are in the wrong room.” Always keep learning and looking for the next challenge.

yeah.....I don't think Confucius actually said that.

haha I hope you play every time from now on OP. What a sore loser!

I wonder if he’ll want to watch it next week?!!!

They say the last person to have "read everything" – that is, everything worth reading – was Coleridge. Not sure how they can tell, but it's interesting all the same.

Am I the only one who has a tiny shred of sympathy for the husband? Yes, he acted like a dick, and yes, he probably is a twat. But it does drive me nuts when I'm sweating blood over a difficult cryptic crossword, and then DP comes and looks over my shoulder and casually fills in half the remaining answers as if it was no big deal.

Unlikely you 'forget' it. It's in long term memory and will pop up when/if required e.g. during University Challenge!
I too am well-read and had a rounded education (surprising for my age and economic/social birth class and sex). My family always cheer me on if I can get questions right in such quizzes, suggest I apply etc (I wouldn't - hate the thought of TV quizzes) etc. (NB I am useless on sport and pop music!) Getting huffy in the way OP's DH did argues feeling very insecure unless they are always 'best'. Not a nice place to be. My ex used to do it - my late DH never. Whole family intelligent btw, but many do not read much (sadly - I blame the whole word method of teaching reading, it screwed a generation of readers along with T. Blair's illiterate education reforms which prioritised reading for information and downgraded reading for pleasure as useless).

He's just good at cryptic clues, which is a learnable skill. If you do them you know this!

I thought it was Jordan Peterson actually

You are so right to feel proud of you mother and yourself for stimulating you/yourself to get that education! And the love for your mother is so beautiful!

He asked you to join in, so he can't complain.

I have a hobby in which I do quite well in competitions. I would expect DH to be similarly strong if he tried. If he did, I suspect I would make a comment along the lines of your DH's, but good-humoured and without the swearing. I wouldn't resent him doing well, but I would still find it slightly annoying if he was better without the level of practice I've had. I always wonder whether part of the reason he doesn't get involved is to make sure that doesn't happen.

> it's extremely annoying when you regularly try to succeed at something, and then someone else comes along and tries it and blows you out of the water with zero effort.

It's only annoying for insecure egotistical people
Secure, well-adjusted people are delighted when someone does well at something

> Whatever you do, don't tell him you "don't find it that hard"!
Because we should pander to the less intelligent and insecure?

I feel no sympathy whatsoever. My late husband could do sudokus effortlessly and was red hot at stuff like Crazy Birds. Why would it bother me?

I spent about half an hour trying to skim stones on a lake once. DH wandered over and got 4 or 5 bounces on his first go.I told him that it was very annoying.

If university challenge is so easy and you don’t care about it then unless you are married to a saint, it is going to irritate your DH if you swoop in and do better than him.

> IMHO, insecure men, especially those lacking intelligence, absolutely despise intelligent capable women

Sadly it's not just insecure men that do this

And the insecure egotists despise anyone, male or female, more intelligent or knowledgeable than themselves

You could do worse than read up on the Neanderthals
Men and women were equal, and language and culture, and therefore intelligence, developed in all roles - hunter, gatherer, nurturer

I second 'Don't tell him it's easy.' And the one that got me into bottomless grief, 'Well, it was obvious, really.'

He obviously wanted to lord it over you and was pissed of that he couldn't!
I've got quite good general knowlege, better than DH as I'm more widely read - really! He is more analytical though. We have a healthy competition re Wordle and he loves to tell me when he's 'beaten' me (and vice versa) - although it is all lighthearted. TBH he's never got X/6 but I have a few times. He loves that!!

This absolutely. I am a retired clinician and used to manage clinicians who were better at the clinical speciality than I had ever been or could have been. My late husband was an exceptional motorcycle rider and car driver (volunteer trainer for RoSPA and the IAM) Why would someone else's natural skills and abilities annoy me? On the other hand as a teenager I tried archery via my school. I picked up a basic longbow and it was like I had always done it. Me the clumsy, slightly dyspraxic non sporty person! . I couldn't keep it up then because life intervened and now my neck and shoulders won't allow it but I still remember that feeling.

oh FFS you should have followed it up with "Grow up FFS"

I must have married a saint and be a saint myself then

Well you are godmum

First post nails it!