DP angry with me over University Challenge

[Teachingquestion]

I wish I was joking.
I don't really care about university challenge at all. DP likes it. He watches it and tries see how many he can score. Normally I am just sitting there/having a cuppa , watching rather than answering all the questions. I just don't find quizzes that interesting. Last night, he asked me to join in. I did and I got double his amount of points. He said "oh for fucks sake don't win now just because you've decided to "
I know this sounds really trivial, but he had this look of absolute disdain on his face. Like a deep resentment. I am intelligent and in a good job that uses it, but I was only able to do that due to a good school being concerned with social mobility. My parents are intelligent but undereducated (again social mobility issues) I have friends of all types of intelligence and although I'm proud of my achievements, it's not the biggest thing for me. Also whisper I don't think university challenge is that hard, most of the time it's quite general knowledge put in a wordy question.
Dunno what my AIbU is really, just want a rant!

My husband is also a huge UC fan and likes to ‘play along’. He even appeared on it many years ago. He would never, never behave in this way. He celebrates either of us getting a question right. That’s us, we - my role isn’t to make him feel good about himself, we’re a team.

I’m sorry OP, but your partner does not sound like a good man. Time for a watching brief - start looking closely at how he treats you in other situations. Now that your eyes have been opened, you may be surprised at what you notice.

and here’s an ick for your starter for ten…

How long have you been with him, OP? I'd keep an eye on this.

As an aside, it feels very early for UC to be back! The first rounds are always a fairly gentle start, I find. I'm counting down the days until Only Connect is back - next Monday, apparently!

Well I feel quite proud of myself if I get one question right 😊

Fragile male ego. I would have been really impressed not annoyed at your knowledge.

She clearly is intelligent. Why shouldn't she show it?

Sick of people trying to put intelligent women down for showing their cleverness.

Op, had your h always been a dick or just every once in a while?

Oh yes if we get some right on only connect we are so happy!

op he sounds an idiot and only you know if that behaviour is indicative of a wider problem. It does scream low self worth though which can bring up feelings of shame which one will do anything to get rid of rather than reflect that it’s not the other persons fault. Suppose what I am saying is that if hes not generally a twat then it’s probably not about his opinion of you/woman it’s about his opinion about himself?

I say this as I (a woman)can feel deep shame when I don’t know something, I have to watch myself getting cranky if husband or child laugh or say come on mum you must know that. His actions were unacceptable whatever the root cause of course.

My DH is really proud that I'm clever. It's one of the first things he tells people about me. I'd hate to be married to someone who wanted me to "hide my light under a bushel." It's weird OP, I hope yours makes up for it in other ways. Otherwise, top tip: second marriages are much better 💗😀

I'd keep an eye on that, OP. Personally I couldn't be with someone who thought I was dumb, or that I ought to be, or took themselves too seriously. DH and I are pretty even and both like quizzes and sometimes each will know different things.

We got exactly the same GCSE, A-Level and degree results in similar subjects and sometimes I gently ribbed him that I must be smarter as he went to a posh school and I didn't. But he laughed and didn't get cross about it.

He does get a bit put out when I beat him at tennis (rare) or mini golf (often) but soon laughs it off.

I couldn't spend my life with a sad specimen like him. My dh loves me being brainy and wants me to join in with UC. Seriously, don't stay with someone like this.
Oh and hi to the wee incel who's joined the chat. 😘

How pathetic of him!

I was horribly, horribly bullied at school for being clever and not hiding it. Nice to see that my bullies are still out there.

My son noticed I’m always looking things up on the internet. I said it’s a good thing, it means I’m curious. If I come across anything I don’t know I google it. It’s the one thing I really like about the internet.

He sounds insecure.

Why did you post that @Gardeninrags ?

Make sure you play along every episode from now on and rinse the thick twat.

@Teachingquestion dont do university challenge but i do take part in countdown and regularly win against both contestants. I have always loved the saying "I have forgotten more than you will ever know" and I think this might be true of peri brains!! uni challenge is too serious!!

Intelligence should be celebrated not something to be ashamed of, it’s why schools are full of kids trying to hide their intelligence for fear of being mocked.

Op, I google things multiple times a day and always think to myself 'I'd have had to go to the library for that when I was a kid' 😁. Isn't it amazing that all that knowledge is in our pockets now?

On another note, he must have previously shown some jealous traits before now? Is he educated to a similar level to you? Is he ultra competitive normally?

This is fantastic! One of the things I've found fun about the post-Google age is realising what all those references in the song lyrics, books and films I loved are. I often think about how we had no option in those days but to accept that we didn't know what some things meant. But you found a way! Genius.

Omg I almost want to laugh at him. What a twat.

LTB!!! Obviously I’m joking, he was probably expecting to win and got all pissy when you won.

It is silly, but University Challenge has caused some serious arguments between me and my dad. He answered something slightly wrong once and tried to put it as a point and I said “no way Paxman would allow that mate” and he got raging. Spent ages trying to fucking contact Jeremy Paxman.

And no, it’s not that hard. Only Connect.. now that’s for the real brainiacs. I normally let my dad win at UC because I’m a good daughter, but I have to show him who’s boss when it’s time for Only Connect.. proof my uni fees weren’t a waste of money. Play that together and see who wins, then they get bragging rights as smartest person in the house.

Not related at all to your question… but have you seen the medieval version on YouTube? (Bardcore) it’s very good.

I find UC hard because I can’t process the question fast enough, dyslexic brain, but I do enjoy it. My husband and I are mildly competitive with it, as in when we get a question right we gloat (every time lol)

I'm intelligent, curious and well-read. But I'm rubbish at University Challenge! I'm fine in my own subjects but am not interested in some others so my brain doesn't bother to retain that stuff. I think it's funny when I do really badly at UC. I wonder why OP's DP took it so personally?

Has he always been an unsufferable knob or is this a new thing?