To ask for the money back?

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Can’t decide if it’s embarrassing to ask! In the holidays I often take my kids friends on days out with us whilst their parents work. It works well on both sides- their kids get days out and I pick them up drop them off (they all work from home) and my kids have friends to play with. I’m more than happy to do this.

Its always been on the basis that they cover the costs for their kids- transfer ticket money and either bring a packed lunch or if they say they want they to have food out afterwards I let them know how much it cost and they transfer. Sometimes it’s cost me more for example if they bring packed lunches and they want ice creams but I don’t mind that.

It can all add up though as we go on quite a few days out - 1 a week so maybe 6 over the holidays. Last week the mum said she’d transfer after for her DS food - it came to about £15. I messaged her with the cost and she’s not transferred. Appreciate it’s £15 but it soon all adds up if I’m the one paying each time. Would you message again or just leave it? DH says leave it as it’s embarrassing but we don’t have lots of spare money and I have to plan the summer holidays to do this.

Embarrassing or ok to ask? Any suggestions how to do it going forward? Thanks

It should be embarrassing for HER, not your DH. She's probably forgotten and will appreciate you reminding her (while being mortified that you had to).

Nasty minded people? Lol, okay. All because I want to spend time with my own kids and don’t want the hassle of other people kids 😂 along with them forgetting to pay me. Along with free childcare…

'Hi Friend, Just noticed the £15 for Bobs lunch hasn't come through yet from last week, can you let me know when its done please. Looking forward to the next play date, will let you know arrangements'

YOU ARE NOT CHEEKY FOR ASKING FOR YOUR OWN MONEY BACK!

I think it's you who needs to learn to behave better. You're clearly a nasty minded person. It's really sad, people like you are the reason that some folks lives are harder than they need to be.

Jeez... maybe the woman simply forgot?

There is nothing to be embarrassed about with chasing, just a gentle reminder! Don’t need to justify the amount being chased or anything. She owes you money, simple as that and neither party should feel embarrassed

arghh - wrong thread. Sorry!

You’re really reaching with your attitude. Majority people prefer taking their own kids, some people have even commented this on this thread. I’m nasty because I want to only take my kids out, pay for them and spend time with them? All because I don’t want the hassle of someone else’s kids and them forgetting to pay me? Well, sorry for wanting to only spend time with my kids lol

Well you are doing her a massive bloody favour to start with! In future trips I would also say I about X say to cover the cost of ice creams and entrance .I would be asking for it upfront .Call me an old cynic ,but people often seem to "forget" to repay somehow.Also it needs finding from you first, which is unfair .I would say "Hi Jenny ,going to farm outing next week, Tom and Ellie welcome to come along .Just transfer me X amount if they want to come .Also dont seem to have payment from last time .Thanks "

Yes but you are not the OP are you? The OP actively enjoys taking other kids out as they are company to hers. Honestly, you sound like very very hard work.

How can she forget when she’s been messaged the amount and knows OP has taken her child out?

Then, she can continue doing that and not take my advice. She posted on a forum where people can comment with their own opinion.

I’m also replying to the comment where I got called “nasty minded”, hence I spoke about myself.

I agree, I’m saying this but getting called nasty minded lol the audacity of some people!

Very easily! People have lives.. honestly, you are sounding a bit deranged. And no, before you start going on about me obviously not paying people, that is not the case, I pay immediately because I DON'T WANT TO FORGET.

Okay lol

Oh my goodness - can you be my friend ?!

Are you 12? lol (who even uses that anymore, so cringe worthy)

I'm not reaching for anything. I think you are really. Wanting to spend time with your kids is nothing to do with what we were talking about. You automatically (and quite nastily) jumped to the conclusion that the woman is basically taking the piss. I pulled you up on that. I can't imagine how awful it must be to be around someone like you who automatically thinks and says the worst of everyone.

I'll let you go and enjoy your time with those kids of yours, I can't be bothered replying to you anymore, it's tedious. Have the afternoon that you deserve.

Cheeky fuckers absolutely rely on the fact that a lot of people are reluctant to ‘bother’ them for money etc

I honestly don’t care, that’s why said okay but you’re still popping off. Go for it!

I’m not even going to bother reading all that, but okay. Have a lovely day!

You have the afternoon you deserve.

Maybe tell her if she hasn’t sent it yet could she put it in this account instead- PayPal or another account?

if you don’t get it, it’s cost her more in the long run as I’m sure you won’t be taking her child again!

Don’t say this because you’ll get called nasty minded like I did by two PP’s 😊 (I agree with you)