Was my BBQ hosting ‘stingy’ as my friend has suggested

[SingingJess]

DH and I hosted a couple of friends last night - we usually go out for dinner etc but with the nice weather agreed we would host a BBQ which they were very much up for. We exchanged messages in the week on what we’d cook and any drink preferences.

Here is the issue:

-Friend (wife) asked me where the food was from. I said most of it was Tesco’s finest BBQ range (we had a mix of chicken, burgers etc - it wasn’t cheap). She called this ‘not a bad budget option’ and said that when they do a BBQ, they raid the local farm shop. I’m sure that’s lovely, but also out of our budget.

-One of the drink requests was for flavoured gin which the husband likes. Now my DH also likes gin, and we have a lot of bottles here. So rather than spend money on a new bottle, we put out the gin that we have. Friend (wife) whilst in the kitchen with me pointed out a bottle of gin from Lidl and casually said that I ‘can’t expect her husband to touch something from there’.

-Later in the evening, she told me she thought it was a bit stingy of us to ‘recycle’ gin we already have rather than buy a new bottle for the occasion.

They both said thanks at the end of the night for us hosting and for the food, but I got the impression they were unimpressed.

My question is - was I being tight or do you not see an issue in us not investing in a brand new bottle of something we already had plenty of?

Surely your response was Fuck Off. Ungrateful cow

They sound like snobs and also completely classless and vulgar to act like that towards their hosts. I wouldn't want to see them again.

Sorry but she sounds entitled, ungrateful and lacking decent manners. I wouldn't be inviting them again.

If you have gone out of your way, to invite them to your home, at your expense and they can't even be polite, then they are not friends and to be honest, for all her airs and graces, she lacks common decency and respect.

You don't need to buy a new bottle of gin when you have lots already and if they want something specific, they can bring it themselves.

Sorry but I would not be entertaining them again.

You have been a gracious host and they have been rude.

Your friend disgraced herself.

Your BBQ sounds lovely.

Sounds like snooty bitch tbh!

And isn't the etiquette usually that everybody brings something for the bbq?

Well they sure sound fun. I wouldn’t waste any more evenings, burgers or booze on them. Pretentious pricks.

Oh, just be quiet Hyacinth. You're embarrassing yourself.

She's not your friend

Everyone uses open bottles for bbqs why would you open a new one ?

Here in Ireland everyone brings their own alcohol!

Your friends are twats.

Crikey! I wouldn’t be inviting them again. How rude! No, I don’t think you were stingy at all. Your friend however, needs to learn some manners.

The friends can't be terribly posh. If they were, their years at boarding school would have enabled them to eat almost anything without complaint. But your food sounds fine. I have never had a guest ask the provenance of the food I served.

They wouldn’t be my friends any longer, rude arseholes.

I do BBQ’s all the time, and go to many. You just go and eat what’s on offer, don’t critique and if you feel your specific dietary needs won’t be met, take something appropriate with you. If you want something specific to drink, then you take it yourself (and off to share🤣), otherwise be gracious and have what’s on offer without comment.

If you're going to be snobby about the food and drinks on offer at a BBQ you've been kindly invited to, you should bring things yourself as a contribution.

No reason they couldn't have brought a bottle, or some meat from the local butchers if they cared so much.

They sound really unpleasant and I wouldn't host them again.

This.

Of course they were rude

Can't believe you have to ask. Do you struggle with low self esteem?

Send them a Link to this thread

I’m convinced they are made by Edinburgh gin for them

To be honest I really don’t like the pre-marinated meats designed for bbqs that the supermarkets do. I’d rather buy the fresh meat and do my own seasoning/marinade. That said, I’d be grateful for any food that someone else prepared for me and would say nothing that wasn’t complimentary.

I do think people who will only drink specific thing need to just being it with them though.

Your friend sounds like an arsehole.

The phrase 'dragged up' springs to mind. How can people be so horribly rude?
Enjoy the rest of the summer with bbqs and nicer friends.

There was nothing wrong with your food choices OP and as for the ‘recycled gin’………who does this person think she is???? What is the point of buying a new bottle of gin when there’s plenty in the house? Some people are so bloody entitled!
They are NOT genuine friends OP, do not invite them ever again!

There was nothing wrong with your food choices OP and as for the ‘recycled gin’………who does this person think she is???? What is the point of buying a new bottle of gin when there’s plenty in the house? Some people are so bloody entitled!
They are NOT genuine friends OP, do not invite them ever again!

Rude!

They obviously don’t sell manners in the ‘local farm shop’…

what a rude and ill-mannered "friend".

Don't invite them again.

Off-topic but who drinks gin with barbecued food? Mad flavour combination.

Your friends are cunts. Barbecue THEM.

Jaysus.

Awful if they said it behind your back - but actually to your face! What a nerve.

Anhyoo,your BBQ sounded lovely.I'll happy join next time 🤣