Page 4 | Nursery hand over comment. Would you complain?

monkeysox · 13/07/2025 07:50

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Omg. Imagine what she's going to be like at school. The parent, not the child. Ffs

AD1996 · 13/07/2025 07:53

I have a 3.5 DS, full of attitude so no I wouldn’t be making a complaint I would be trying to fix said attitude (which I am currently doing) your friend is the problem.

Moglet4 · 13/07/2025 07:54

Nope. 3 year olds can have a terrible attitude and are old enough to be admonished for it.

3teens2cats · 13/07/2025 07:55

It's actually quite difficult to word these things sometimes if you want the parents to understand that their child has actually behaved badly. Too much fluff about 'unkind words' and 'not making the best choices' can minimise things and dilute what you are trying to say. 3/4 year old are rude sometimes because that's the stage of development they are at. So for them to feel it's bad enough to raise it they must have been pretty awful. So your friend is better to focus on that.

Hippee · 13/07/2025 07:57

slashlover · 13/07/2025 01:51

The next 15 years are going to be fun. Is she a PFB?

Agree. So pleased that I will have retired by the time they hit secondary. Already see far too much entitlement in some of our kids at school.

WimpoleHat · 13/07/2025 07:58

Viviennemary · 13/07/2025 00:15

Well it's a bit kinder than annoying brat.

Exactly!

Yes, the wording is a bit casual - but I’d bet the underlying sentiment is that the child has been rude and uncooperative. Not everyone is comfortable with such direct criticism, so “attitude” is a cover for it. Fair enough for friend to ask for clarification as to what exactly was meant, but I wouldn’t see cause for complaint.

Lilactimes · 13/07/2025 08:00

god I would be mortified that my dc had behaved in such a way the nursery needed to point it out to me. I’d be wanting to discuss with them how to make things better.

TaranFollt · 13/07/2025 08:05

I think your friend is focusing on the word 'attitude' as a distraction. If another word was used, I'm minded to think that she would've pounced on that to complain. Your friend seems upset with the nursery for mentioning that the daughter's behaviour is an issue. This upset has been turned back on the nursery worker as a form of attack/ defence.
If the word 'attitude' had been absent, we'd all be talking about another word in this thread.
This is essentially about your friend not being able to take feedback. She's marking her territory. This could lead to other nursery workers being reticent to mention your friend's child's behaviour in the future. It may not be worth the hassle for them. Maybe your friend sort of knows this.

penmanship · 13/07/2025 08:06

OP, I have had to deal with 'those parents' before. I always wondered how they managed to hold down jobs and friendships etc with such an entitled attitude. What is she actually like as a friend? Do you have to tiptoe around her and always do what she wants?

ShesTheAlbatross · 13/07/2025 08:07

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Oh dear. I feel sorry for this child’s future teachers.

My 3 year old can definitely sometimes have an attitude and I’d be fine with the nursery telling me that. I want to know if my children are being unkind or rude.

Flutterbees · 13/07/2025 08:09

cadburyegg · 13/07/2025 00:23

Ha ha ha ha ha

If that was my child I’d be mortified at their behaviour, not complaining about the use of the word “attitude”

if the parent can’t see the problem they are the problem

This

Waterbaby41 · 13/07/2025 08:09

You can see where the child gets her 'attitude' from!

Cucy · 13/07/2025 08:18

Lilactimes · 13/07/2025 08:00

god I would be mortified that my dc had behaved in such a way the nursery needed to point it out to me. I’d be wanting to discuss with them how to make things better.

I completely agree.

Sounds like the mum knows her DC is a bit of a brat and so instead of apologising and working ok her behaviour, she’s deflecting and trying to turn it around.

Bikergran · 13/07/2025 08:22

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Sounds like she's the one with the attitude!

EquinoxQueen · 13/07/2025 08:24

Let’s be honest, a nursery worker giving that feedback suggests that the 3 year old had a bit more of an attitude that day. Most parents would apologise and ask what the issue had been expecting specific examples. I think k it says a lot about your friend that they felt the need to complain, but that seems to be the society we are living in with such entitlement and little empathy for those who work to provide services to them.

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 13/07/2025 08:24

Sounds like the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree.

Bunnycat101 · 13/07/2025 08:35

Your friend is being ridiculous. Children need boundaries and behaviour management. Our nursery was always excellent at behaviour management- much better then school as staffing ratio was much higher.

ChloeCannotCanCan · 13/07/2025 08:35

No, I wouldn’t complain at all. I might ask for a bit more clarification on the what exactly they were doing so I could address the behaviour with my child.

JaneEyre40 · 13/07/2025 08:36

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:11

Btw I’m not the parent. Or the nursery practitioner.

If your child was handed over to you, and the practitioner said ‘’we’ve had to have a chat with childs name today, as she hasn’t been using kind words to staff and has had a bit of an attitude’’. Would this be something you’d complain the manager about, the use of the word ‘attitude’? The child is 3.

I'd have a word with the child... obviously

JaneEyre40 · 13/07/2025 08:37

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Absolutely ridiculous.

Supergirl1958 · 13/07/2025 08:38

100% NOT complaint worthy!
We are raising a generation of children who will never be disciplined by their parents and who will see fit to complain when educators discipline them. As educators, we will then be expected to apologise for doing the right thing. Then children will be raised to think that they don’t have be accountable for their actions at all. One of the many reasons I’m getting out of teaching!

Thedoorisalwaysopen · 13/07/2025 08:39

Not hard to see where the 3 year old gets it from is it?
School is going to be fun

Jamesblonde2 · 13/07/2025 08:39

Good grief, here’s a grip. Stop with the complaining mantra.

Brokenforsummer · 13/07/2025 08:39

CopperWhite · 13/07/2025 00:16

Your friend sounds like a nightmare parent who is going to raise a brat.

Yep. The issue here is the child calling the staff names. I would want to know what she had been saying and exactly how she was behaving so I could talk to my child about it.

Couldyounot · 13/07/2025 08:41

Evelyynn · 13/07/2025 00:15

It’s my friends child. She’s basically said that she’s put in a complaint to the manager about the wording. And has scheduled a parents evening with the room leader as she’s not happy about it at all

Oh, she is going to absolutely adore primary school