Nursery hand over comment. Would you complain?

[Evelyynn]

Btw I’m not the parent. Or the nursery practitioner.

If your child was handed over to you, and the practitioner said ‘’we’ve had to have a chat with childs name today, as she hasn’t been using kind words to staff and has had a bit of an attitude’’. Would this be something you’d complain the manager about, the use of the word ‘attitude’? The child is 3.

Well I guess at least now the nursery knows where child gets her attitude from

So to take the light away from her daughters behaviour she's turning it around on how the nursery worded it, how about your friend parents her daughter and teaches her manners and respect.

Oh wow things are only going to get worse if they are offended by this.

I was told by nursery that DD at 1 was taking food from other children and I immediately thought it was something I would have to work on rather than take offence at what had been said.

Three especially closer to four can have “attitude”.
I hope your friend has back up child care plans.

How else should she have phrased it? The word 'attitude' is fairly neutral, imo. If the child has been behaving poorly, it has to be brought up somehow. Parents who imagine or pretend that their little angels can do no wrong and are somehow incapable of poor behaviour (or that poor behaviour should be ignored) until they're older (and what's the magical age? 5? even older?) are doing their children a disservice.

What? Why would you complain? Patents need to be told that their dear little golden toes is actually a complete shit.

Complain about what? I would presume they see enough children to take it as a suggestion and if this was my child i would listen

Your friend is overreacting. Of course the child should be pulled up on her attitude and what exactly were the unkind words ? Oh hang on, just ignore her bad behaviour !!!

Call me pedantic, but I don't like the neutral word "attitude" being used on its own to mean "bad attitude". It's one of many lazy Americanisms now sadly found in widespread usage.

It takes all of a second to add a qualifying adjective or two.

And this is why we have the kids we do today. Feeling sorry already for school/teachers when they arrive. It’s goi g to be a nightmare for them.

As a former nursery worker and a mum of an attitude riddled 3 year old...she's definitely over reacting

I definitely would NOT complain. Absolutely ridiculous.

“A bit of attitude” is fine.
She could have complained with “she’s been a complete brat/ a bloody nightmare/ what a monster you’re raising”. But it seems she gets her “bit of attitude” from mum.

Definitely complain. Too vague. ‘Obnoxious arsehole’ would mean I’m much clearer that the child has been a complete pain all day.

No I wouldn’t have complained to the manager I would have taken my child home and reinforced the message with them there. This is a big part of the reason why childcare is so difficult though. Parents like this who think their children are angels and make a fuss about criticism rather than try to work with the nursery.

This….. And this is why schools and child care facilities are low in staff…. Instead of being mortified that the child was being rude she’s got a hump about the word attitude….

OP what word would she have preferred self entitled madam perhaps?

It isn't going to be good attitude when paired with unkind words though is it?

Aren't 3 year olds basically made up of snot, attitude with a layer of sticky glitter? They're lucky they're cute 😂

Oh gosh , let’s hope your friend comes to her senses before she makes herself a talking point almost the staff . Attitude is a polite way to say she’s been a little devil today . Hopefully Mum can find out what her daughter did , so she can help the nursery staff going forward. Definitely not complaint worthy.

Good grief, they’ll need to buckle-up before they get to school…. Did you tell your friend she sounds like a moron?

I would complain to myself for not having taught my DC manners and treating others with respect.

While I would suggest that the word 'attitude' is probably not professional, it is worth remembering the person doing the handover has just worked a shift with small children, which is quite tiring, and may be a tad weary, and not in a place at that moment to find the right word.

So your friend is creating an entitled brat. I feel sorry for the child and her teachers in the future.

Well, context is everything, and that same sentence could have been said in two very different ways.

But generally, the level of self-censorship that some people expect from people working with children is unachievable, and unhelpful. If you want them to vet every single word that comes out of their mouths as though they're composing a political speech in front of the world's press, then you're going to have to pay them more than minimum wage.

Of course, people who work with children should fundamentally like children - if they're actually pissed off with a 3yo being a 3yo then that's not OK. But they shouldn't be dragged over the coals every time a parent takes umbrage about the exact wording they've used to describe how they've gently corrected some difficult behaviour.

Takes one to know one.