Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day

[JadeHoliday]

We had a two day work ‘away trip’ last week where one of the bonding things was going to an indoor swimming complex with slides etc. Really fun!

When I got back from this, my partner said ‘you didn’t wear a bikini did you’- which I said I obviously did.

He thinks that’s disrespectful and I should have worn a swim suit ‘rather than have my arse out in front of colleagues’(!)

I told him he can’t control what I wear and he got the hump. He thinks I was trying to make myself attractive and impress colleagues..

Would you say I should have ‘covered up’ or is he being unreasonable

I'm slightly fascinated by those thong bikini bottoms. I can't imagine clambering onto a waterslide at risk of showing the world my arsehole.

A thong!!! <<clutches pearls and faints>>

We can’t even get our work team to go out to the pub, so a day in a waterpark with colleagues is blowing my mind.

Having said that, just re the thong bikinis, I do think that’s possibly a generational thing. Was away at the weekend on a girls trip abroad. Our group of 40 somethings wouldn’t even consider baring our backsides, despite still being reasonably glam and wearing bikinis, but most of the younger ladies/under 25s we saw did. My own daughter wears some fairly skimpy (to my mind) bikinis too. Not for me though, despite having a fairly well toned bum. 🤣🤣🤣

You wore a bikini with thong bottoms to a WORK event?

Your partner has a point. Personally, I think it's unprofessional to have your arse out in front of your colleagues. Especially in combination with your stomach and tits.

You can of course wear anything you like. Other people's discomfort or interest is not your concern. And you'd merrily wear a thong bikini to the beach without anyone batting an eyelid.

But I don't think your partner is being unreasonable to question your judgement re wearing one at a work event. Is there a reason you wanted to show them all your arse?

never mind the workplace etiquette on swimwear.

a swimming event requiring employees to wear swimwear during a work event...

Who wrote and signed off the HR policy / RA on that one?

Grim and inappropriate ( that’s because I’m a 54 year old grumpy arse 🤣)

OP, are you in a position of seniority? If so, if you have to pick up colleagues up on their performance etc, all they will be thinking of, is you in a thong bikini! 🤷‍♀️

Gosh, whether or not this is a thing which happened the very idea of turning up to a work event and finding colleagues' arses out all over the place is a bit much!

Hmmm. Well I do think it’s your body your choice really. People have their own opinions, I wouldn’t put my body on show and that’s my choice. I don’t think your husband gets to tell you what to wear, but he can equally wear what he wants.
If other women were wearing stuff like that in front of my husband i wouldn’t like it I don’t think. I guess however that’s my problem. That’s my honest answer.

I changed my vote because at first I didn't think you were being unreasonable, but then I saw it was a thong bikini. I hate them. I don't want to see people's arses and tbh think they should be banned in public.

Same. It's a bit sad.

Thanking god I’m not in a young office!! Although even when I was I wouldn’t think a swimming based bonding day was at all appropriate for a work event for a whole host of reasons. And based on experience I don’t think a skimpy bikini is a great choice for things staying in place when on a water slide. Your husband isn’t wrong on this one in my opinion.

They were likely uncomfortable, jealous, or insecure about how revealing or attention-grabbing the swimwear was.

A thong bikini is mega inappropriate for a work event. I can't actually believe anyone would not realise this.

Well you are particuarly brave for wearing a thong bikini to a work event 😂 i salute your body positivity.
But yeah, I kind of agree that it was prkbably innapropriate to wear a thong with your whole work there. Well depends where tou work, my work is 90 percent older males, I really wouldnt want them all seeing my arse.
If you work in a salon with women and gay men then not really an issue.

Jesus this is exactly the kind of behaviour that has seeped into the workplace over the last five years and was the reason why people were handed dress codes previously.

Unbelievable that it needs saying you shouldn’t have your arse out in front of colleagues. But it does

I’m not sure that I believe that a work place really had an event where people had to wear a swimming costume. If they did I aM horrified by the thought.

A bit odd wearing a thong bikini on a work event but a regular bikini would have been absolutely fine

But also a thing bikini totally inappropriate

Agree, it's gross. I hate seeing peoples bums, male or female. Luke I don't want to see any mans package in a speedo, or look inside peoples ears.

Thongs, anyway, let alone in a work situation like you describe as come across as attention seeking. but everyone to their own, everyone has an opinion on it.
Agree with dh on that but the bikini comment was off. It is your choice what you wear.

Putting aside wearing a thong to a work event, who is stupid enough to wear one to a waterpark on slides 😂

1. What's being in your 30s got to do with anything?

1. What was everyone else wearing ?

Oops.

Pressed YANBU before I read the follow up that it was one of those grim thong bikinis.

I’m not normally a pearl-clutcher but a WORK event at a swimming pool is all kinds of wrong!! I wouldn’t want to see my female OR male colleagues in any form of swimwear and I wouldn’t want them to see me either. I’d feel really vulnerable and I can’t think of anything less professional.

You are entitled to wear whatever you want but I would suggest working on your own worth if having your arse out at a work event is the only way you can get attention.