Nearly 18 year old won’t look after Ddog whilst DH and I go away

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DH and I want to go away for our big wedding anniversary, asked our 17 year old (nearly 18) if they wanted to come. They weren’t keen and would prefer to go to the snow with mates later in the year.
So we’ve started to make plans, now they are saying they don’t think they can look after Ddog because is too tying, and that a kennel would be better, means they’ll miss out on social events and overtime at work if they need to be back to walk her etc (noting they never do overtime at their part time job currently)
AIBU to think they are taking the piss and at nearly an adult should be helping with our family dog, not sacking her off to kennels (which she’s never been in) then still expecting us to fund the trip for them in exchange for our holiday!

Not providing money for holiday is not " punishment " it is realistically reevaluating your finances.....fun times vs. Dog contentment.......that is a natural consequence of life. Pay plenty for a good sitter for your dog. You sound like a lovely parent but give a bit less and he will give you a bit more. And avoid giving him expectations of getting lots of stuff on request set the bar much lower and he may well jump higher

I agree. The dog is obviously much 'dearer' than the son. Seems a huge over-reaction to me. Frankly, if my parents had done that to me when I was that age and I had to move out of my home for the sake of the dog, I wouldn't have come back. Come to think of it, I did dog sit for a while at that age but our relationship was quite different. I loved the dog to bits, was going to be at home for the summer, volunteered, and enjoyed having the house + dog to myself for a bit. But I don't think it's worth so much fuss and bother!

Send dogs to kennels (they probably be safer there) and don't pay for their holiday.
Teach them that being unpleasant and entitled has consequences.