To want to nip this in the bud ( LGBTQ views , child )

[Calmorchaos]

I’m after some advice really on how to approach this.

I have always been the type of person to support anyone to be who they are. I’ve never shied away or shielded my children from the world - very much a ‘love is love’ person and always encouraged my children to support those who need it and be inclusive ( in terms of people being bullied , disabilities etc too ) .

My youngest is going into high school ( 11 ) . Over the past few months I’ve noticed a few comments such as “ there are 2 genders “ , “ I don’t support LGBTQ “ . I’ve addressed this in the moment . But recently he found out his new school has an LGBTQ assembly on a monthly basis and he has started saying he doesn’t want to go because “ he doesn’t support it” . I sat down and had a chat with him , I explained to him that it isn’t really his place to choose to not agree with it - it’s not a choice , i explained it as he could say he doesn’t agree with people eating meat as that is a choice he would be making , but someone’s sexuality is their feelings and not a choice.

I am sure comments will allow me to explain more how the conversation went from my side so I won’t drag this post on with that but his comments were unnerving :

• he believes someone chooses to be gay , they can control it but they choose it
• we can choose who we fall in love with
• if a friend of his told him he was gay he would still be friends with them but not as good because they chose to be gay and he doesn’t support it.

I know he is very young and he doesn’t understand and has things to learn. He is the sweetest boy and the way he said these things sounded scripted as though he has heard others say this . I know he is a child and it’s my job that guide him and that’s the advice I’m asking for , how do I address this? I’m not saying I need him to go around advocating I just don’t want these views becoming ingrained and he becomes the reason another student who is struggling, struggles more. I know I may be overreacting but this age and as the years go on is a time that he can be heavily influenced . He’s a quiet, sweet boy and I do believe he could be heavily influenced.

Another concerning thing is that when I asked him where he had heard all this and where it comes from he said his Dad .

Is that not allowed?

I am not trans.

Thank you. Noted. Again, I apologise for my mixup.

Did I say that?

You seem to be the one complaining that I’m posting.

This, this, this.

The other posters is just ranting obsessive nonsense. Talk to your son OP, there has been some good advice in amongst the anti trans lecturing and preaching.

Exactly. Obsession.

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You are saying 'obsession' as if that's an insult.

It is when it’s pushed on others over and again, completely takes over a conversation and people have said they’re not interested and asked for it to stop several times .

Good advice.

Obsession isn't good. It's an unhealthy psychological state.

There was some good advice in there, for sure:

"The ideology around ‘gender’, identity, and sex based stereotypes is a totally different conversation to that around sexual orientation."

An unhealthy psychological state = thinking giving off label drugs to kids with no evidence is a good thing.

Not wanting teenagers to be mutilated or sterilised = perfectly normal behaviour.

What are you talking about, not what this thread is about.

Repeating it, regardless of the actual topic under discussion, to the total lack of interest of everyone you're talking at, and doing it on an endless loop despite others totally ignoring or refusing to engage in debate with you, isn't healthy. It's AI gone mad. And at least AI would vary its vocabulary and syntax.

Precisely.

I am a teacher and have been for ten years, where are these activist teachers you speak of?

Does he have a smart phone or other means of access to online misogynistic sites? That would be a big concern for me (as you’ve already pointed out, it’s a worry where these type of views could lead). I would be very closely monitoring what he has access to online. As the mother of daughters this age I have been witnessing the emergence of the next generation of misogynists in my daughter’s year group for the last few years now sadly.

Probably in every school! How else would the various LGBT groups gain access to schools? For example the Stonewall School Champion scheme

the stonewall stuff was really good for LGB a few years ago up til very recently actually so thats just mental bullshit. The teachers running these groups aren’t trying to make all children in them trans are they.

"Activist teachers" doesn't equal "trying to make all the children trans". I would have thought that went without saying.
But they have bought into the ideology of gender identity, which had a very hard sell via Stonewall so I don't entirely blame them. I do think they are selling a lie to vulnerable people though.

"Mental bullshit" 😃 I'm becoming less convinced you're actually a teacher

Have you ever met a teacher?

What do you mean? Do you mean that 2025 looks to teenagers as if being gay is a bad thing? I'm Gen Z & that's not the impression I have at all.

So do you believe that most young people now, or at least boys, think that people should not choose to have gay relationships if they feel attracted to people of the same sex? Why do you think they think this?

Think its fair to say that you're probably not going to get a sensible answer out of someone who thinks that "not agreeing" with homosexuality, and having prejudicial attitudes towards gay people, is not homophobic.