Aware of Head Teacher and Teacher affair

[GlitterGold7]

Name changed for this. I’ve become aware that the HT of my DC’s primary school is having an affair with one of the teachers. Both are married.

Would you do anything with this information? It feels utterly morally bankrupt that the HT is abusing his position like this, and I feel so sorry for the partners involved.

What two consenting do together is none of anyone else’s business! They don’t work for you !

*adults

What would I do? Maybe write a thriller about it? 😆Otherwise, enjoy the gossip.

like this!

This makes no sense though in the real world. By this logic, teachers could be committing adultery with people outside of the school and still be reprehensible and unworthy of their role. Plus plenty of the DC's parents will have had affairs, split up and be living in all kinds of arrangements with other partners. Does that mean their kids can't trust them or look up to them etc etc. Marital infidelity is none of the OP's business when its impact is limited to this pair being seen at a motorway service station. That's not breaking any covenant relevant to pupils.

Teacher affairs are more common than you think..

And why would the teacher be thinking of " their next shag" rather than getting on with their work? Is that how you spend your time at work? Thinking about your next shag?

You sound absolutely vile. None of your business but aren't you just delighted to have something to pontificate about?

That's possibly a very late change. I'm a university lecturer and we have all been instructed to undertake mandatory training ahead of new laws, introduced this year, which make employers responsible for doing everything possible to avoid instances of harrassment or sexually inappropriate behaviour in the workplace. (And it's interesting that they're only now doing it because they're being made to do it. When I was on the receiving end things were not at all funny for me).

New policy sets out clear directions as to conflicts of interest and power differentials. Thereby, I can have an affair with a colleague on a similar grade to my own without repercussion. A Head of Department would be a different matter. This would have to be disclosed, and whilst not illegal or a direct conflict of policy it would be strictly frowned upon.

If this is the case at the school in question then it's a matter for them to sort out. Policy will differ from place to place. But school gate gossip I'd consider strictly beyond my remit and this affair precisely none of my business. It's between consenting adults and has no safeguarding implications for children - on these grounds at least.

I can't bear gossip - it's toxic, tawdry and rarely leads to anything good for the gossips, much less the target.

Unless you are the one that actually saw them (and it doesn't sound as though you were) then you telling anyone about it is just spreading gossip tbh.

head teacher
deputy head teacher
principal teachers

all levels

Ahh…. So now you’ve hit the nail on the head. She’s a slaaaag and he’s old enough to know better.

You don’t really know anything about them or their situation, but have fun gossiping and getting caught up in the drama.

Get. A. Life

Obviously an affair is wrong, but why would a teacher having an affair be any more preoccupied about their next shag than a teacher who's in the early stages of an exciting new relationship?

And if there's no outcome you're seeking, what is the point of doing anything?

Never known a headteacher send a letter home to Johnny's mum telling her off for screwing Madison's dad after the pub the weekend before.

Please share if you know this happens.

I'm chair of a LGB and yes we'd want to be aware of this. It's in our code of conduct that any member of the SLT who enters into a relationship with another member of staff should make us aware so that we can put procedures into place to ensure the other person isn't treated more or less favourably because of the relationship.

It being an affair is neither here nor there, and not our business.

I have always told the partners when I have found out about an affair. Some to their face and some anonymously.

I would want someone to do the same for me.

Morally I could never sit on that info, knowing they are going home and potentially being sexually intimate with their oblivious spouses. Absolutely vile

Bog all to do with you.

You didn't keep your legs closed - you had a child.

So maybe you aren't the right person to care for your own child if you think that any woman who has had sex is not a decent person to educate and care for a child.

Only the Head 'got away with it'? Doesn't it take two to tango?

🙄I guess are both are consenting adults and unless their affair is being conducted in the classroom during a biology lesson it is their business.
Not doubt a lot of the parents already know through gossip true or otherwise.
Do everyone concerned a favour and keep thy beak out of other peoples business.

None of your business and no actual proof so leave well alone. If there's 'historic suspicions' then clearly the staff are well aware and the onus is on them to report it as it concerns them, not gossipy parents.

At DC school the female HT had an affair with a female teacher who was married (to a guy who is on the school funding board). HT then dropped this affair to hook up with the newest teacher at the school. Pretty appalling behaviour imo but didn't affect either DC or the school in generals performance. Therefore, of no concern to me.

Loving this response Feta, you totally rock!