AIBU to be disappointed about this?

[mrsm43s]

Later this week, on my birthday, we're doing a long train journey to visit friends for a few days. Whenever we do these long journeys, we always book them over lunchtime, and do a "train picnic" of nice food e.g afternoon tea style and share some prosecco or anti pasta style and share some red. It means that our trip starts when we get in the train, and the journey flies by.

DH booked the train tickets, and he just accepted the default seating rather than selecting seats, and as a consequence we're stuck on a middle and aisle seat with no table. So lunch is pretty much going to be a sarnie and a bottle of water as there's no table space, the journey is going to be long, boring and uncomfortable, squashed in next to a stranger.

We've tried to change seats now, but as it's a couple of days away, there's no availability of seats at a table, and no availability in first class either.

I feel like instead of my birthday starting at 11.30am once we're on the train, it's not going to start until 3pm when we arrive, and the journey is something to be tolerated, rather than something to be enjoyed.

I don't want to be spoilt, and I get that I'm going to have a lovely time with my friends, but I'm really grumpy and disappointed. I think it's mostly because DH has form for this kind of stuff, always taking the quick, easy way, and never checking anything.

AIBU to be pissed off? And does anyone have any ideas of how to make the journey more fun, or special/treat lunch ideas possible to eat when sitting in a cramped middle seat?

Well I guess that if I popped the cheese meat and tomato inside some bread slices, had the crisps in individual bags, added some fruit, and called it a "meal deal" it would instantly become less stinky and rustly, even though its exactly the same stuff!

It is true. Men are shit at organising stuff - unless it suits them.

Get advice on how to revoke the loan
then kick him out, what a waste of space to have as a partner

Cancel the cheque!

This thread must indicate what a load of insignificant gash a table picnic on a train is. Hell is other people.

Book, podcast, cocktail tins and fuck em all. Have a great journey.

Eh?
🫣

Just.stop.

👍. Thanks for your input.

Ha ha. Well no actually. Still stinky but slightly less so as it would be in packaging and not all laid out.

Maracas to rustle, and some sambuca, definitely need shots to wash your smelly spread down

This really is a very first world problem.

This post has made me realise that I’m either oblivious or skanky or weird
don’t mind
train picnics
train drinking
train dogs on tables or seats
laptops
elbows

but people listening to loud utube on phones with no headphones gives me the rage

horses (or Shetland ponies) for courses

Oh dear. If it makes you feel better you have learned a new phrase today - straw man. Your phrase for today is straw man, but you haven't actually learned what it means as you're still using the straw man fallacy.

You're talking to yourself. Responding to nobody at all and nothing I have said. It's so strange.

Suggestion - go back to my original post and only reply to what I said. Otherwise, just don't reply at all as nothing you have added has been relevant to my comment.

I mean, you do you, obviously, but I will just keep pointing out that nothing you have said is relevant to my comment. Shrug. You do you.

Ignore them they clearly don’t know how to have fun and are just jealous.

I always find it so odd when "they're just jealous" is dusted off in response to people not liking a thing or a person. It's very much something teenage girls tell their friends to comfort them.

You don't really believe that, do you? I mean, surely you don't really believe that - it's just that you're angry other people disgagree with your point of view and want to shut them down, right?

Otherwise, boy, have I got earth shattering news for you.

There's a thing called theory of mind, which means being able to put yourself in another person's shoes and imagine their reasons for things. A lot of people on mumsnet would benefit from learning about it.

Women (and men I daresay) often dislike other people's behaviour for a multitude of reasons and it's pretty rarely jealousy. I'm sorry if this is a big shock to you.

Thank you for your input.

Got to say, I think that most folk would probably prefer dogs on the floor at owners feet. Bare arses on tables isn't exactly ideal. I don't think OP is taking a dog, but should any be travelling they may wish they were sitting next to all her 'smelly' meat.

And we managed to grab a table in Carriage C, and we enjoyed a lovely lunch, without offending anyone!

Fantastic 🙂
Happy Birthday 🎂

@mrsm43s That look fabulous OP - and despite all the acerbic comments, you've even kept to your "half" of the table. 😂 Hope you're having a great day!

Happy Birthday!
I hope you have a good journey and visit with your friends.
Will you be munching, gulping, slurping, etc on the return journey. I do hope so 🤗

I’m calling British Transport Police

Nah, I'm afraid that was perspective. We were a good 3" our side of the mid point.
They may, however, have been interested in the Shetland Pony that Mumsnet totally told me I was allowed to take. I mean, it didn't meet the size requirements, but I would have happily paid excess baggage...

Brilliant! Well done!! Glad it worked out.

😂 Didn't you study art at school? Surely you understand how "perspective" works? i.e. where parallel lines appear wider closer to the observer and seem to converge the further away into a vanishing point. (Think about standing on a straight train track where the rails run either side of where you're standing, but if you look into the distance the two rails appear to converge.) Your drawn line has completely ignored this rule of perspective (it should have come out to the right at the bottom of the photo, not to the left).

@mrsm43s please photoshop a picture of a Shetland pony on the train......