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Michael Jackson was a paedophile. Why does the local school choose one of his songs for the kids to perform to?

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P0d · 05/07/2025 08:36

I also have a friend whose little boy has learnt all his moves and she puts MJ on for him to dance to.

I don’t understand, hearing his music makes me feel sick.

OP posts:
HonestOpalHelper · 05/07/2025 09:47

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 05/07/2025 08:45

Perhaps the art is more important than the artist?
I enjoy Wagner's Operas - yet Wagner had appallingly anti-Semitic views.
Everyone uses Gill Sans font - yet Eric Gill was completely amoral and had sex with his daughters and his dog.

It's also not just about art.
Hugo Boss designed the NAZI uniforms for the SS and used forced labour in WW2
Don't even start on VW cars.

What else do you ban?

Edited

Exactly, Eric Gill was a really nasty piece of work, yet his typeface is widely used as is the London Underground typeface that he assisted in the design of.

And Fanta, everyones favourite orange soft drink was a Nazi creation due to a shortage of Coca Cola.

Even Zyklon B didn't get a name change until 1979 when it was re named Cyanosil. An advert from its makers in '78 proudly showed technicians clad in gas masks and white suits opening cans of Zyklon in Notre Dame to eradicate a woodworm infestation.

Then of course there is the huge number of pharmaceuticals that got accelerated testing in the death camps and are now medical staples.

With respect to MJ, he was never convicted, he was a musical genius, and is dead, you have to disconnect the music from the man.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 09:47

x2boys · 05/07/2025 09:34

I don't think it was ever acceptable to sleep with small children that were not related to you.

It used to be common to marry at 12 ...

MasterBeth · 05/07/2025 09:48

PansyPotter84 · 05/07/2025 08:46

I don’t think being dead has anything to do with it.

I think there’s a difference between the likes of Jimmy Savile etc against whom there were so many credible allegations and Michael Jackson, who was a tad eccentric against whom a few allegations were made that didn’t stand up to scrutiny.

Knowing what you know about him now, would you let your 7 year old child spend the night with the "eccentric" Michael Jackson?

boxcutter12 · 05/07/2025 09:49

And for people above asking "where do you draw the line"? I would say anyone who has victims who are still alive and suffering is a pretty good place to start.

Loki64 · 05/07/2025 09:50

I find it more baffling when people think he was innocent. To me it makes no difference he wasn't convicted. The evidence and the documentary was enough for me. He was a pedophile.

SingleAHF · 05/07/2025 09:50

Winston Churchill was trenchantly opposed to ANY woman being allowed to vote for MPs.

And yet millions of women voted for him to be dubbed the greatest statesman that ever lived.

Usou · 05/07/2025 09:50

The prophet of a major world religion was very much a paedophile according to current western thinking.

That doesn't stop over a billion people worshipping in his name every day.

Human mores and behaviour evolve over time and across cultures. What was acceptable 1400 or even 40-50 years ago is now seen in a very different light. Some brilliant individuals were often warped or damaged in other ways - especially MJ.

Sera1989 · 05/07/2025 09:52

I think the “separate the man from the music” thing is bullshit. Even if he wasn’t convicted (as someone said, one of the richest and well known people in the world) he still acted very creepy and inappropriate. We are in a time when people should face consequences for their crimes and it shouldn’t be ignored or swept under the carpet like in previous times. If there is no public disapproval then what is the deterrent? Someone in any other job would be sacked

Bridport · 05/07/2025 09:53

SingleAHF · 05/07/2025 09:50

Winston Churchill was trenchantly opposed to ANY woman being allowed to vote for MPs.

And yet millions of women voted for him to be dubbed the greatest statesman that ever lived.

There's no cure for people.

Octavia64 · 05/07/2025 09:53

A lot of artists are absolute shits in their personal life.

he’s dead. Nothing you do now will have any impact on him.

P0d · 05/07/2025 09:54

Octavia64 · 05/07/2025 09:53

A lot of artists are absolute shits in their personal life.

he’s dead. Nothing you do now will have any impact on him.

Yes but it may have an impact on his victims. They should get some respect

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CowboyFromHell · 05/07/2025 09:55

I think you have to separate the artist from the behaviour. As realistically, if you don’t, how far do you take it?

You can avoid MJ - fair enough. But what about a band where the eg bassist, or the writer or producer, was convicted of a serious crime? Music produced by Phil Spector is still pretty widespread.

Though having said that, I think LostProphets are probably beyond rehabilitation.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 09:55

Chris Brown was convicted of beating Rihana. People were queueing to see him the other day

Woody Allen films are still held in high regard

Lovecraft held some vile views but we still enjoy Cthulu stories
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x2boys · 05/07/2025 09:55

Usou · 05/07/2025 09:50

The prophet of a major world religion was very much a paedophile according to current western thinking.

That doesn't stop over a billion people worshipping in his name every day.

Human mores and behaviour evolve over time and across cultures. What was acceptable 1400 or even 40-50 years ago is now seen in a very different light. Some brilliant individuals were often warped or damaged in other ways - especially MJ.

Right but MJ wasent born thousands of years ago was he so i dont.think
we can compare him to people thst were.

Chiseltip · 05/07/2025 09:56

P0d · 05/07/2025 08:39

Well he slept in bed with little boys. I doubt if any of your adult male friends did this that you would say it was fine.

So all the fathers who let their children into their beds are doing something wrong?

Oh I forgot, it's only men who are the bad people.

Amberlynnswashcloth · 05/07/2025 09:57

IcedPurple · 05/07/2025 09:34

People saying the Leaving Neverland allegations were 'debunked' can I ask what they mean by this? Not being goady, I'm genuinely curious. I know they didn't win their case in court, but proving allegations of this nature legally is very difficult. To me the men's stories seemed very compelling but I'm open to evidence to the contrary.

Because the timeline was all over the place and non sensical. It was easily proven that the place where they said they were abused didn't exist at the time, MJ was not even in the country at the time of alleged incident of abuse, and the many other people who were implicated as victims or witnesses haven't supported this version of events. Dates of alleged incidents vs ages of alleged victims don't align. Multiple financial motives and dodgy connections. Its actually quite interesting.

Notuntrustworthy · 05/07/2025 09:59

ALPS100 · 05/07/2025 09:14

YANBU

I feel the same about Jerry Lee Lewis - married his 13 year old cousin. Sick.

Hiding in plain sight

Elvis did the same, grooming a 14 year old

x2boys · 05/07/2025 09:59

Chiseltip · 05/07/2025 09:56

So all the fathers who let their children into their beds are doing something wrong?

Oh I forgot, it's only men who are the bad people.

Surely you csn see it's very different a father sleeping in the same bed with his young child
Than some oddball thst isn't related to them,?
Would tou allow your small child to go for sleepovers with a random neighbour becsuse he seemed childlike.?

PassTheLemonDrizzle · 05/07/2025 10:00

I think the level of fame is relevant. Savile, Lost Prophets, Rolf Harris and Gary Glitter etc. did not have the international or cultural reach of MJ. Not even close! I was a kid in the 80s and at one point MJ was one of the most famous people in the world. For example, our neighbours hosted a Thriller party when the video was released on TV so everyone could watch it together. It’s hard to explain to anyone that wasn’t there just how ubiquitous he and his music were at the height of his fame. There was no other musician really comparable apart from maybe Elvis. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong but just to give some wider context.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 05/07/2025 10:01

I think it's a valid discussion - is there a statute of limitations on things like this? And where do we draw the line; people actually prosecuted of doing dreadful things? People accused of doing dreadful things without prosecution? People randomly accused of something with no proof (on the 'no smoke without fire' principle?) People who are still alive? People with victims who are still alive? People with victims whose children/grandchildren/people who knew them are still alive?

Loki64 · 05/07/2025 10:01

Chiseltip · 05/07/2025 09:56

So all the fathers who let their children into their beds are doing something wrong?

Oh I forgot, it's only men who are the bad people.

Are you for real?
there's a massive difference between a parent sharing a bed with their child, and a millionaire man completely emotionally abusing kids and parents, grooming a child he has zero ties too, sleeping in bed with them, abusing them and tossing them aside as soon as they hit puberty. MULTIPLE TIMES. MULTIPLE KIDS. The man was absolutely vile.

AbsoluteBeginner1 · 05/07/2025 10:01

I don't believe all this stuff. And actually my then partner knew kids who had been to Neverland as part of bands. They said there was nothing untoward going on, only that he had a deeper voice than youd expect. And as others say, people like Bowie or even Bill Wyman and the stones have obvious relationships with under age but they are revered.

IcedPurple · 05/07/2025 10:02

Amberlynnswashcloth · 05/07/2025 09:57

Because the timeline was all over the place and non sensical. It was easily proven that the place where they said they were abused didn't exist at the time, MJ was not even in the country at the time of alleged incident of abuse, and the many other people who were implicated as victims or witnesses haven't supported this version of events. Dates of alleged incidents vs ages of alleged victims don't align. Multiple financial motives and dodgy connections. Its actually quite interesting.

Interesting, but a bit vague. A few discrepancies of time and date wouldn't seem that important to me, especially given how young the alleged victims were at the time. Neither would the fact that some "people who were implicated as victims or witnesses" didn't go along with it. I have an open mind about it all but at this stage it's probably unlikely we'll ever know the truth.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 05/07/2025 10:02

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 09:47

It used to be common to marry at 12 ...

Not on the 1990s it didn't.

x2boys · 05/07/2025 10:03

AbsoluteBeginner1 · 05/07/2025 10:01

I don't believe all this stuff. And actually my then partner knew kids who had been to Neverland as part of bands. They said there was nothing untoward going on, only that he had a deeper voice than youd expect. And as others say, people like Bowie or even Bill Wyman and the stones have obvious relationships with under age but they are revered.

How would your partner know ?