why is called the SCs home when it isn't?

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I keep seeing this scenario.

Woman with her own house. She is paying for the bills. Her DP moves in. His kids come EOW. Why do so many people say it is the SC's home?

Because morally the father needs to provide a home for his children. So his home is the children's home.

I haven’t seen this scenario but if a woman is having a man move in witj his kids EoW then it is their home too while they’re there.
They're children, they’re not going to own their own homes and have to live somewhere.

Because if a child's father lives there, it is their home?

A child's home is where their parents live. The woman may own the house but if a man with children has moved in she's providing a home for them all

Also children aren't guests staying with their father. They are living with that parent, being cared for by that parent. He's being (or should be) as much if a parent as the mother. It maybe only EOW but that's still their home with their parent

Child's father lives there so that means it's also his children's home

but if the woman is paying all the bills then the father is not providing a home for the SC the woman is.

Because it’s not the children’s fault their father is a cocklodger. Wherever he is, when they’re with him, is temporarily their home. If the woman is permitting the father to live there, then she’s permitting the children to live there EOW too.

My father was this man. As a child I didn’t cease to exist EOW, I have childhood memories of this EOW home.

What a ridiculous petty thought.

Yes. But she’s extending herself, her home, to this man. And therefore to his children.

Whether she should put up with him at all is an entirely other question,

That’s her choice. No different to a woman being a SAHM. It’s still his home regardless of what bills he pays.

Ultimately that's the choice you make when you move a man with children in with you

not in my book it isn't. If the children are the product of the relationship there can be an argument, but not someone else's children and any woman who does it is insane. Any woman who is a SAHM and expects a man who is not the father to pay all of the bills is frankly a leech.

if any woman is daft enough to let a man to leech off of her, she deserves every thing she gets.

So because he moves in with someone into a house that he did not pay for, then suddenly it becomes his childrens home too?

Just living somewhere makes it the children's home even though the child's father contributed nothing?

Yes. As much as he classes it as his home, that’s how much it’s classed as his children’s home EOW.

Edited to add; I think a lot of women who get into this situation don’t think it through beforehand. And then find themselves a bit stunned by the reality of it. If a man comes with children then there’s no getting away from that.

So if she asks him to leave, she is depriving the children of their home?

The children are not aware of who pays the bills and nor should they be. If the woman in your scenario doesn't accept this then they should re-think the arrangement.

No because then it will not be the father's home either.

It sounds like someone moved their new boyfriend in a little too quickly.

yes, the place the children live EOW is their home,

presumably all these woman your talking about haven’t had men move into their houses against their will?
If they are choosing to date and move in a man with kids and have his kids there EOW then they have no right to say it’s not their home.

My home will always be my SC’s home, even though they’ve moved out now. They’ll always be welcome (though i should add that my DH isn’t a cocklodger, we bought our home together).

When DH proposed to me, I knew that marrying him also meant that I’d be taking on his children. If I wasn’t prepared to treat them as my own, I would never have married him. And vice versa.

A home is still a home regardless of contributions (it isnt a situation I would want but it still stands imo).

Sounds like the woman in this scenario shouldn't be in a relationship with someone with kids.

Does EOW mean end of week, like weekend visiting?

Normally every other weekend