why is called the SCs home when it isn't?

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I keep seeing this scenario.

Woman with her own house. She is paying for the bills. Her DP moves in. His kids come EOW. Why do so many people say it is the SC's home?

Only in words in that case which does not mean much. She can ask him to leave whenever she wants. Then he will have to find another 'home' for himself and his children

But the children have a home wherever the father's home is.

Are you genuinely this unpleasant?

Because those poor kids with their divided lives should at least be able to call 2 houses their homes. It’s not about who has paid for the home, it’s about where their parents are and where the kids have a base.

Only in words though unless the father is on the mortgage/rental agreement etc.

So it is a temporary home until he leaves or she asks him and his children to leave.

Any man who would subject his children to that level of housing insecurity isn’t a good father. But he’s a visitor 4 days a month anyway isn’t he, with EOW? Hopefully their Mum is a decent parent.

This is true but saying that you don't see it as his house either so not a particular committed partnership.

Whereever the dad lives becomes their home. It doesn’t matter who owns it.

How does calling it a home bring security to the poor kids? If the woman ends the relationship which she has every right to, the poor kids are going to think we have lost our home. It was never theirs or their fathers to begin with

Is that the way ownership of property works?

That’s the same with most homes, you move, or rent and have to move, then the children’s home changes to where the parent moves to.

Yes you are right the kids lose security, but what are these hypothetically kids to think/say, i am going over to "sarahs" house to see my dad.

You are not making any sense. Do you understand that owning property and having a home are totally separate things?

That is the way co habiting couples work sometimes though.

Ownership is different to home. I don’t own my home.

Surely it is their home every other weekend.
If the woman can't accept that then it would be better for her not to get involved with a man who has children.
The children should always come.first.its not their fault that their parents have split up and now have different partners.

Are you this rude about renters ? Their homes maybe temporary but they are still their homes.
To a child, their home(s) is(are) where their parents to live. They don’t pay bills so legal ownership isn’t a consideration for them.

Why are you so upset about this?

The dad lives there because presumably the woman wanted him to move in. It's his home, even if he doesn't own the property. The children come with dating a father and live there part-time, so therefore it is also their home.

Home and owning a property are two different things.

OP, you seem to be having trouble with the idea of people not owning their home. This is, in fact, very widespread. Many people of all ages and relationship statuses live in places they call home but do not own. Very few, admittedly, live in these places without paying rent and bills, but it is not at all clear to me why the presence of step children should affect that.

There is a difference between saying somewhere is someone's house and saying it is their home.
I might rent a house, it wouldn't be my house but it would be my home.

Yes why are you so irritated by this, what prompted you to start your thread.

Is someone who is living with you in your house saying you cannot make him leave because it is his children's home?
Are you being bullied to let him stay?

That would probably be easier than I am going to my home to see dad, then the relationship ends and oh no I have lost my home.

It is words that do not really mean anything - it is a temporary home then.

It is their temporary home yes that it is only there as long as the relationship lasts.