why is called the SCs home when it isn't?

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I keep seeing this scenario.

Woman with her own house. She is paying for the bills. Her DP moves in. His kids come EOW. Why do so many people say it is the SC's home?

If you rent it is your home. I’ve rented for nearly 30 years, I’ve never been homeless. I’ve lived in my home, I just don’t own it. If I moved in with a partner, that would be my home and my children’s home although I don’t own it. If someone moved in with me we would share a home.

This is a very strange thread. It may be easier OP if actually describe the issue that is worrying you.

But he lives there, so it is their home. Wherever he lives is their home. Just like wherever the mother lives is their home. He is legally responsible for them.

No-one is making you invite a man to live with you but if you do, your home becomes his kids' home.

If you are the woman in question, please do not enter into a relationship with a man who has children

You have said this. What is your actual point because you are just saying stuff now.

Yes this.

Yes.

Whoever owns the home has the final say on who lives there. That has always been the case.

Children don't own homes,, their home is wherever their parent or guardian resides.

Yes, she can. And he would have to move out and into his own place. He has no rights if he has no ownership or is a lessee of a property. His children also have zero rights to the property.

Why do you keep asking? Do you need help in this regard?

No mate. It’s not casual cohabiting when children are involved. No adult with an ounce of common sense or emotional intelligence would treat it as such. Moving in with someone with kids is a significant decision to be very carefully weighed.

If perchance you’ve massively fucked up some children’s lives with bad decision-making, own it instead of desperately arguing semantics around home ‘ownership’

I just wanted to say it is her house but their home.

You’re just goading now OP.

It is his home but he doesn't own it unless the owner puts his name on the deeds.

If this is all you’ve got to worry about then you must have a fairly easy life 🙄

Who owns the property?

Losing what they thought was their home is devastating as they have been led to believe it is their home and then they lost it.

So renters are not providing their children with a home? How odd/rude! How about a mortgaged property. If it's not owned outright is that also a temporary home as the bank has a charge on the property?

Have you ever actually met a child? You don’t seem to understand them at all.

This is the most hair-splitting post I've ever read.

It becomes their home but the woman can ask the father/children to leave at any time. Not really much of a home then?

What are you actually on about? You just keep repeating yourself and ignoring everyone.

"Home is where, if you have to go there, they have to take you in"

What you are describing is your property, your house, your home. It's not your partner's house or property, but for now it is his home because he lives there with you. And EOW it is his children's home because they live part time with their father. Their primary home is probably with their mother, but your place is their home too- so long as their father lives there. Once they are adult I guess you could decide you don't have to take them in but for now, they are part of the package, and you do.

I hope you can find it in your heart to help them feel safe, settled and welcome. It's a hard situation for them and no fault of theirs.

They didn't lose it their dad moved out as I said people move "beloved" houses all the time.

The woman owns the property. Her name is on the deeds. The man moved in and brings his children there. His name is not on anything.

So it is not his home then?