why is called the SCs home when it isn't?

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I keep seeing this scenario.

Woman with her own house. She is paying for the bills. Her DP moves in. His kids come EOW. Why do so many people say it is the SC's home?

Leave the thread then. It is not compulsory to stay 😂

But lots of people can be asked to leave their homes, including people with a mortgage, they are still their homes. And children especially will feel that as they only ever have a home where their parent’s reside. It’s normal to feel upset if you have to leave your home but that’s life. And children won’t be made homeless I should hope.

Are you genuinely cognitively unable to understand that you’re mixing up two separate things? You can’t just wave a wand and redefine the meanings of words to suit yourself.

It is his home because he is living as a (hopefully) ,equal partnership. Why would you move a boyfriend in if you didn't want to share a life and home with him?

Are you intentionally just going around in circles or are you really unable to understand?

What answer are you hoping to hear?

What a strange question. Was it prompted by something specific OP?

Of course a child’s home is wherever their parents are. If their parents are separated and splitting custody they will have a home with dad and a home with mum.

Whether mum or dad live alone or move in with new partners makes no difference - their home is still the child’s home. Unless some unusual circumstances the child would have a bedroom in each parent’s house.

If this isn’t what you thought happened, what DID you think?

People have told you over and over again that there is a difference between ownership and living somewhere that is your home but you are not listening.

Is he allowed to call it his home in your scenario or is only the woman allowed to call it home? If he can’t call it home and he doesn’t have a place to live is he homeless even when he goes and sleeps at her house every night?

Same here, even though our DC are now grown.
It's all quite depressing isn't it?

It is his home whilst he lives there. But if he does not own the home he has no say over the property.

Anyone who lives somewhere for more than a few weeks would refer to it as 'home' but if they don't own it they know they have no say over it.

With a mortgage or marriage, a commitment is made. Just moving in with someone is not really a commitment.

DH and I are married and we are the biological parents of both of our children. If we split up we would have to sell the house though and the kids would have to move.

Should I tell my kids they are homeless because their home depends on an adult’s relationship and therefore is “temporary”?!

It is when one or both of you have children.

Yes of course. The key word is that they are "living" there. If the father contributes or not is between him and his partner. It's got nothing to do with his kids.

If the ‘someone’ has responsibility for children, that inherently means it is in fact a big commitment.

So it is his home because he lives there but not legally and he has no say over the property he lives in? Just a temporary home then.

"With a mortgage or marriage, a commitment is made. Just moving in with someone is not really a commitment."

It is when there are kids involved.

Of course it’s a commitment!

Isn't it ? It could lead to marraige or a committed long term relationship, is marraige your default for commitment,?

Living with some else’s kids, or taking your kids to go and live with someone else, is a fairly massive commitment though. Or at least it should be.

Are both your names on the property? Do you have equal ownership?

It is not comparable when you are both married with I assume equal ownership of the property with shared biological children 🙄

There’s no point in this everyone, OP’s comprehension is too low. Either not genuine or just unable to take in new ideas

I agree.
The kids shouldn't even know who is paying for the home, bills, etc.
To them it should just be "home"

Hopefully...

Let's say it is a commitment. The woman can ask him and his kids to leave whenever she wants as she is the owner of the property and he is not. This kind of commitment does not give any rights or protection.

So you don't think separated/divorced people should have new partners OR married with children shouldn't get divorced,?