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I hate anti-vaxxers

838 replies

An89 · 04/07/2025 02:33

How can anyone in this day and age be an anti-vaxxer? London and West mids currently suffering from a meassls outbreak. DS is under 1 so cannot yet have vaccine, I know of someone whose 10momth old contracted measels as they were too young for vaccine.
Ridiculous that reckless and tardy parents are putting all our children at risk. Actually terrible.

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BigDahliaFan · 04/07/2025 11:12

sleepwouldbenice · 04/07/2025 03:09

Nope
The idiocy impacts us all

This nails it.

VintageKefir · 04/07/2025 11:13

The only reason people can say "I care only about my family and that's why I won't vaccinate" is because most people don't and herd immunity is still working. If everyone decided the same... We would be back to hundreds of thousands of cases and hundreds of deaths a year (+ thousands of lifetime effects of he illness). And that's just measels.

Having a choice to not vaccinate (without need to have x kids so at least few survive to adulthood) is one of the biggest misguided privileges there is imho.

Stressedoutmama123 · 04/07/2025 11:14

I once heard that if you choose to not vaccinate that if you get ill from that disease that you should then foot the bill rather than the nhs.

While half of me agrees, the other half says where does it stop, not eating enough veg / smoking / drinking all these things affect health and could be payable too.

Tryonemoretime · 04/07/2025 11:23

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 10:18

Sorry what? You wish you could have another Covid vaccine despite the fact that it affected your heart and you’ve been medically advised to not have it, but you would like others to take it for you despite them having the same risk? How does that make you any less selfish than an anti vaxxer?

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I obviously didn't word my pp very well. I'll try again.
Bearing in mind the millions of Covid vaccinations given out world wide, few people have had a bad reaction to the Covid vaccination. Unfortunately, I'm one of them. For the vast majority of people, the vaccination safely prevents them having Covid or mitigates it and it also helps with herd immunity.
If I hadn't had a bad reaction to the last 2 Covid vaccinations, I'd have happily had further vaccinations - partly to help protect me from having Covid badly, and partly to aid herd immunity. (I had Covid before my vaccination and have been left with Long Covid. If I could safely have the vaccination, I'd certainly want to help others avoid Long Covid. It's affected my life and the lives of my family, too.)

Epli · 04/07/2025 11:24

Stressedoutmama123 · 04/07/2025 11:14

I once heard that if you choose to not vaccinate that if you get ill from that disease that you should then foot the bill rather than the nhs.

While half of me agrees, the other half says where does it stop, not eating enough veg / smoking / drinking all these things affect health and could be payable too.

The issue is that usually adults (who ironically come from generations with high vaccination rates) make those decisions for their children. If it was about vaccines that are given in adult age I would agree.

user1473878824 · 04/07/2025 11:25

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

When it comes to infectious diseases and the loss of herd immunity, yes they fucking are.

Dancinghedgehog23 · 04/07/2025 11:28

My mother was left deaf and partially sighted due to contracting measles as a child. This impacted her entire life and she felt passionately about vaccinations.
I also have a friend who for medical reasons hasn’t been vaccinated, she benefits from societies herd immunity. To be honest if I knew any of my friends were anti-vax I wouldn’t be able to continue that friendship. Purely because after watching my mums struggles I wouldn’t be able to understand them putting their own children at risk.

ukathleticscoach · 04/07/2025 11:29

Flu or covid vaccinations could be seen as a matter of choice for your children.

Anyone not giving their child the standard childhood vaccinations is a different matter.

Its ok to practice your uneducated google conspiracy theories on yourself but to impose them on your children is abuse in my opinion and putting the general population at risk.

5128gap · 04/07/2025 11:34

No, I don't hate anti vaxxers. I hate the aggressive, belligerent and small minded attitudes of some on here, but I don't think these individuals tell the whole story. Many anti vaxxers are refusing due to fear and suspicion. Sometimes based in a historical context where their demographic was experimented on, or where they believe research has not taken account of health issues effecting people from their group. This is understandable and isn't addressed by scolding, shaming and hating, but by reassurance from trusted sources.

Samiloff · 04/07/2025 11:39

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

That’s not true. Infectious diseases are only kept under control and epidemics prevented if the take-up of vaccines is at a certain level.
From the World Health Organisation:
"The percentage of people who need to be immune in order to achieve herd immunity varies with each disease. For example, herd immunity against measles requires about 95% of a population to be vaccinated. The remaining 5% will be protected by the fact that measles will not spread among those who are vaccinated. For polio, the threshold is about 80%."

Bettycrocker7 · 04/07/2025 11:44

I am deaf because I caught measles at 6 months old. Obviously, from an unvaccinated person. It's completely impacted my life from education, career, relationships. People are selfish twats.

TheNoonBell · 04/07/2025 11:45

Slightyamusedandsilly · 04/07/2025 10:16

I do not think the unvaxxed make up 1 in 4. There honestly aren't that many idiots around.

I don't have anyone in my social circle that is anti vaxx. I only met ONE fool (at work) who was anti vaxx and he also believed in the 5G idiocy.

You want to opt out of society. Opt out.

You'd be surprised, COVID vaccination is 75% of UK adults, there are many silently unjabbed as well a small vocal minority which is what you term antivaxers.

You do not propose opting out, you propose locking out which is an entirely different thing.

SaltedPotato · 04/07/2025 11:45

I think there's still negativity and false information circulating about MMR and links to autism. My son had the MMR and he's on the way to being diagnosed but I guarantee he was always going to be this way, vaccine or not. I flagged up concerns with my HV at 8m before he had the jabs. I had them too and I'm not autistic

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 11:45

Tryonemoretime · 04/07/2025 11:23

I obviously didn't word my pp very well. I'll try again.
Bearing in mind the millions of Covid vaccinations given out world wide, few people have had a bad reaction to the Covid vaccination. Unfortunately, I'm one of them. For the vast majority of people, the vaccination safely prevents them having Covid or mitigates it and it also helps with herd immunity.
If I hadn't had a bad reaction to the last 2 Covid vaccinations, I'd have happily had further vaccinations - partly to help protect me from having Covid badly, and partly to aid herd immunity. (I had Covid before my vaccination and have been left with Long Covid. If I could safely have the vaccination, I'd certainly want to help others avoid Long Covid. It's affected my life and the lives of my family, too.)

Thank you for explaining. My point still is, that there is no way of determining whether you can safely have the vaccine or not. There have been many reports of adverse affects, some leading to death. It’s entirely reasonable for someone to not want to take that risk.

abouttogetlynched · 04/07/2025 11:45

I don’t hate them per se, I just hate how preachy (& a bit stupid) they are… fine if they want to believe the conspiracy bull shit (although some of it could actually turn out to be true), but why do they need everyone to know their thoughts feelings so much? Like posting aggressive stuff on social media constantly. You don’t see ‘pro-vaxxers’ going on and on about their viewpoint and using derogatory language, they just seem more live and let live than anti vax morons.

sashh · 04/07/2025 11:48

Alaboutme · 04/07/2025 10:36

My sister has never had any vaccinations. Not even as a kid.
Mum simply said she forgot.
I have im all upto date every jab going was stabbed in me.

My sister never gets ill very healthy no problems doesn't suffer with anything.
I think she's had about 3 colds in 40 year.
Never suffered any bout of mental health issues either.

Me i suffer with alsorts of problems.
Constant migraine tintus pains catch a cold from anyone eye floaters anxiety de realization mental health is in the pot etc.
It dose make me think did i need half the jabs.

Im not against it as its needed but it dose make me wonder.

Why do you think there is a difference in yours and your sister's health?

The same could be said about my brother and I, he has never been in hospital, never had more thana cold.

I have a list of chronic conditions as long as your arm.

The only difference between out vaccinations is that I had rubella and he didn't (it was only given to girls at the time).

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 04/07/2025 11:48

We just need to keep these people away from normal society.
No NHS, No schools, No care homes, no you can't use the library / police / local pool.

If they don't want to join in and take care of society by getting standard vaccines - fine. Fuck off then.

Bettycrocker7 · 04/07/2025 11:50

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

How dare you, the unvaccinated person who gave me measles at 6 months old and robbed me of my hearing is absolutely my concern you fool.

lifeonmars100 · 04/07/2025 11:50

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

unvaccinated individuals put others at risk, end of. Maybe look at how smallpox was erradicated to help you understand what a boon vaccinations are. Smallpox was eradicated through a global, decades-long effort focused on vaccination and surveillance-containment strategies, culminating in the disease's official declaration as eradicated in 1980. The success of the eradication campaign was largely due to the discovery of the smallpox vaccine by Edward Jenner in 1796 and the subsequent implementation of widespread vaccination programs and targeted containment strategies. Now have a think about polio, Cases of polio in the UK fell dramatically when routine vaccination was introduced in the mid-1950s. There hasn't been a case of polio caught in the UK since the mid-90s. But the infection is still found in some parts of the world, and there remains a very small risk it could be brought back to the UK. I had the polio vaccine when I was very small and I can remember seeing children older than me who had contracted polio and who had damaged limbs. Parents were beyond grateful when the vaccine was developed.

Tadahhh · 04/07/2025 11:56

Papering · 04/07/2025 07:07

I have a life long autoimmune condition provoked by the Rubella vaccine. I could argue it the other way. I am pro vaccine by the way. I am currently researching a family from the 1840s who lost infant children to whooping cough and measles.

I think more people would vaccinate if the NHS were honest that in some rare cases vaccines do cause unforeseen side effects.

I also have auto immune disease, and a link between vaccines and the increase in cases is being researched. I have chosen to vaccinate as the more immediate consequences are far worse from out of control disease.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/07/2025 11:56

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 11:45

Thank you for explaining. My point still is, that there is no way of determining whether you can safely have the vaccine or not. There have been many reports of adverse affects, some leading to death. It’s entirely reasonable for someone to not want to take that risk.

What is known, however, is that the risk of vaccines is less than the risk of the diseases themselves. There’s no way of determining whether your kid can ‘safely’ have measles etc if there’s an epidemic.

TheNoonBell · 04/07/2025 11:56

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 04/07/2025 11:48

We just need to keep these people away from normal society.
No NHS, No schools, No care homes, no you can't use the library / police / local pool.

If they don't want to join in and take care of society by getting standard vaccines - fine. Fuck off then.

As long as we don't need to pay taxes and are not subject to your laws then that's fine.

lifeonmars100 · 04/07/2025 12:05

VirginaGirl · 04/07/2025 09:19

Same. My brother had Whooping Cough so badly that my mother thought he might die.

When my youngest son was admitted to Kings College Hospital as a baby for an infection, the first question they asked us was whether his immunisations all up to date? I was very relieved that they were, and so were they.

There was no whooping cough vaccine when I was a child and I think I was about 6 when I caught it and was seriously unwell. Luckily I did not have to be hospitalised but I can still remember how unpleasant and scary it was. Why risk putting your child through a nasty illness at best and something that could really damage them at worst. I caught it again in winter 2024 and was ill for a month and left weak and tired for quite a while afterwards.

Cakeandusername · 04/07/2025 12:07

I think people are so removed from seeing people with long term implications of catching these diseases.
My grandma has measles as a child and poor sight and a turned eye, affected her all her life, she was so self conscious wouldn’t have photo taken plus needed thick glasses. You also used to see people dragging their leg with built up shoes from contracting polio.
My dc is currently abroad at a summer camp working and all staff and kids need to be vaccinated.

BigDahliaFan · 04/07/2025 12:10

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