Take your judgement out of other women s vaginas.
How many times is it OK to take the morning after pill? When does it change from a bunch of cells to a moral dilemma?
Do we judge the frequency of pregnancy to the same extent as the frequency of abortion?
Do we judge the frequency of STI tests in the same way? If you consistently used barrier protection you would be much better protected. If someone said they can't remember the number of times they got STI tested, and needed short duration treatment after, I don't think there would be much online commentary.
What about the women who are culturally encouraged to be baby making machines, bringing more and more babies into the world that they can barely manage to parent? Are they good or bad women? What about fundamentalist religious groups brainwashing their congregations into procreation for the sake of it? Those fundamentalist who shame and coerce women into endless pregnancies, parenting and then judge other women who exercise agency over their bodies.
Let's also not forget societal pressure on women to be sexy, to put male pleasure first and to simultaneously be more responsible for contraception. More judged if they make mistakes or poor choices or take risks.
Lilly Allen is no role model, and neither are the men that she procreates with.
Lilly Allen may exhibit poor judgment, I have no idea what the route cause of that is, but it's not an isolated incident. Poor judgment is pretty widespread, particularly with younger people. Perhaps if there are indicators of consistently poor judgment, there should be supports to talk through the underlying issues.
Our time might be better spent analysing why people engage in high risk behaviour. Not naming and shaming women that are cavalier about abortion. (another judgment that is never applied to men).