Do you think smoking weed every night is cause for concern?

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I didn't but since working in a job where we work closely with SS, I'm seeing it raised as a potential issue of children are present in the house.

For a bit of background, we have two kids 7 and 12. I don't smoke it anymore but my husband never really grew out of it!

He makes sure he hides it from the kids but the youngest has noticed that he smells of 'smokers' as our 7 yr old calls cigs, when he comes in.

I think the 12 yr old knows but doesn't care.

He works full time and rarely smokes in the day .

AIBU to think it's not so different from having a few beers in the evening (tbf he has those too)?

I know someone who developed cannabis psychosis. Problem is with drink and drugs, you never know how it’s going to affect you. Some people will be lazy, others will function, others will have mental health issues exacerbated. You cannot argue for one way or the other because how it affects person a is not the same as it will affect person b.

Its funding dealers...

@GiddyRoseCrab I completely agree with all that. People can also become psychotic with no precipitation but there's evidence that cannabis may increase the risk, especially/perhaps predominantly in those who were already predisposed

The only thing I was taking issue with above was PPs suggestion that you can "tell a regular weed smoker a mile off" because they come off as "thick".

Your kids will know their teachers probably will too they will smell of it.
The neighbours will definitely know, it stinks I can't have the doors or windows open in summer as a neighbour smokes and it's smells all through my house.
If he got arrested and you have a job where you need a dbs you will have to report it.

Absolutely agree. If a teen smokes weed it permanently changes the way their brain develops and is wired. It's linked to to increased risk of schizophrenia and other mh conditions. This is exactly why ss would consider it a concern.

I see what you mean. I agree with you that isn’t always the case, I knew someone who cleaned a lot whenever they smoked weed and they weren’t thick at all. I think the risk of it all is you’ve no idea which way you will go! But yes I agree. you don’t necessarily become lazy or ‘thick’.

I think saying he becomes irritable without it is the biggest red flag for me. I’m not anti drugs but when it’s an addiction I think it can become a problem. What would happen for example if he lost his job because of his weed smoking? Does he drive, what happens if he gets pulled over and drug swabbed? There’s too much at risk when you’ve got kids.

Smoking weed keeps my dad from drinking, and believe me for him it’s the lesser of two evils. I don’t think it’s that bad but see if he can get a medical cannabis card - that way he can keep out of legal trouble.

@jmh740 I didn't know that (it going on MY DBs).

I'm so glad I namechanged for this as the level of vitriol coming my way would having me running away from Mumsnet. Some of the comments are absolutely justified and a hard truth but some are just shit posting for the hell of it

@LastPodcastOnTheLeft as o said of course they bloody know. We have had to come in from the garden at times because the smell was overpowering. It permeates into the house.
as I have said DS not only likes to play basketball and football but also likes to go to sleep with the TV on in the room next to the one who smokes so quid pro quo

the irritation etc is because he has an addiction and cannot cope without it __

You neighbours will know part of the reason ours got an ASBO was the incessant weed smoking it was classed as antisocial.

Everyone I know who smokes it or smoked it loads when young have MH difficulties that weed doesn't seem to have improved despite them believing it does.

Are you having a laugh? It’s utterly grim. Weed is for losers. I’m guessing your husband isn’t exactly a high flyer? Don’t do this to your kids. I’m actually hoping this is just a windup. The mind boggles.

I have found that British people can be really uptight about cannabis (and all smoking).

Obesity, generalised alcoholism, injections into the face and aggressive mental health drugs are all okay though.

So you're asking the wrong people, but the real answer is: its fine, lots of things are fine jn moderation

She will be the kid whose dad stinks of weed.

Nice

Not really, you can have it prescribed in the UK now (when other medicines haven’t worked).

Dulling your senses every single night is a dependance OP. No matter what it is.

So he's addicted? If he was ok with his decisions, he'd be rolling up and smoking infront of the kids. He knows it's wrong.

Your neighbours absolutely do know and they do slag you off for it. Especially in this hot weather when people want their windows open but they can't because of the stench.

You'll have been labelled.

Genuinely, weed absolutely stinks and is awful to be around. Your neighbors definitely know what he’s doing, your house and potentially kids clothes will stink of it. Your kids know he’s smoking and it won’t be long till they know what.

You’re trying to hide his behaviour from your kids, he’s bad tempered when he doesn’t have it.

What part of this is making you think this is OK?

Weed is very normalised and people always come back with the comparison to alcohol but the bottom line is that this isn’t good for him, for your kids, for your relationship with your neighbours.

Weed can stay in the system for around 48 hours, so even if he does not smoke on a day he's driving it could still be in system.

Oh no!
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Not....not LABELLED!!!

Your children aren’t stupid. They likely already know and will definitely when they’re a bit older. It’s normalising it for your children which means they’re more likely to also smoke it. It can lead to MH issues and affect brain development in adolescence/young adults so it’s not something I’d want any of my children’s role models doing.

This must mean if people smoke it every day then they are permanently stoned ?

Just because something is in your system doesn’t mean you’re impaired for the same amount of time.

Even if he’s not driving directly under the influence if he’s a heavy user it’ll never properly clear from his system and he runs the risk of losing his licence at any point as if he’s every drug wiped he’ll be positive.

I have no beef with recreational drugs - i’ve done a ton of them in my time so no judgement from me but this isn’t recreational and addictions are always a safeguarding concern.

And yes, it absolutely stinks and yes, everyone around you will know.