Do you think smoking weed every night is cause for concern?

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I didn't but since working in a job where we work closely with SS, I'm seeing it raised as a potential issue of children are present in the house.

For a bit of background, we have two kids 7 and 12. I don't smoke it anymore but my husband never really grew out of it!

He makes sure he hides it from the kids but the youngest has noticed that he smells of 'smokers' as our 7 yr old calls cigs, when he comes in.

I think the 12 yr old knows but doesn't care.

He works full time and rarely smokes in the day .

AIBU to think it's not so different from having a few beers in the evening (tbf he has those too)?

Im someone who is in recovery from weed addiction. That shit is pernicious. I wouldn’t be happy with this. What’s he so reliant on substances for? I’d be asking more questions about what’s going on underneath if I was you.

Yes it’s a concern for many reasons. Your son 100% will get offered weed and alcohol at parties ect over the next few years, he has been taught.. My dad does it so how bad can it be.
Alo with all of the medical issues connected to smoking physical and mental (I also know someone who developed psychosis due to constant weed smoking) the cost would piss me off, How much does he spend per month on drinking and smoking?

Stop kidding yourself - of course he knows!

You’re kidding yourself if you think your kids don’t know what he’s doing.

@PlantBased11 he always has since he was in his teens. I think that's why. It's habit and he can't really relax without it.

To clarify My eldest knows he smokes but not weed.

If he doesn’t now, he soon will and then what? Only smokers believe that you can’t smell from 50 paces.

Op you’re not stupid, the long term damage regular weed smoking does to your MH is well documented. It sounds like you’d prefer your H stopped but justify and excuse it because you know he won’t stop.

It isn’t a habit it is an addiction

It's not habit. It's addiction.
Lot of delusion on this thread.
A habit is something you can stop.

impacts the brain big time… slowly slowly he ll turn into a different person

@LastPodcastOnTheLeft doesn't sound great tbh. As I said it's not the weed per se (depending on how strong it is) but doing it when they're still up is, I think, not really on.

It's not healthy to do it every day. How much does he smoke? It also makes you apathetic and you shouldn't be driving so I guess he can never take the kids anywhere at night?
I'm not particularly against smoking weed, I did it when young, but a lifetime of doing it is unhealthy.

@AgentJohnson you're right. I know the MH impact and I don't want that for the boys but he's just a nicer person to be around after a couple of solids so I don't condone it.

That's called addiction. Don't soft soap it, face that you're married to a drug addict. What an appalling example he is setting to your children.

It's actually not addictive as a substance, but it is habit forming eg you can have a psychological addiction to it like you might to one night stands or shopping, but it's not going to give you withdrawal like coke or heroin

@herbalteabag he thankfully does not ever drink or smoke and drive. It does mean he can be irritable if he is out and Im usually the driver.

I think it’s cause for concern. Having a few beers every evening isn’t good either (with or without the weed).

Ask him to go a few nights without it. Then you’ll know if he’s got a problem. (Also, how much is it costing? Even. £25 a week is £100 a month out of your family budget (don’t actually know how much weed costs)).

Also, not all teens try weed.

If it isn't addressed and stopped then one day you'll likely come home to one or both of your adult sons smoking out in the garden with him sharing some cold beers just " relaxing " together.

Where dies he get it?

The father of your kids is doing drugs every day...of course this is an issue??
What happens if something happened to you, he wouldn't be able to look after the kids or drive you and/or the kids anywhere because he's under the influence of drugs?

If it has to be every day, it’s a concern. A few beers every night is a concern.
nothing wrong weed itself. It’s the frequency and duration of consistent usage that’s the issue.
Psychological effects over the long-term are unknown especially if leaves are sprayed

He has a serious problem. As do you. But neither of you seem able to understand the effect on your children. Poor kids.

He’ll change, and not in a good way. He’ll give it to the kids. You’ll have to leave him cos he’s too nasty when he’s not high. Takes years but there’s no going back once it all starts.

He’ll say it’s normal, you’re hysterical. You’re not, but you will be single again, which by that point will be a huge improvement.

Don't be ridiculous, the smells are completely different.

he's just a nicer person to be around after a couple of solids

So you're married to someone who is nicer after a few joints? Dear god, what kind of person lowers themselves to remain married to someone who is so horrible without drugs that they prefer their husband to keep using them?
You need to sort yourself out, his behaviour is an awful way for a parent to behave, but not liking your own husband when he's sober is completely fucked up. I feel sorry for your children.

Do their clothes not smell of it, they'll be going to school smelling of weed.