Do you think smoking weed every night is cause for concern?

[LastPodcastOnTheLeft]

I didn't but since working in a job where we work closely with SS, I'm seeing it raised as a potential issue of children are present in the house.

For a bit of background, we have two kids 7 and 12. I don't smoke it anymore but my husband never really grew out of it!

He makes sure he hides it from the kids but the youngest has noticed that he smells of 'smokers' as our 7 yr old calls cigs, when he comes in.

I think the 12 yr old knows but doesn't care.

He works full time and rarely smokes in the day .

AIBU to think it's not so different from having a few beers in the evening (tbf he has those too)?

My neighbours smoke it. They shut their doors go in the garden smoke their weed let it all into my house on a sunny day. So dont like it in their hone but its all good to go in my home.

If I leave my window open on a hot day and go out. I come back and my house stinks of weed. In every room. I can be in bed and in ir comes.

Absolutely sick of it .

If he is irritable when he doesn't smoke it then it is more than just a habit.

Please pull your head out of the sand.

I agree with this

I hope he doesn't have a responsible job. His brain will be rotting from the inside 😬

Your poor kids.

What does he do if you go abroad on holiday, can he stop for that?

He should be smoking outside do you want to normalise this for your kids?

OP, for me the answer to your question is, yes.

Mental health, addiction, combining with alcohol, example to the children, illegal, for starters.

I accept the length of time he's been doing it, it may not be an entry drug for Class A drugs for him but the example he is giving the children may lead to them taking that route.

I have rarely come across a Class A user who didn't start with weed. Before I get jumped on, please note rarely, not always.

Yep definitely cause for concern. Messed up I’d say. I’d tell him he has to walk the street if he wants to smoke that stinky herb

Oh it stinks i have a few neighbours who smoke it in the evening it just wafts into the houses, your children are inhaling second hand fumes if you are OK with that then let him crack on.

Well you've seen the effects in your line of work and you can see the answer to the question you asked on here. It can have massive detrimental effects and there is a mental health crisis amongst teenage boys. Sooner or later your kids will know and whatever you say about smoking weeds your kids will look at what you do. Also even though your DH doesn't smoke if he's going to drive he is still risking losing his driving licence. Weed stays in the system far longer than alcohol ...Google it. If he's stopped and tested for any reason ...and they will test just for finding enough for personal use in the car ...even if he hasn't smoked for a couple of weeks it can still be in the system.

I don't think it's a cause for concern and no different from having a few beers. He's an adult, as long as it's outside and not in front of the kids i can't see an issue here. I know people who have smoked weed and had mental health problems that I'm sure it was a contributing factor in. I also know people whose mental health has improved from smoking cannabis, and I have a friend who is legally prescribed it. It's not for me, but each to their own.

I am glad he does not drive.
I am not glad that he is condoning the murders of many people in central America, elsewhere, and nearer to home, an 8 year old in Liverpool. Or providing one of the trades that contribute to the number of often young black men being stabbed.
Indirectly racist even though that is not the intent.

Apart from all the other valid points the other PP’s have raised, I swear it kills of brain cells. I can tell a regular weed smoker a mile off because of their slow speech and generally coming across a bit thick.

Smoking weed doesn’t bother me but having to do something like drink alcohol or smoke weed every evening would.

I would prefer him to smoke weed over drinking every night but I still think needing to do something like that to relax is a slippery slope.

Aside from what others have said, it has negative image/image associated with poverty and associated issues so if youve moved to a different type of work i.e. olde people/different professional incomes then that may be why youre finding youre exposed to new attitudes to it (there are plenty of studies on this association before anyone starts shouting that im being rude or classist or saying there are exceptions to a trend).

He isn't buying it from a local professional is he, and somewhere along the line he is funding nasty people and serious organised crime.

Plus it affects his behaviour if he doesn't have it (what would you call someone who gets stressed withdrawal from alcohol?)

And how much money has he spent on it over the years? Admittedly you could make that arguement about anything, but even so, what's it cost? The family holiday of a lifetime? Swimming lessons?

So yes, some people, like me, are a bit judgy about it, because I dont like the problems associated with drug crime, even if the end user doesn't intend to be part of it, they actually are.

every aspect of you DH personality/ mental and physical health is affected by his weed usage. If you did a little deeper are there relationship issues?
Continue to live this way and you will soon enough have 3 males smoking weed in the garden.

I accept people can be judgemental about it. It's not a particularly big deal (such as any other drugs would be) in our families so I was not being willfully ignorant, it's just about what's normal for you. I don't like the fact he is irritable without it in the evening. I'm sorting of caught in a vicious cycle of hoping he'll hurry up and go out for a smoke without actually wanting him to be a potential addict.

I really hope our neighbours don't know as they are not the friendliest anyway.

Your neighbours will absolutely know! Weed stinks, its a really distinctive smell and the smell travels quickly and easily. My old neighbour used to smoke it and I hated it, I couldn't open the windows in my house or my house would stink too. It was the worst when the weather was hot and i couldnt open the windows in my own home. I feel sorry for your neighbours unfortunately.

'. I don't like the fact he is irritable without it in the evening. I'm sorting of caught in a vicious cycle of hoping he'll hurry up and go out for a smoke without actually wanting him to be a potential addict.'

So he's irritated if not smoking? In addition to drinking? Massive red flag, and you're enabling his habit / explaining him which is another red flag.

As a teacher, can tell you that I often know if a parent smokes weed. I often get a whiff of it when I open a child's book bag.

I always report as a safeguarding concern.

That's funny because there's literally no way of verifying your theory. I know a few geniuses who smoke weed regularly (multiple times a week) - I'm talking Oxbridge MPhil + professional academic roles, and I know a lot of dim dumbarses who are 100% sober. I guess someone silly enough to tell a stranger about their drug habit is self-selecting though. You don't know about all the smart ones who are savvy enough to be subtle!

A draw per week of the shit people call weed in this Britain is a huge cause for concern.

Your neighbours will know, sorry. It does stink.

I think in your shoes I would try to encourage him to reduce, eg have a few days a week with no weed and no drinking. And maybe he could consider getting a vape pen (the weed type not the smelly nicotine type), as this vapourises rather than burns (combusts) cannabis meaning much less smell and also no nicotine (addictive - might be contributing to the habit) or tar etc from the tobacco (and no burning = fewer/no free radicals so less cancer risk)

You're an enabler to a drug addict and I can just see in a couple of years time that you'll be the parent making excuses for your teenage sons' illegal drug use, even if they get caught at school with it and expelled. Pathetic family of losers.

And of course your neighbours know, it stinks, even if you think it doesn't. Maybe that's why they haven't been friendly towards you.

I think your neighbours may not be the friendliest because they are sick of the smell of weed coming from your house.

I have to say, I'm really struggling to believe that someone who works closely with Social Services could possibly be this naive