To want to reschedule my friend tomorrow

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Due to see a friend for dinner tomorrow. I'm 4 months pregnant and not feeling great.

Dinner is in central London and it's apparently 35°C tomorrow. It would mean roughly an hour's journey using buses and the tube (not air conditioned) during rush hour - so could get warmer than 35°C underground. I'm feeling apprehensive as I'm already uncomfortable - and that's me being indoors with the fan on when it's 10° cooler.

I don't use the tube often but worried it could break down and then what if I'm stuck in the heat..

I see this friend maybe a couple of times a year. We used to see each other maybe once a month or every couple of months but it has drastically reduced since having a baby a couple of years ago. We organised it on Wednesday last week and I wasn't paying attention to what the weather might be like.

Do I sound like I'm being precious? AIBU to ask to reschedule?

That's not what she said.

Yanbu, explain your reasons and ask if either she can come visit you at home on this occasion or if you can rearrange for a different date where it'll be cooler.

Hey OP, I think fine to tell the truth and cancel, but I would take the lead in rescheduling asap. It’s really really easy for good friendships to drift after having kids, and as others have said, friendships are just so important for your wellbeing , so are worth investing in. Also, you said your friend is childfree so there’s a chance she may have felt a few friends with children drift away in recent years . That’s a really tough feeling, so it’s worth making an extra effort to show her that she matters to you.

Also for future reference if you do meet in london on another warm day, try to meet at a place where you can use the Elizabeth, Metropolitan, Hammersmith and city or District lines as they all have air con. Elizabeth line is particularly cool as it’s the newest one.

Good luck!

I'd definitely cancel. You're pregnant and not feeling great and extreme heat expected. Your friend should understand.

The subway here is quite a bit hotter underground than at street level. I'm staying close to home during the heat waves.

I’d phone to ask if she could possibly reschedule as the heat is making you feel ill.