Nagging

[Gowlett]

Honestly, I’m just going to make a list of the top five.
Stick it on the fridge door, and never mention it again.

It’s been the same few things for absolute years…
Don’t want them done MY way, just THE way, please!

Changed bed sheets, DH was sleeping without a top.
Went in, there he is on the new sheets sweating away.

Just wear a fucking t-shirt! That’s all I’m asking for.
I don’t want to bring it up. Every. Bloody. Time. I don’t.

AIBU to be sick of “nagging”? I’m the problem, of course!
Say nothing, and I’ll be told the house is dirty etc…

I mean I like sleeping naked and if someone was telling me I couldn’t do that in my own bed I’d be pissed off

Yeah, you're nagging. To have it done your way. I'd absolutely ignore you if you kept going on about wearing a t shirt in bed.

It's too hot to sleep in a T-shirt at the moment

So he can’t sleep naked? That is a bit controlling. Guess he needs to start washing the sheets then if he wants to sleep naked, which many people do.

Except you do want things done your way? I don't really know anyone that sleeps in a t-shirt, especially in this weather 😂

Yeah you are a bit whiny and naggy to be honest.

I don't think a T-shirt is going to do much to protect the sheets from sweat, really. He'll just sweat through it to the sheets.

I mean if he’s already sweating naked then surely he’d be sweating through a t shirt too? 😵‍💫

Fair enough. Stale sweaty sheets for me then, I guess!

Pick your battles, OP. There are much worse things than sleeping naked.

YABU.

A T-shirt is not an impenetrable sweat barrier. The only way to stop the sheets from getting sweaty is to stop him from sweating.

You tell your dh what to wear? If he’s that sweaty then the Tshirt really isn’t going to help much. You can’t tell another adult what clothing to wear - that’s pretty messed up.

He's allowed to feel comfortable in his own bed. Isn't he?

Does he sleep on your side, or does it only affect his side?

I’m fed up of reminding DH to wash up pans and clean the cooker top after cooking steak (for himself) and splashing fat all over it. He’ll leave the frying pan and cooker for days.

The other day he cooked burgers under the grill and left the pan in to soak for 2 days! It rusted the inside of the porcelain sink. Even DS18 & DS19 clean up after him!

I refuse to clean his mess. DC & I use the air fryer and it’s always clean 😊

But your sheets aren’t stale and sweaty from your husband just laying on your bed with his top off …. unless he had just got back from the gym or a run and was physically lying on the sheet, dripping wet with sweat,
or he doesn’t shower?

I can’t imagine being told what I can or can’t wear to bed.
It’s also a billion degrees at the minute, don’t you think he’d sweat more with a t shirt on? Does he own a t shirt that wicks away the sweat magically so it doesn’t hit the sheets, do you not sweat a little in this weather ?

I appreciate your love for fresh bed sheets, but think in this instance think you’re being unreasonable 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s more that he can’t be arsed just getting one.
Bed is fresh. T-shirts are fresh. Just put it on?

I don’t tell him what to wear. He’s a hairy & sweaty.
Does my comfort in bed not matter at all?

Does his comfort in bed not matter at all?

In this heat wearing a t shirt will make him hotter, which will make him sweat more. T shirts are not impermeable. That sweat will still end up on the sheets.

It really is utterly pointless (and controlling) to try to make him wear one.

Buy a fan. Screwfix are very cheap.

Easy solution: sleep in separate beds. It's much more sensible in hot weather anyway.

I sleep naked. If you told me to wear an t shirt I’d tell you to do one.

Also, surely he’s sweating on his side? It’ll barely impact you.

Honestly, if you really think it's ok to tell your DH that he has to wear a t-shirt to bed, that's weird and controlling behaviour. I can't imagine even thinking about what DH wears to bed. If the sheets get sweaty, that's on his side anyway so why would that impact you? It's so bloody hot at night, I don't wear anything and if anyone told me I had to wear a t-shirt, I'd tell them to f off!

This.

Like fuck would I be wearing a t shirt in this heat.

And if my husband told me to, I'd tell him to fuck off and sleep on the sofa.