Next door sex noises with kids in house

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Wondering what (if anything) to do about next door neighbour family.

They’ve been next door for about a year. Always slightly ‘chaotic’ but nothing too bad eg they are very messy and noisy, they have pets running everywhere including a monkey in a cage, the mum doesn’t seem to have a job and screams at the kids a lot (no dad present).

I WFH and have noticed that often the kids aren’t at school during the day. They do go sometimes but not all the time. Kids seem to be early teens.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been disturbed multiple times in the day by very loud sex noises coming from next door. The mum is clearly enjoying herself with someone who I can also hear. It’s not massively enjoyable to hear this but I wouldn’t care except that there have been times that the kids are there too. I’ve seen them in the garden whilst mum is inside upstairs clearly having sex. I think this is wildly inappropriate to the point of wondering if I should report the whole situation to someone. Would you?

Part of me is hesitant because ‘Having sex whilst kids are in the house’ is fine, but when you add ‘daytime’ ‘plus ‘they should be at school’ plus ‘really quite loud’ I get bothered.

Sorry but... A MONKEY IN A CAGE?

I think you could legitimately report to Social services re the chaotic nature and kids not being in school. Probably the family are already known and your info will be another piece of the puzzle.

Personally I think it’s nasty when people have sex loud enough to be heard by neighbours etc. but I know Mumsnet generally doesn’t agree.

The way ‘monkey in a cage’ was just casually dropped 😂 I’m sorry I can’t get past this. Where on Earth do you live?

OP I think you wouldn't be unreasonable to report your concerns to social services

Yeah this ^ I literally couldn't take in any other part of your post...where the fuck do you live?

I also agree with referring to SS. Somebody needs to have an eye on the children, to be having loud sex with them in ear shot is grim and totally inappropriate.

Social services aren't going to be interested that a mum has a sex life, and the kids' schools will already be perfectly aware that their attendance is patchy. I don't see anything here that needs reporting... unless there is more you are not saying.

Poor monkey. Is it being cared for properly? I’d have to move - sounds so unpleasant all round.

I’m a student social worker, so not yet qualified, but I urge you to please report this.

How old are the children? They may already be known to services, and if there is nothing to be concerned about then nothing will come of your report, but safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility and I’d be concerned about those children.

Make a referral to social , you can be an anonymous caller if you prefer.

I would 100% report to social services. Up to them whether they do anything but at least they’d be involved.

Contact the rspca and children’s services (google mash and your county and that will give you the number to call).

Are you serious? Of course this is an issue to report to SS! 🤯

This isn’t technically true.

It’s one thing to have a sex life and your children accidentally catching you, it’s another to have loud, obvious sex in the vicinity of your children and could actually be considered as a form of child abuse.

Combined with the other concerns, it definitely is worth reporting. It is not our job to assess the situation, the OP should report her concerns and social services will do that. If there is nothing to be concerned about, the file will be closed.

I lived near a couple of people who made loud sex noises. One was a student house so just young and silly. The other was a prosititue.

Her making loud noises during the day with kids at home isn't normal. Id guess she might be some sort of sex worker.

You should report though reckon they'll care more about the kids being off school than they will the sex stuff.

Oh gosh, it all sounds very chaotic. Yes I would definitely report. But it’s the monkey in the cage that stood out to me. What the? How big is this cage and any idea if it’s being cared for appropriately? I’d guess not considering what else you’ve said about the kids. Call the RSPCA too!

Sounds like the RSPCA might be more appropriate.

The monkey in the cage! Ok - to give more details. It is a huge cage. Maybe ten feet tall by ten feet wide. And it’s a tiny monkey. But it is still a monkey in a cage. I was slack jawed when I saw it.
Sometimes the monkey isn’t in the cage so I presume is in the house, roaming free. It is a bizarre set up, yes.

Please do report the monkey to the RSPCA.

Since 2023 the new animal welfare bill has increased the expectations of people who keep primates as pets and the days of it being acceptable to keep a primate in a bird cage (usually with poor nutrition) are, thankfully, at an end.

I’d be reporting them to the police for illegally keeping a wild animal. The sex noises wouldn’t be as much of a priority.

That's actually a massive cage by primate pet trade standards.

Most idiots keep (legally until very very recently) small primates in tiny bird cages 😡

It's legal in the UK to own small primates as pets.

Until 2023 it was even technically legal to keep them in shitty small bird cages

I’d hate her with a passion just for having a monkey as a pet, the sex noises would just be icing on the cake. It must be horrible to live next door to, you have my sympathy.

Report monkey to rspca
Woman to SS.
Doesn't sound like either the kids or pets are cared for .

Where the hell would someone even buy a monkey from?!