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Next door sex noises with kids in house

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Dayushorribilis · 24/06/2025 07:21

Wondering what (if anything) to do about next door neighbour family.

They’ve been next door for about a year. Always slightly ‘chaotic’ but nothing too bad eg they are very messy and noisy, they have pets running everywhere including a monkey in a cage, the mum doesn’t seem to have a job and screams at the kids a lot (no dad present).

I WFH and have noticed that often the kids aren’t at school during the day. They do go sometimes but not all the time. Kids seem to be early teens.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been disturbed multiple times in the day by very loud sex noises coming from next door. The mum is clearly enjoying herself with someone who I can also hear. It’s not massively enjoyable to hear this but I wouldn’t care except that there have been times that the kids are there too. I’ve seen them in the garden whilst mum is inside upstairs clearly having sex. I think this is wildly inappropriate to the point of wondering if I should report the whole situation to someone. Would you?

Part of me is hesitant because ‘Having sex whilst kids are in the house’ is fine, but when you add ‘daytime’ ‘plus ‘they should be at school’ plus ‘really quite loud’ I get bothered.

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SporadicMincePieMuncher · 24/06/2025 12:11

I would have purchased an obnoxiously large 80s style boombox and taken it down the road to point at the house playing things like Boombastic by Shaggy, or Marvin Gaye's Let's Get It On at full volume for the amorous couple until they got the point. I bet the other neighbours would cheer you as a hero, or at least understand why you were doing it!

(Oops, this was meant to quote the poster who said she could hear a couple 6 doors down the street)

ButteredRadish · 24/06/2025 14:25

@ZippyBrickAh yes that age old trick of declaring anyone who dares criticise anything as being ‘JeAlOuS’ 🙄🙄🙄 Are you 12?

MsDDxx · 24/06/2025 14:57

ResidentPorker · 24/06/2025 07:40

I’d be reporting them to the police for illegally keeping a wild animal. The sex noises wouldn’t be as much of a priority.

It’s not necessarily illegal.

My dad’s friend used to keep monkeys. One attacked him and he had to kill it to get it off him (this was about 40 years ago!).

Blanknotebook · 24/06/2025 15:51

Poor monkey having to listen to that!

kellygoeswest · 24/06/2025 16:40

I'm concerned about the monkey tbh. I know Monkey World in Dorset have taken in a lot of capuchins (and maybe other?) types of monkey who were neglected or in unsuitable conditions on peoples homes. They should always have company and have a very specific diet, which without can lead to severe health problems.

Would you consider reporting them to the RSCPA and/or your local Environmental Health Team? It might also be worth getting in touch with Monkey World directly too.

Keeping Capuchin Monkeys As Pets | RSPCA - RSPCA - rspca.org.uk

ThisSillyFox · 24/06/2025 17:16

AutumnFog · 24/06/2025 09:06

Neglect - children in garden alone while mum is having sex
Abuse - exposure to sexual activity
Abuse - depending on the extent the yelling
Potential Neglect - state of the house
Potential Neglect - DC are appearing healthy (enough to be alone in the garden) and potentially being phoned into school as unwell
Illegal animal abuse - monkey in a cage

I'm astounded that you don't see anything worth reporting

The kids are in their teens. So hardly neglect if a teen can’t use the garden unattended for an hour.

RobertaFirmino · 24/06/2025 18:23

Katemax82 · 24/06/2025 10:08

The children are probably mentally scarred

That poor monkey, torn from their mother, most certainly is.

HarryBlackberry1 · 24/06/2025 18:26

What sort of dreadful people keep a monkey in a cage? You need to report them asap. Awful.

DurinsBane · 05/07/2025 18:21

Dayushorribilis · 24/06/2025 09:14

Unless the monkey has a rudimentary grasp of the English language and can make both male and female sounds, it’s not the monkey I’m hearing.

Thanks for the comments. I will investigate an anonymous mention to children’s services. I do feel sorry for the kids. The house isn’t well looked after and there are a lot of raised voices. The kids look clean enough but a bit dishevelled generally. It’s just this loud sex thing that’s pushed me over the edge as it’s so grim. They can obviously hear it too. God knows who the man is but obviously he doesn’t care either.

Maybe she is trying to convince a school headmaster to allow her kids into his school? Think Forest Gump 😁

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