Next door sex noises with kids in house

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Wondering what (if anything) to do about next door neighbour family.

They’ve been next door for about a year. Always slightly ‘chaotic’ but nothing too bad eg they are very messy and noisy, they have pets running everywhere including a monkey in a cage, the mum doesn’t seem to have a job and screams at the kids a lot (no dad present).

I WFH and have noticed that often the kids aren’t at school during the day. They do go sometimes but not all the time. Kids seem to be early teens.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been disturbed multiple times in the day by very loud sex noises coming from next door. The mum is clearly enjoying herself with someone who I can also hear. It’s not massively enjoyable to hear this but I wouldn’t care except that there have been times that the kids are there too. I’ve seen them in the garden whilst mum is inside upstairs clearly having sex. I think this is wildly inappropriate to the point of wondering if I should report the whole situation to someone. Would you?

Part of me is hesitant because ‘Having sex whilst kids are in the house’ is fine, but when you add ‘daytime’ ‘plus ‘they should be at school’ plus ‘really quite loud’ I get bothered.

Is that even legal in this country?

You need a license.

That is uncalled for and pathetic.

Is it a big monkey? Or a chinchilla which can be kept as pets.

Its probably a marmoset.

The kids are in the garden, they're not sat on the next couch. Do you not have sex when the kids are asleep in the next room?

@ZippyBrick oh come on with the ‘you’re jealous of her sex life’. Chances are OP has a preferable sex life of her own, like most people, not involving being overheard by teenagers while a caged monkey shrieks

Your local neighborhood monkey emporium, obviously! 😅

But what's not pathetic, calling the police or social services because there's an adult having sex with another adult, and they have a strange pet...

OP, you can call NSPCC and have a chat about concerns.

'It’s one thing to have a sex life and your children accidentally catching you, it’s another to have loud, obvious sex in the vicinity of your children and could actually be considered as a form of child abuse.'

This. Please report op. What you can hear is bad enough god knows what they they actually witness living there. She clearly needs help and support and yes as others have said a monkey in a cage?!

The kids aren’t asleep.

The sex is loud enough to be heard by neighbours, so it’s likely that the children can hear.

Having loud sex in the vicinity of children is not ok and is actually considered a form of abuse, why is this so difficult for you to understand?

Not sex loud enough for the neighbours and kids to hear. Do you? Why on earth do you find it sexy and enviable for your kids to hear you having sex?

Report to social services. God knows who these men are that are agreeing to have sex while the children wait in the garden.

This is a huge safeguarding issue and sounds like neglect. You must report.

Apart from all the comments made and other issues. I think the only way forward about the sex noises is to politely mention it to the couple that their noises are rather loud!

Many years ago I had a similar with neighbours and they said they could hear us and we had a good laugh about it.

Neglect - children in garden alone while mum is having sex
Abuse - exposure to sexual activity
Abuse - depending on the extent the yelling
Potential Neglect - state of the house
Potential Neglect - DC are appearing healthy (enough to be alone in the garden) and potentially being phoned into school as unwell
Illegal animal abuse - monkey in a cage

I'm astounded that you don't see anything worth reporting

That's what got me as well! THAT should be reported, is it even legal?

This is great. Is there anything you're aware of, suggesting it's animal abuse to have a monkey in a cage. You can't just make up definitions for reporting

Unless the monkey has a rudimentary grasp of the English language and can make both male and female sounds, it’s not the monkey I’m hearing.

Thanks for the comments. I will investigate an anonymous mention to children’s services. I do feel sorry for the kids. The house isn’t well looked after and there are a lot of raised voices. The kids look clean enough but a bit dishevelled generally. It’s just this loud sex thing that’s pushed me over the edge as it’s so grim. They can obviously hear it too. God knows who the man is but obviously he doesn’t care either.

What’s wrong with you? You’d seriously just ignore this situation? Having loud sex during the day when you know you are in earshot of children is child abuse. It’s a bit different to trying to be discreet at night and your child accidentally walking in. All the other bits of this story add up to a worrying picture - social services should definitely take a look.

Wow you are in fire today !

OP I would report this for sure, trust your gut. If it’s nothing then no problem.

Aren't you late for school?