Sorry - another bridezilla ish one

[bagpuss90]

My niece is marrying in October. Her day - her rules . But aibu to be a bit shocked at the dress code ? We are all to wear black and only black. No hats. No fascinators. No flowers in our hair. No coloured shoes or handbags. And wait for it - no nail polish. She wants a monochrome wedding.

Bit weird & not what I would choose. However it’s her day. If you don’t like it, it’s not mandatory to go to something just because you’re invited. For me personally, I’d just think cool, her wedding, her choice & go rummaging in my wardrobe for my best black dress. I always find it odd that people get so het up about having to do things that are someone else’s preference for ONE day.

How absolutely depressing…….I dare you, OP, to wear a fully skirted black dress with a very bright pink petticoat beneath that shows ever so slightly when you walk! Go on, you know you want to 🤣🤣

It feels like the people who will see the pics on instagram are much more important than the guests at the wedding. The guests at the wedding are just background scenery.
It's her choice but to my mind, this is a sign of the times and I think it's rude.

*O not E! Never heard anything similar!

The nail polish and handbags part are what pushes it over the edge for me 🤨 it's damn near impossible to find adequate pockets on clothing, nevermind wedding attire!

@bagpuss90 do you know how many people might be attending? Will the bride even have time to notice the state of each guest's nails on the day? 🥴 I hope she finds she is too busy enjoying the celebration to even think about it!

Dress codes at weddings are tacky. People are spending money to come and eat average food, they often have to foot up for a hotel, and gifts are expected. I'll wear something I already own, or buy something I will wear again.

@AliCatWalk i read it as only black handbags rather than none at all. I'd have to buy a new one or rely on dh's pockets as I don't own a black bag or plain black dress.

I have questions.....
Will there be a prefect on the door to check everyone's nails?
If you have navy shoes will you be made to go barefoot?
Will they have confiscation boxes for coloured items?
If you have red lipstick on, will you be made to wipe it off?
I don't even think the Puritans were this bad.

Get 2 bin liners. One for the dress, one for the bag

Yeah, thing is, people say "oh it's her day", but there is such a thing as being a decent host and not having rigid rules for people celebrating your special day.
The black ruling is particularly bad.

Sorry but I'd decline because you know someone is going to go off brand and the tantrum from someone who sounds rather childish is would make me injure myself laughing.

Interesting point, maybe OP should turn up in full goth makeup just to be safe (minus the black nail polish of course 😉)

It's a wedding, though. That's what makes it a bit odd. I wonder if these people have never been to a funeral and don't have the association of a room full of people in black.

Would black nail varnish be allowed though? Or is there a nail varnish ban?

TBH I am loving the idea all black and no frills.

But I might be tempted to wear a black sleeveless with glitter moisturiser on my shoulders.

Surely the beautiful hair clips would have to be black?

Are sparkles allowed?.🤔

Jezebel! 🙀

Ooooo I'd love to go to a wedding like this.....but yeah my nails would be painted lol

Their wedding. They can demand whatever the heck they want. Your choice to attend or not. I’m quite sure whatever choices you made for yours were equally lambasted by a few of your guests.

I once went to a 21st with a strict monochrome dress code. The birthday girl made her appearance in a bright red dress.

We all thought it was the most tragically attention-seeking thing ever. And totally unnecessary - everyone knew it was her birthday .

I doubt it very much, you must realise that only allowing your guests to only wear black and no nail varnish is completely unacceptable and off the scale of batshit crazy!

And FYI they can’t demand what guests wear, they can request, the guest can accept or decline the invitation.

Or turn up in whatever attire they like and make the B&G refuse entry….. now that would be interesting.

How embarrassing for her!

Look at meeeeeeeeeee!!!!

Ooh, that might be toeing the line...I think a thick line of dirt under the nails at the very most (so as not to be distasteful)

Just ignore that. But go with the black dress code and just cringe that the photos will look awful in a few years time.