Sorry - another bridezilla ish one

[bagpuss90]

My niece is marrying in October. Her day - her rules . But aibu to be a bit shocked at the dress code ? We are all to wear black and only black. No hats. No fascinators. No flowers in our hair. No coloured shoes or handbags. And wait for it - no nail polish. She wants a monochrome wedding.

Black I can live with, it's easy

I am not sure I could gather the energy to figure out what to wear for a theme "garden party" or "funky fresh formal" or blue outfit with bright pink Ostrich feather nonsense.

To be fair, many people don't wear black to funerals. You can be respectful but navy/ grey and similar are perfectly acceptable.

I wouldn't wear the same black dress for funeral or wedding either personally. Not the same style.

Can I be honest? Sounds like an Instagram wedding but… I’d just go with it and would happily wear a black dress if that’s what they want.

But no nail polish! Is insane… that’s the bit that made me laugh

Well I'd go because it's my niece and I love my nieces dearly but it would be a shame as I try to look my best at weddings and black makes me look dead. I also love wearing hats and would very sad not to be allowed to wear one.

Omg the photos will look terrible.

Sorry this is such comedy. I need to go for a lie down.

I doubt people are going to remove their gel nails for her wedding so she will be disappointed

😂😂😂

My friend had a black and white wedding about 13 years ago. No extreme rules about hats and nail polish, just a black and white dress code. Her dress was white with a large black sash and she looked amazing.

Didnt see anything wrong with it.

Most blacks look grey in colour photos taken in daylight. And all the blacks will look very different when seen together, depending on fabric.

I'm afraid that I'm the auntie/cousin who will go my own way & wear what I want. What's she going to do? Throw me out?

There's an old adage 'Married in Black, you'll wish yourself back'.

Sod that. I don't have anything suitable in black (I'm very fair & black isn't good for me), but the closest I could get to would be grey.

Turn up on trackies, hoodie & y-shirt obviously in black.

I look dreadful wearing black.

Her wedding, her rules. If you do not want to comply just do not go. That said my nails would be painted black too. I never have bare nails.

I think your attitude is a lot worst than being a bridezilla. Do you need to bring all the attention to yourself, do you want to make a scene?

Why bother? Just don't go. You would just be showing the world you are rude and obnoxious. Why would you want that?

Blimey I went to a funeral last week and the wife of the deceased asked us not to wear black as it would too depressing. She wanted to celebrate her husband’s life.
Black at a wedding sounds really miserable.

Don't men wear black suits to funerals

Remind her that no one really cares that much about her nuptials - it's an insignificant speck in most people's calendars - and she needs to wind her neck in if she wants people to attend.

Or just don't attend. I will take any excuse to get out of something like this - and this is a good one!

Usually only a plain black tie with a standard suit in navy or grey.

It’s an Instagram trend. The black dresses were all evening dresses in the one I saw and looked very stylish so quite different to a funeral. I think north American wedding dress code tends to be more evening dress than in the uk (my brother’s Canadian mil wore a beautiful evening gown to their wedding but looked a bit bridesmaid but I’ve since discovered that’s normal in North America). It’s not what I would choose but I don’t think it’s that outrageous a request.

I don't get all this focus on the wedding. They have Hen & Stag weekends abroad, dress codes, etc.

The wedding is just one day. I get it that they want nice photos, but, after 38 years of marriage they will be mostly replaced with photos of the children & grandchildren. It's the marriage that's important not the wedding.

Surely all men ( apart from poor ones) own a black suit.

Not many do. Most wear dark grey or dark blue.

I look like death in all black, that'll ruin her aesthetic.

But a black shirt has negative connotations. My DH would never buy or wear a black shirt as affiliated with fascists.

My DH only has a black suit