AIBU to say no to a Skiing Trip with the school?

[Lollylucyclark101]

So when my son was 12, he was invited to go on a Skiing trip with his school. The total cost was £3000… this didn’t include spending money or equipment hire; and extras we needed to buy before going. Me and my husband (not my sons father) said no; as we couldn’t afford it. My sons now 18, and no it’s never effected his life.

my stepdaughter is now 12 and now has had the same letter from her school. £3500. Automatically I’ve said no, as we can’t afford (£1500 odd quid) it.

Shes shown no interest in Skiing ever and why should the children be treated differently?

anyway, know this is going to be a huge row. Husband is saying “maybe, we will see” which to me is giving her false hope, when he should be saying no, regardless of if she gets upset. Because he KNOWS we can’t afford it.

there loads of other cheaper trips she can go on…. Germany, Milan etc, but the skiing trip is just out of our budget.

i don’t think schools should be allowed to do these expensive trips either! Only the rich kids get to go 🙄

anyway….. am I being the AH here?

The point I am trying to make is that she was the only one able to make the decision for her son as she was the only (biological) parent and they are the only household therefore paying the full cost.

Regarding the DSD her mother is still on the scene so therefore it is a different situation and really one between the dad and mum as to whether they initially agree to the trip and to then work out the details of whose paying (in this situation one household would not be paying over £3000 as the cost could be halved between them, hence being different to when the OP son would have gone and she would have had to have found the full amount).
If this was the other way round and a mum posting about their biological child being prevented from doing something because the SD wouldn't consider it, people would be outraged. They can afford a horse so I don't think budget can be that tight and as suggested maybe dad can use his personal savings. Or I also suggested the horse goes and the money from that pays towards ski trip.

None of this might be relevant anyway as mum may also agree that the cost is too much and to say no.

THEY said no to her son for financial reasons. They share money, it was a joint decision