Would you go to a destination wedding in Italy?

[Camde]

We’re looking at potentially having a wedding in a villa in Italy.

Accomodation would be included, so people would just have to pay for flights.

Will people resent us, or would you be happy to do a weekend in Italy for a wedding?

I am doing this next week! DH 2B is Italian, I sounded out my nearest and dearest on the British side and they couldn't wait! Of course some were unable, which we expected and understood. There were more Brits able to travel than Italians so that's how we decided. (The bureaucracy has been a nightmare though!)

Logistics and cost are what it boils down to. The former is finding flights that work, taking time off work, potentially sorting out childcare, etc. The latter is how much are those costs and what are the other financial outlays that a trip abroad would entail outside of accommodation - transfers, food and drink outside of the wedding reception and breakfast. Also as other posters have mentioned, is it an actual legal wedding? I went to a destination wedding in Germany because it was two dear friends who, although they were both living in London, were German and wanted to get married in their homeland with a service in their own language. I’m not sure that in the current climate I would be as inclined to go to a destination wedding which would probably be my only holiday for that year, unless the couple had a connection to the place in which they were getting married and it was a legal ceremony. In that instance I would be more than happy to go to an after wedding celebration event back in the UK instead.

@tumblingdowntherabbithole Sadly that says a lot about you. Not a very giving attitude. Having said that, it’s pretty common now. Thinking of No1. Shame really.

It would also make a difference to me if I could tag a holiday on. So would have to meet that criteria. I’ve noticed a trend for tiny weddings now and I guess it’s cost.

I agree - it does say a lot about me - it says I have autism and can't cope with big crowds, loud noise and lots of movement and unpredictability.

Luckily my friends and family don't make the same unpleasant judgements as you.

Absolutely yes. I went for my friend’s wedding abroad, as did all our friends and her family. It was amazing! Go for it ❤️. Congratulations 🥂

If I could afford it and felt close enough to you I might. I’d prefer to make a week of it though so it might depend on getting time off.

@tumblingdowntherabbithole Good grief. Why not say that in the first place! You don’t like people.

I see you around on MN 50% of the time giving good advice, 50% of the time picking a fight.

If the bride or groom happened to be someone I was extremely close to, I would go. For anyone other than that, not a chance. I don’t really enjoy weddings and wouldn’t want to spend money travelling to a “destination wedding.” It wouldn’t just be the flight but all the attendant costs: transport to the airport, food during the journey, paying for a dog-sitter, etc. I didn’t have a wedding of my own (we had the equivalent of a registry office). I know a lot of people love weddings, but I would decline politely.

Where did I say I didn't like people? Hint: I didn't.

Also, I shouldn't have to announce my disability to prevent unpleasant comments from people either.

Honestly @tumblingdowntherabbithole you've done and said nothing wrong at all.

Definitely, I’ve been to a destination wedding for a friend and it’s the best wedding I’ve ever been to

Thank you! :)

I'm used to people making snap and unpleasant judgements about me by now sadly, it's happened on here for years.

I'd definitely be up for that! Sounds lovely

Probably not but it would be too awkward with kids, money, annual leave.

I've only ever been invited to one once, originally the destination was Italy but I couldn't go because I was getting married myself a week later. Then the destination got changed to further afield the year after but I still couldn't go because money was tight after my wedding.

I went to their UK version instead and was quite happy to. I can't remember which one was the "real one" but it didn't bother me either way. I was happy to celebrate the marriage however it happened.

No, I dont use my holidays for other people's weddings

No. But then I resent having to travel to "distant" weddings in the UK.

We would, we would try to make a little holiday out of it. We got married abroad but it was my hometown and my grandma wouldn't have been able to be present otherwise, however I would understand that some people might not like destination weddings if none of the people getting married are from the place.

Can your nearest and dearest afford the time to go?
If you are happy with a smaller wedding with only those who can afford to go, enjoy an Italian wedding.
Will it be the actual wedding?

You paying the accommodation is a great bonus. You say they would only have to pay flights, but if it was me I’d have to consider, would it really just be the flight I’m paying for, or (more likely), is it the flight, plus taxi from airport to villa, and taxi to get anywhere else when not attending wedding? Villas are usually out on their own in the middle of nowhere.

Brutal as it sounds, I would only attend a wedding like this if I was able to use it as a holiday. Travelling to a destination wedding involves taking precious annual leave from work, and travel expense. If I was able to spend a day or two celebrating the wedding and then also enjoy some holiday time I would go. If I was only attending your wedding but would then be in the middle of nowhere with nothing else to do or enjoy, I wouldn’t come.

I probably wouldn’t go to a destination wedding anywhere, to be brutally honest. I just don’t want to have to spend my money on flights to a location someone else has chosen for me. Each time I did that I’d be essentially be missing out on spending that money on a trip I actually wanted to go on.

Hell yes, love a destination wedding. (But I get decent annual leave, and can afford it - it would likely be different if I didn’t/couldnt).

Probably not. If I'm spending a shit ton of money on a holiday, then I'd want to be spending my time doing what I'd want.

I'm happy to spend a weekend of my time at a wedding, but wouldn't want to spend that same time at a wedding in a foreign country, because I'd want to be out exploring that foreign country.

I'd probably only attend a destination wedding if it was my daughter, my brother, or a parent.