Would you go to a destination wedding in Italy?

[Camde]

We’re looking at potentially having a wedding in a villa in Italy.

Accomodation would be included, so people would just have to pay for flights.

Will people resent us, or would you be happy to do a weekend in Italy for a wedding?

It would depend when the wedding was for me as I hate being dressed up in scorching weather so cooler months I would but summer - no chance!

now - yes I would and I’d love it as financially secure and it would be wonderful fun.

The last 20 years - I couldn’t have dreamt to coming - money was too tight for us to go abroad as raising the kids was so expensive.

if people don’t come - it’s not because they don’t love you or don’t care - but they may not be able to manage kids, leave or have the financial means to make it.

having a wedding abroad you have to accept that many won’t come for many reasons that are not a slight in you and your wedding but just the realities of juggling life with all its expenses and realities

I think this would be so stressful for you because it's so hard to predict numbers for a destination wedding so choosing the right villa would be almost impossible.

Yes if the accommodation was paid for I definitely would.

I would absolutely go! I’m not one of the mumsnet misery brigade who hates weddings, I love them and I’d save up to come. I’d need to bring two young kids though - unfortunately we don’t have anyone who could look after them whilst we went away for a weekend, so that would rule us out of a no kids wedding.

Yes - but do I have to stay in the villa with you all, can I book my own accommodation - what are the options for people who don't want to share?

I would! I love weddings and Italy is beautiful. Accommodation being covered is a bonus.

I wouldn’t resent you but I wouldn’t definitely go

with kids it would be unlikely I’d go, especially if it was in term time. I’d probably try to it if it wasn’t for the kids

I'd have to go if it was one of my kids but apart from that I wouldn't be available. I'm afraid.

Its a nice offer for you to provide
accommodation though.

There are a handful of people I would happily do this for. But I would stress about it to the max, would much rather stay in a hotel then have to deal with the group experience.

I wouldn't if the destination was somewhere I felt held "captive" for the duration of the event. You know, up in the hills, not a thing around like a shop, cafe, bar, village just a vineyard or a Tuscan villa etc. That would drive me mad, and having to mingle with the same people that are not family for the duration would also be a chore for me, like having to be "on" all the time.

Look, we are all different, some will like it, some will not. I'm just giving my reasons why I wouldn't depending on the location. If it was in a town/city around which I could base a few days sightseeing, that would be fine, otherwise no.

If you were a sibling or close friend then yes, I would. Otherwise, probably not but that's because I'm terrified of flying, not because of cost. I do Europe by train, bus and boat but, for a couple of days, that would take too long.

Ooh yes please. And I did. Although now they divorcing in a vicious way but the wedding was lovely!

Are you serious? I'd jump at the chance, it sounds fantastic.

It's expensive enough going to weddings in the UK. Also, I want to use my work holiday for me not be dictated by others. May not fit with work, family commitments. I'd have to know you as close family, wouldn't go for friend. Could easily end up spending £1k Way too much of a faff.

A good friend of mine got married in Italy. Her DH was Italian but they both lived elsewhere.

It was a glorious fiesta! They really took care of their guests from morning until late into the night. Children were most welcome and catered for to the max.

We flew in for the weekend. Flights and accommodation was on us but the evening before the wedding was on them as was the post wedding breakfast and everything on the day.

I do believe this kind of wedding is lovely if finances allow, AND if the B&G are mindful of guests personal expenses to get there and generously provide for a good portion of it regarding food and drinks.

We had mountains of prosecco and delicious Italian fare. I think your plans sound lovely. YANBU at all.

Italy, oh I'd definitely be there. I would probably add a few extra days on.

Our annual leave is mostly accounted for, so it would be tricky.

and as we wouldn’t be able afford another break, I’d resent having my holiday destination decided for me.

And when I take my holiday.

i wouldn’t want to be in Italy during height of summer.

I’m terrified of flying.

but if you were someone I love dearly, I’d find a way to make it work. and I’d secretly be hoping you realise the sacrifices your choice has cost me.

Further to my previous answer you would of course have to understand that it's likely some people wouldn't be able to go, or would choose not to.

It would depend on the date as I work term time.
And also I would only go if my husband and children were invited.

Depends on the time of year. Friends got married in Italy in August last year - I couldn’t go and all I heard from those that went was how unbearably hot it was. All togged up as it was a smart wedding and everyone just melting in jackets and long dresses. They had to delay the start of the wedding for 2 hours as it was getting near 40°C at the original time and no one could cope! It was a gorgeous location and a lovely party but ridiculously hot especially for British people (none of the bride or groom family are Italian!)

No.

If you were close family then yes of course. Probably not for friends even though I like weddings and live Italy . But then I’m at an age where it would probably be your —third— second marriage and rightly or wrongly I would feel less pressure to go (I’ve been married twice).

I would go if you were my sister, one of my closest friends or my child. Other than that I wouldn’t as it would stretch us financially. But I wouldn’t resent your choice.

Are your friends/family financially stable?

aAre they destination wedding people?

I don’t think anyone can really answer OP everyone’s circumstances are different finances, childcare, work other commitments the idea of staying in a villa with everyone at the wedding is my idea of a nightmare I would need my own space

i personally would only get married abroad if there was no expectation of anyone to travel & you would be happy to get married with loved ones missing