To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

[WarmDeer]

I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

Great. So his work colleagues have to deal with the nuclear fallout of him dropping his guts instead.

Why do you, or anyone, have the right to say that to someone

But separate to that I will go where I choose too and I wouldn't expect anyone else to control it like that

Absolutely bonkers!!!!!!
What about you op, did you have to take your morning shit at work too?
Very, very unreasonable!

That’s one of the most controlling things I’ve ever heard. It’s wrong on so many levels.

Firstly for most people office etiquette is usually to try not to do poos at work! How unpopular is he going to become with his colleagues if the first thing he does on arriving every day is take a big dump in the communal loo?

Secondly, how unfair that you are allowed to poo at home and he isn’t - if you really want this rule it has to go for both of you. You're behaving as if it’s YOUR house and he is merely a lodger who must obey your rules. You’ve made him a second class citizen in his own home.

Third, shaming him for having stinkier poos than you is just mean. And may or may not even be true - yours probably pong too but we can’t smell our own in the same way.

Fourth, if he’s regularly desperate to go and having to hold it in that is not only incredibly uncomfortable but may actually be damaging to his health.

YABVU.

Lot’s of homes only ever have one bathroom - do you think the wives in all of those homes ban their DH from doing number twos? Clue, they don’t. They open a window or use air freshener.

As someone said upthread, if a man was doing this to his wife there would be cries of abuse and LTB.

What kind of batshittery is this?

Just bleach the toilet after a shit and put the lid down. Open a window and spray something.

Close the bathroom door and open the window.

If his morning dump is that bad why should the thousands at work suffer.

I’d really struggle to delay my morning poo till work. I think YABU, just open a window surely?

As my nan used to say "do you think your shit don't stink?"

Unless he has an illness the smell should not longer for very long after flushing. If it's as bad as you say he needs to see his GP.

🥉 for @WarmDeer for bravery in the line of being "down to one bathroom"

It brings a tear to the eye

If this is indicative of the level of micro-management control you exert in the marriage, I really think he'd be better off without you. His body, his bog, his choice.

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

Doing his business? Are you married to a cockapoo?

Ah the old adage of my shit don’t stink

Utterly batshit and completely controlling but sure you know that. Also I’d much rather DH shit upstairs rather than use the downstairs bathroom because thats where I’ll be during the day. Is your downstairs bathroom magically many degrees cooler that it smells less that upstairs in the heat?

Maybe to your own nose but I can guarantee you your shit smells like shit too!

Pathetic post and I feel pathetic for reading it and bothering to answer.

Yeah my Mother tries this sort of rubbish with my dad. bye some spray for the bathroom, it's not fair on him. I mean you're taking it for granted he'll be able to just go on demand at work instead of going when his body tells him he's ready to go. Which can cause discomfort, until the feeling passes and actually could lead to other long term bowel issues. Sorry I'm a Nurse, I find this strange and pretty selfish. This is something I could have imagined my mother doing 20yrs ago to my dad.

This is bizarre, so you have two working toilets and he isn't allowed to use either of them? 😂

.

That doesn't alter the fact that it could be really embarrassing for him if he has to walk out of a cubicle after a shit to find people queuing. I mean, it must be terrible being 'down to one bathroom' 🙄but I think YABU and I don't know why your DH complied with your demand. He's entitled to take a dump in his own home, a home is kind of what these things are for.

Apart from anything else, it's not healthy to hold it in for too long.

I'm pretty sure your shit stinks too and is likely just as offensive to him!

👀

Beyond ridiculous.

This is next level. I've seen a few posts on here recently about men pooping in bathrooms, we all shit in my one and only bathroom because that's its purpose! I don't do make up or anything in there, no one should quite frankly.

Do you genuinely think your shit doesn't stink?

I always thought this was just a metaphor to explain a delusional narcissist.

"We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!"

This is just the oddest thing. 😐