To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

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I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

There is something called poo pouree I think? But Yabu to make him go to the office

Pre poo toilet drops or sprays are surprisingly effective. So is flushing and opening a window.
What happens when his colleagues ask him to Go before he arrives at work?
I think you were out of order embarrassing him by telling friends

He works in a large corporate office - capacity for about 3/4000 employees. It’s not a single toilet in a cramped space!

and what do you suppose those of us with one bathroom would do in this situation?

Perhaps he needs to see the doctor, or change his diet. I think its totally unreasonable to expect anyone to poo elsewhere.

@ThriveIn2025 so if someone needs to go then what?

How would the smell fester all morning?

Doesnt your toilet flush? Do you have a fan or windows?

That's creepily controlling. He'll leave you one day and I wouldn't blame him.

Makes no difference. It’s his home, FFS.

Once again, my mind is blown by people not just pooing when they need to either at home or at work. How do you hold on? I'd be in agony!

I'd tell you to fuck off
Ridiculous
Also it's not healthy not to obey natures 'call to stool'

It's his home. Open a window and get your smelling salts out.

One bathroom?! What madness is this? We should petition for charitable support for those suffering the horror of ONE BATHROOM immediately!

No one should be living in such deplorable & unsanitary conditions in this day & age, my god woman!

Won't somebody think of the children!!

No way would anyone be telling me what I can and can't do in my house that I pay for.
Controlling beyond belief

I have a partner who could strip walls with the odour he produces. We have 3 toilets and so he uses the one downstairs to preserve the respiratory tract of everyone else in the household.
I would never ask DP to not use a household toilet however. Delaying our need to go to the toilet is unhealthy; and it would be very unreasonable on my part to expect this of him. He wouldn't listen to me if I asked anyway; and quite rightly.

It’s not convenient being down to one bathroom but that doesn’t mean you get to kick your husband out of his own home to shit at work instead.

It’s only for a set amount of time, suck it up and deal with it.

He lives there, he can’t help how his shit smells. Open some windows and enjoy picking out the tiles for your new bathroom.

I’ll tell you to fuck right off. I’d also consider leaving your weird controlling self.

Perhaps the OP should start a Go Fund Me for a mobile loo in the garden for the duration.

Bit rough on his colleagues.

DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work

If i was "told" to do something, I'd be "telling" that person to fuck off.

HTH

Only on Mumsnet do people expect 💩 to smell of roses. 🙄🙄🙄

Surely you can just leave an upstairs windows open all day?

I wouldn’t make it to work before a pooh or two!

Bloody hell that is so weird. I can’t believe anyone is this controlling, a toilet has one use, it’s not an ornament in the bathroom .

Very unreasonable!

Open the window, light a candle, shut the door. 5 minutes and you wouldn't know anyone had been!

Orrr, get the poo spray they you spray in the toilet before going. I take them on holiday as hotel bathrooms rarely have windows.

Have you not heard of air freshener? Opening windows?

Telling someone when and where they can shit is bang out of order, shockingly so. I'm worried that your husband actually acquiesced. Do you have a pattern of "telling" him what he can and can't do, and what happens if he says no?