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To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

465 replies

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:36

I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

OP posts:
Hercisback1 · 21/06/2025 12:35

The horror of ONLY one bathroom.

You had me for a while OP. Tapping out now into 2025.

Pelvicpaininthebum · 21/06/2025 12:35

We only have one toilet. I make DH and the kids shit at the end of the garden.

Itisjustmyopinion · 21/06/2025 12:36

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Wind up or you completely lack any form of self awareness

Hallywally · 21/06/2025 12:38

Loads of houses only have bathroom, particularly older terraces etc. I’m also amused that people can delay their poos for prolonged periods 🤣

HelpMeGetThrough · 21/06/2025 12:41

If I was married to you OP, I’d take a shite in the kettle and leave for work.

Natsku · 21/06/2025 12:43

Just have him light a match afterwards, gets rid of the smell very quickly.

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 21/06/2025 12:43

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

How to say you are out of touch with reality without saying you are out of touch with reality.

Plenty of homes 'only' have one bathroom and toilet. Your dh can't help the smell he produces and you are treating him like he has the plague. Someone else hit the nail on the head with this earlier. If you were male and your dh female, people would be telling him to leave for being in a controlling relationship. I cannot believe you make him leave the house- who on earth do you think you are?

tuesday2am · 21/06/2025 12:45

If you’re being serious then get your head out the clouds, ma’am.

One bathroom houses are extremely common - even in the present day.

It’s absurd to expect your DH to literally not take a shit in HIS OWN HOUSE.

I guarantee you, your shit still stinks. Shocking the difference in standard you think you’re entitled to. Ew.

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 12:45

ruethewhirl · 21/06/2025 11:59

Why would a builder's shit smell any worse than anyone else's?

I imagine that poster was thinking its all the "beer and chips" they consume or some such nonsense

Gyozas · 21/06/2025 12:47

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

I mean, now you just sound like a fake snob, which is a bit weird. What’s your plan here?

What is with all the poo-phobic posters on here?

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 12:47

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 21/06/2025 12:15

Are you high?

Maybe I'm high.

😂

Phelicity · 21/06/2025 12:48

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:14

Our downstairs bathroom is off the utility room and easily separated from the rest of the house, so the smell doesn’t escape as it would upstairs. Whilst that was out of use, he was happy to relieve himself elsewhere each morning.

Oh….. off the utility room… not much better than the old outdoor privy then. Come to think of it - there’s an idea 💡

Matrons · 21/06/2025 12:49

OP you sound like hard work.

03cg73 · 21/06/2025 12:50

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Are you actually being serious? A lot of houses only have one bathroom. Mine and most of the people I know included. What you deem as “absurd” is actually completely normal to most people. Could you be any more patronising?

OonaStubbs · 21/06/2025 12:50

Toilets are for shitting in. Shit smells. Why do people have a problem with this?

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 12:51

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Ah I see what you are about you almost had us you went too far with this reply 😀

cardibach · 21/06/2025 12:52

Italiangreyhound · 21/06/2025 12:26

There is no way I could,.l 'do my business' to order!

I'd buy an air freshener or open a window.

We all lived with one bathroom a few decades ago!

My gran lived without any bathroom in the 60s. Toilet at the end of the garden (which, granted, would solve the OP’s smell issues) and a tin bath to fill from the only tap in the house. Pot under the bed for night time.

Pedallleur · 21/06/2025 12:54

Only 1 bathroom? My God won't someone think of the children!! Perhaps a campaign 'Two bathrooms for all' would be good for a political party.

starfishmummy · 21/06/2025 12:54

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:37

Because I don’t produce such nuclear level stenches, to be frank!

Of course you do, it's just that people don't notice their own stinks much.

wandawaves · 21/06/2025 12:55

What do you mean it "festers all morning"? Does he shit in a bucket?

Pedallleur · 21/06/2025 12:56

OonaStubbs · 21/06/2025 12:50

Toilets are for shitting in. Shit smells. Why do people have a problem with this?

Some people don't believe theirs does or the notion that people use a toilet is a taboo subject.

firebrand123 · 21/06/2025 12:59

Jesus H Christ, this is some serious controlling, belittling, out of line, diva behaviour alright. There's not words to describe how unreasonable this is. Poor bloke.

BMW6 · 21/06/2025 13:01

OP put a box of matches in the toilet and ask him to strike a match after every poo.

It burns the methane which is carrying the stink.

YABVVVU

Sharptonguedwoman · 21/06/2025 13:04

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

Bonkers. Completely bonkers, So you can't go to the loo at 3 am in the room designed for that purpose?

HelpMeGetThrough · 21/06/2025 13:06

BMW6 · 21/06/2025 13:01

OP put a box of matches in the toilet and ask him to strike a match after every poo.

It burns the methane which is carrying the stink.

YABVVVU

All this talk of matches has reminded me of when I tried to light a fart when I was pissed at a party. 😫😫