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To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

465 replies

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:36

I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

OP posts:
tumblingdowntherabbithole · 21/06/2025 12:15

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Are you high?

Maybe I'm high.

DancingFerret · 21/06/2025 12:16

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Get a grip; you sound very entitled. It's a fact a lot of properties in the UK have only one bathroom - and that the bathroom will be the only room with a WC, so shared by everyone who lives there.

The drive to build all new properties with a separate downstairs cloakroom is relatively recent - and also very sensible.

ilovesooty · 21/06/2025 12:16

Leapintothelightning · 21/06/2025 12:13

Hi 👋 I have a house with one bathroom in 2025.
IMAGINE 😱

So do I. I live on my own but there are plenty of couples and even families on my street. They seem to manage with one bathroom.

outerspacepotato · 21/06/2025 12:16

Struggle on in ignorance then.

Cherrytree86 · 21/06/2025 12:17

@WarmDeer

when you get divorced OP you might need to live in a bed sit with one bathroom. Divorce can be very expensive. And you’ll have to smell your own shit.

C8H10N4O2 · 21/06/2025 12:18

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

2/10

MyHouseInThePrairie · 21/06/2025 12:18

1- you dint have a downstairs bathroom but a downstairs toilet.
2- insisting your dh waits until work or goes to the gym is controlling!
3- you’re not even mentioning if that applies to you too!!
4- most people have a ‘schedule’ of when the body will be ready for a poo. You don’t just wait a bit longer like you would for a wee. Cue for issues with constipation. That is if you dint have bowels issues and urgency….

If you had tried that with me, I’d have laughed at you badly. Followed by telling you to f* off if you had insisted.
I mean if that was that much of a problem, you could have spent the day out if the house instead.

Kelly1969 · 21/06/2025 12:19

Bjorkdidit · 21/06/2025 11:58

Do they? I don't. The normal frequency is between 3 times a day and 3 times a week so it stands to reason that many people will need to go while they're at work.

Only on MN have I seen the expectation that a poo is supposed to conveniently appear in the narrow window between getting up and leaving the house in the morning for work.

The point is OPs DH is in a regular pattern of going for a dump before work.
whats with the “doing his business” op?
Treat him like a dog and talk about him like he’s a dog, you’re a delight aren’t you!

NooNakedJacuzziness · 21/06/2025 12:19

TesChique · 21/06/2025 11:35

I poo at work every day. How do you not?

I’d much rather poo on works time than my own - it’s one of life’s small pleasures!

MyHouseInThePrairie · 21/06/2025 12:19

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:14

Our downstairs bathroom is off the utility room and easily separated from the rest of the house, so the smell doesn’t escape as it would upstairs. Whilst that was out of use, he was happy to relieve himself elsewhere each morning.

No he couldn’t be bothered with the fight.
Very different.

IanStirlingrocks · 21/06/2025 12:20

But, but then his colleagues will be subjected to his nuclear level stenches every day and have to work through it in a heatwave?

Gloriia · 21/06/2025 12:21

Evaka · 21/06/2025 12:11

He should investigate why his shit smells so badly.

You are being incredibly unreasonable to command a man not to poo in his own home.

Those saying they don't poo at work are also unreasonable, holding in isn't healthy and pooing is an incredibly normal, mundane bodily function.

Yes why is he producing such notice stenches? I can go into any bathroom after anyone in the house and not be repelled.

Maybe he needs to eat better?

Cherrytree86 · 21/06/2025 12:23

Gloriia · 21/06/2025 12:21

Yes why is he producing such notice stenches? I can go into any bathroom after anyone in the house and not be repelled.

Maybe he needs to eat better?

Whether you eat MacDonald’s or a plate of broccoli - shit will still stink.

CorbyTrouserPress · 21/06/2025 12:24

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

If I was your DH I would have shit in your bed

Alltheyellowbirds · 21/06/2025 12:24

outerspacepotato · 21/06/2025 12:16

Struggle on in ignorance then.

Wait till OP discovers that not only do sone people not have multiple bathrooms, some people don’t have utility rooms either…

Kelly1969 · 21/06/2025 12:25

Bjorkdidit · 21/06/2025 10:50

You posted a couple of weeks ago about how your DH wasn't allowed to do 'his business' in the ensuite didn't you?

You. Need. Help. It's a toilet. It's sole purpose is for the hygienic disposal of bodily waste. We are incredibly fortunate in this country to have near universal access to toilets and clean water. A significant proportion of the world doesn't

I prescribe you a week in rural Greece where you're not allowed to flush toilet paper as it will block the drains so you have to put shitty toilet paper in a bin, followed by another week in a developing country where the toilet is a latrine shared with dozens of other people. Then perhaps you will realise how ridiculous you're being.

Totally agree!
I think not flushing toilet paper is quite common in many countries in Europe that I’ve visited, if you’re lucky there’s a bidet to use!
its very entitled and actually bizarre to not allow a toilet to be used.
The only exception would be if someone is going to have a bath straight after in which case you’d try and avoid leaving it smelly!

RichHolidayPoorHoliday · 21/06/2025 12:25

CorbyTrouserPress · 21/06/2025 12:24

If I was your DH I would have shit in your bed

of course you would 🙄

soupyspoon · 21/06/2025 12:26

'Down to just the one bathroom'

Thoughts and prayers OP.

Italiangreyhound · 21/06/2025 12:26

There is no way I could,.l 'do my business' to order!

I'd buy an air freshener or open a window.

We all lived with one bathroom a few decades ago!

CorbyTrouserPress · 21/06/2025 12:27

RichHolidayPoorHoliday · 21/06/2025 12:25

of course you would 🙄

Sarcasm dear

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 21/06/2025 12:28

Italiangreyhound · 21/06/2025 12:26

There is no way I could,.l 'do my business' to order!

I'd buy an air freshener or open a window.

We all lived with one bathroom a few decades ago!

And millions of us still do!

Kelly1969 · 21/06/2025 12:30

Cherrytree86 · 21/06/2025 12:23

Whether you eat MacDonald’s or a plate of broccoli - shit will still stink.

Yes, in fact Broccoli farts are probably one of the worst, smells pretty bad before it goes in!

Zebedee999 · 21/06/2025 12:33

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:37

Because I don’t produce such nuclear level stenches, to be frank!

Honestly I'd look at his diet. Sounds like too much UPF and not enough protein/fibre.

JLou08 · 21/06/2025 12:34

Please say you're joking. Inflicting the smell on his work colleagues rather than in his own home.
Do you realise there are many peasants that have to live with just 1 bathroom all the time.

Italiangreyhound · 21/06/2025 12:34

Yes *tumblingdowntherabbithole of course millions still do. *