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Piss taking neighbour

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Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:18

Moved to a nice (ish) area a few months ago, knew when I saw the new neighbour that he was a prick. Unreal how entitled the people down this street are tbh. My family and I are not stuck up yet we’re not the pits or in the nightmare neighbour bracket but it’s clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.
So this twat hardly even says hello yet he stood at our garden fence watching as we were going to trim our hedges with our new hedge trimmer the other day and asked my partner if he would come and trim the hedge in his garden as it is our hedge that has grown over to his side. (I didn’t realise my partner hadn’t offered to do it himself and that this neighbour actually thinks it is our responsibility to do so and expects us to sort it as if it is our responsibility).
Fast forward to yesterday, a delivery guy attempts to deliver a package to this neighbour, rings his ring doorbell, I was in my garden at this point and heard loud and clear the neighbour say through the speaker that he was not home and to not leave the parcel with me but to take it to the other neighbours!
So he expects my partner to go and do his gardening yet we’re not good enough to take his parcel in? I could hear the disgust in his voice at the idea of the delivery man leaving his parcel with us.
He also stores his massive ladders in our garage because they won’t fit in his. Honestly I felt like launching his ladders over the fence for him to store where the sun doesn’t shine.
I could understand if we were scum bags and caused nuisance but we’re in bed by a reasonable time and do not make excessive noise or other anti social issues.
I realise I shouldn’t give it a second thought yet after hearing his tone about us to the driver I feel enraged at his cheek.

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 19/06/2025 06:22

Deliver his ladders outside his door asap (“sorry we need the garage for our stuff”) and try not to give the rude fucker any more headspace.

no more trimming the hedge - “sorry don’t have time, you are welcome to trim what’s on your side”

Do of this with a smile so he can’t accuse you of anything.

PersephoneParlormaid · 19/06/2025 06:23

It is his responsibility to trim any hedge on his side. And tell him to stick his ladders where the sun doesn’t shine.
Honestly, you need to nip this in the bud now or he’ll run rings around you until one of you moves.

Dangermoo · 19/06/2025 06:25

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Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:25

PersephoneParlormaid · 19/06/2025 06:23

It is his responsibility to trim any hedge on his side. And tell him to stick his ladders where the sun doesn’t shine.
Honestly, you need to nip this in the bud now or he’ll run rings around you until one of you moves.

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Thankyou, I will be doing just that.

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Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:29

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They were in the garage when we moved in, he said they were his and would we mind keeping them in there for him as the previous occupants didn’t mind. I wouldn’t mind, yet hearing him speak in that tone about us yesterday made me feel like used dirt, today I will leave his ladders on his property. I wanted to post on here to get other people’s input as I felt like maybe I was overreacting or being petty but I have woke up this morning and it’s the first thing on my mind

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Duckduck2 · 19/06/2025 06:37

I would be returning the ladders asap.

If you want to try and keep the piece you can say that you are having the garage done or there now isn’t room for them with all your own items.

OR if you are not bothered you can return them and say seeming as you don’t think we are capable of taking in a parcel for you we have decided to return the ladders as we do not want the responsibility of any items that don’t belong to us.

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 19/06/2025 06:39

Any particular reason why you are storing his ladders if you knew he was a prick when you first saw him. That's not the normal thing to do if you've taken an instant dislike to someone.

Your partner could have just declined to cut the hedge.

Unless you have ambitions to run a post office why would you be disgruntled hat you weren't the chosen one for the delivery.

Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:40

Thankyou for your response, I know I shouldn’t be giving him the head space and if my friend was telling me their neighbour had been behaving this way I would definitely give similar advice. I am going to man up today as they say and do exactly what you have said.

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Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:44

The ladders were already in the garage when we moved in and I’d have liked to have kept the peace as they say. However we have been here a few months now and I’d like to think that we have proven ourselves as nice normal neighbours. It’s not the fact of not getting chosen, it’s the way he described us and the tone he used suggested that we were not to be trusted.

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myplace · 19/06/2025 06:49

Before you rush to fall out with him, are you sure you correctly interpreted his tone? I might say ‘take it to No4, not no8’ because I know I’m going to no no4 later anyway. Or because I’ve been a nuisance to no8 already with my ladders and hedge so let’s bother no4. Or if I were allergic to no4s dog.

Dangermoo · 19/06/2025 06:52

Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:44

The ladders were already in the garage when we moved in and I’d have liked to have kept the peace as they say. However we have been here a few months now and I’d like to think that we have proven ourselves as nice normal neighbours. It’s not the fact of not getting chosen, it’s the way he described us and the tone he used suggested that we were not to be trusted.

I find it strange that previous neighbours left his ladders in your garage.

Sofiewoo · 19/06/2025 06:53

This is a really weird overreaction because someone doesn’t want their parcel left with you.

Guavafish1 · 19/06/2025 06:57

Maybe he has an arrangement with the other neighbour about parcels

RawBloomers · 19/06/2025 06:59

I would have thought the request to leave the parcel at a different neighbour was more about consideration for you and/or a relationship with the other neighbour that means he knows he’ll be able to get the parcel tonight (whereas he’s not close to you and presumably doesn’t know your schedule or how happy you are to take in parcels). But I didn’t hear his tone of voice which seems to be a big part of your issue with this.

If you want to live there for any length of time I would caution against any sort of retaliation. You need to change their minds about you to build relationships and, justified as it may be, returning the ladders etc is going to work against that.

OTOH if you will be moving on in a couple of years, have at it!

Lifestooshort71 · 19/06/2025 07:06

I think you're over-reacting here. Neighbour is probably good friends with the other side and knows it won't matter disturbing them later. I'd do the same tbh. As to the ladders you could just say you need the space back so could he find somewhere else to store them? The hedge cutting? Phew, mountain out of a molehill. Do you think perhaps you are looking for slights because you feel you don't fit in to the neighbourhood for some reason? Neighbours are like family - you can't choose them and you're a bit stuck with them so I'd give him back his ladders with a smile and then ignore.

LiquoriceStick · 19/06/2025 07:10

Blimey you're over thinking this.

You sound very highly strung.

MJQs · 19/06/2025 07:11

I can understand your upset at his tone about you, but you should be pleased you don't have to take in parcels n then have to interact with him.

Win win, surely??

HermioneWeasley · 19/06/2025 07:14

I think it’s much more likely theres a reason for leaving the parcel with the other neighbours that you’re not aware of and is nothing to do with him thinking you’re somehow “not good enough” to leave a parcel with.

BellissimoGecko · 19/06/2025 07:14

Don’t trim your hedge in bird nesting season. YABVVVU for that alone.

CopperWhite · 19/06/2025 07:18

You seem to be creating a huge drama in your head out of nothing.

JustAnInchident · 19/06/2025 07:19

Sofiewoo · 19/06/2025 06:53

This is a really weird overreaction because someone doesn’t want their parcel left with you.

This. Sorry, but it just sounds like you feel so insecure about your ‘social standing’ op that you’re allowing this to send you into a spiral. Flying off the handle about something so minor and dumping his ladders back on his property without a word will do far more to damage the neighbourly peace than not having a parcel left with you.

ClairDeLaLune · 19/06/2025 07:22

You sound racist tbh. Why aren’t you rushing you making a sweeping generalisation that the people in your street are entitled and that everyone looks down on you because you’re from a different culture?

The thing about the parcel is a total non-issue, weird that that would bother you. You’ve made no attempt to be friendly to him, so why would you think he’d choose you to take his parcel in? Maybe he’s more friendly with the other neighbour.

Stolenyouth · 19/06/2025 07:22

Honestly I wouldn’t be ‘dumping the ladders in his doorstep’. How dramatic and rude. Agree he could be trying to avoid annoying you by getting parcel delivered to a different neighbour.
I don’t know the full story as I’m not there but you do sound over dramatic.

HoskinsChoice · 19/06/2025 07:23

Violetraindrops · 19/06/2025 06:29

They were in the garage when we moved in, he said they were his and would we mind keeping them in there for him as the previous occupants didn’t mind. I wouldn’t mind, yet hearing him speak in that tone about us yesterday made me feel like used dirt, today I will leave his ladders on his property. I wanted to post on here to get other people’s input as I felt like maybe I was overreacting or being petty but I have woke up this morning and it’s the first thing on my mind

I'll be honest, I do think this is a massive overreaction. I'd back off a bit before you turn this into something it isn't. You started your post with your views on stuck up/different cultures/the pits/entitledblah blah blah. It feels like you have some kind of chip on your shoulder and have already pigeon holed people that you haven't had time to get to know. Chill out.

ClairDeLaLune · 19/06/2025 07:25

Also, you decided he was a prick when you first saw him? Before you’d even spoken to him? Do you always jump to conclusions and decide you’re not going to like someone for no reason whatsoever, or is it just people from a different culture?

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