Piss taking neighbour

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Moved to a nice (ish) area a few months ago, knew when I saw the new neighbour that he was a prick. Unreal how entitled the people down this street are tbh. My family and I are not stuck up yet we’re not the pits or in the nightmare neighbour bracket but it’s clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.
So this twat hardly even says hello yet he stood at our garden fence watching as we were going to trim our hedges with our new hedge trimmer the other day and asked my partner if he would come and trim the hedge in his garden as it is our hedge that has grown over to his side. (I didn’t realise my partner hadn’t offered to do it himself and that this neighbour actually thinks it is our responsibility to do so and expects us to sort it as if it is our responsibility).
Fast forward to yesterday, a delivery guy attempts to deliver a package to this neighbour, rings his ring doorbell, I was in my garden at this point and heard loud and clear the neighbour say through the speaker that he was not home and to not leave the parcel with me but to take it to the other neighbours!
So he expects my partner to go and do his gardening yet we’re not good enough to take his parcel in? I could hear the disgust in his voice at the idea of the delivery man leaving his parcel with us.
He also stores his massive ladders in our garage because they won’t fit in his. Honestly I felt like launching his ladders over the fence for him to store where the sun doesn’t shine.
I could understand if we were scum bags and caused nuisance but we’re in bed by a reasonable time and do not make excessive noise or other anti social issues.
I realise I shouldn’t give it a second thought yet after hearing his tone about us to the driver I feel enraged at his cheek.

Or even another neighbour is a good friend?!

I don't think the thread has gone how the OP wanted it to.

I’d just put a note thro neighbours door saying, “please remove your ladders because we need the space”.
If you touch ladders, he’s bound to find damage to complain about!
If you have to speak to him it may just lead to further disagreement so easier to avoid.

Just as well really. It’s so easy to get fired up with the weight of anonymous forum users urging you on but reality hits hard when you’re in a shitty position with neighbours and your thread has disappeared because no one was really that interested.

“we have been here a few months now”

So clearly CF neighbour thinks they can stay there for ever. I’d ask him very politely to move them because you need the space - tell him they need to be gone within a week. He can’t exactly object!

I don't find it strange, as people will do all manner of odd things especially when to their own advantage, but if your house was vacant possession when you took it over, they should have been gone by then.

Never allow these things as it complicates everything later on. What happens if he wants his ladders when you're away? It's him staking a claim on your property so give them back ASAP.

You seem very judgy OP. You’ve taken offence where most likely none was meant.
You shouldn’t be cutting hedges this time of year because of nesting birds, leave it till September. But if its your hedge, it’s neighbourly to cut the part on the neighbours side if they've asked you to.

With the parcel maybe he can sense your hostility, maybe he has a long standing parcel regime with the other neighbour. Maybe you just misjudged his “tone” it’s easy to do when your not talking in person.
From what you’ve written, I suspect there is a nightmare neighbour in the making and it’s you!

Are you sure they are his ladders? They might have belonged to the previous owner of your house and he has always coveted them so is using the excuse that they were just looking after them for him!

She sounds racist? I read it as the other way around and just came to ask OP.

I agree with PP advice of keeping a lovely smile and saying you don't have any room anymore and making a mental note to say 'no, sorry we can't' to any other future requests.

Maybe he didn't want you to take his parcels because you're actively hostile towards him and he thought you'd be irritated or claim not to have had it...

Maybe you heard "disgust" because you don't like him

it’s clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.

How is it clear when they don’t speak to you? I rarely speak to most of my neighbours, it doesn’t mean I look down on them

this twat hardly even says hello yet he stood at our garden fence watching as we were going to trim our hedges with our new hedge trimmer the other day and asked my partner if he would come and trim the hedge in his garden as it is our hedge that has grown over to his side. (I didn’t realise my partner hadn’t offered to do it himself and that this neighbour actually thinks it is our responsibility to do so and expects us to sort it as if it is our responsibility).

I wonder what his version is.

We’ve just had to spend hundreds on my elderly mum’s garden as the next door neighbour let their side of the hedge get to 8 feet +.

I can imagine your hedges are really high and affecting his side.

Exactly.

If he sent the parcels to OP, she’d be moaning that he’s using her.

I never understand why people are so weird about their own plants and vegetation intruding into other peoples' gardens. I would have thought trimming it was the least you could do. Why should your neighbour tolerate your hedge invading his garden?! Did he ask to have you add to his garden maintenance requirements? No. Take responsibility for your own hedge, help your neighbour out and trim it! FFS. Or do you actually think he should have to spend time and money trimming a hedge that ISN'T EVEN HIS because you don't like him?

Yes, I'm bothered by the ladders. Why didn't he take them out when the house was up for sale? If he'd asked the new occupant about leaving them there and the new owner had said 'sorry, everything in the house and garage is part of the sale, I'm keeping them,' he would have been stuffed, wouldn't he?

Why not take them out as soon as soon as the House Sold sign goes up and then renegotiate with the new owner?

Why have you name changed half way through your thread?

Exactly!

I think that you need to make a real effort to get along as feuding neighbours can be a nightmare. If the ladders aren't in your way leave them. It's quite possible he has arrangements with his neighbour regarding parcel delivery. It's a question of give and take. If you want good neighbours then be a good neighbour.

The previous occupants didn't mind having his ladders, but you do. Give them right back. CF!

You really dont sound very neighourly or nice
You decided he was a prick the first time you seen him ??
I dont blame him for not wanting his parcels delivered to you.

Sounds like he had a good relationship the previously neighbours and the rest of the neighbours

Tbh you should be cutting the hedge if it is yours and is protruding on his property!!

I am sick cutting back my neighbours overgrown hedges and ivy which is coming in to my garden. I have started putting the cutting back into their garden

^ this. Don’t leave the ladders unsecured as they could be used to break into any of your homes, but if you don’t want to store them ask him to remove

I wouldn’t personally: ladders are expensive and probably the previous owners used his!

Don’t give him the ladders back unless you already have your own or they are step ladders or you are desperate for space. Full size ladders are a PITA to buy and store and move. They are on your property already and you can use them too if the need arises saving you time and effort. In fact, street ladders are a great idea!

It sounds like you want to engage in neighbour warfare over some pretty trivial matters.

If this sort of stuff makes your blood boil then wait til they really do something to piss you off.

If it is not convenient to store their massive ladders in your garage then don't.

I sympathise OP. It's hard to explain, but indeed you can tell by somebody's tone of voice what they think of you, it's not what they say it's how they say it. Happens to me and mine, we've stopped trying to be friendly apart from a brief "hello" in passing.

How do you know they're not ladders belonging to your house?

Exactly!

id be prolly pissed iff if my neighbour had a hedge, but didn't maintain the side encroaching on me. I'm not able to maintain a hedge, therefore u don't have one & shouldn't have to pay someone to maintain a hedge that's not mine!

as for the ladders, I'd have enquired with previous owners if they were the neighbours or not? They could be useful to you if it's a tall house & maybe they left them if moving to a bungalow or apartment? Either way, the safest place for YOU for your neighbour to store them is in your garage. A long ladder stored outside in his garden is a security risk for all neighbours. I was glad when the people opposite moved and their very long ladder went with them as I hated them storing it on their garage roof making it a security risk for all of us.

as for the parcel, ignore the tone & just be grateful not to have to take his parcels in!