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To say that most heavy duty physical labour is done by men? When was the last time a female plumber, builder, roofer,painter and decorator, drain unblocker, or boiler or washing machine engineer came to your house?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 19:03

To say that most heavy duty physical labour is done by men?

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ScarlettOYara · 15/06/2025 20:12

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 15/06/2025 20:10

It's like OP's having the other half of an argument here that started elsewhere

I know. Shall we look for it, or not bother?

Firefightress1 · 15/06/2025 20:12

TheeNotoriousPIG · 15/06/2025 20:09

I grew up in a family where the women do the painting and decorating, gardening, heavy lifting, etc. on top of everything else. I was very bemused when I was informed by school that men do these jobs.

I am a female. I'm also a farm worker... which surprises a lot of people. I often get mistaken for being a work experience student, because who on earth expects a small, slim female to drive a JCB, milk a herd of cows, and shear sheep by herself? Our milk recorder, main artificial inseminator, livestock vets, half of our work experience students and even our best working dogs are all female.

Earlier in the week, I was clearing drainpipes at great height, while standing in a JCB-mounted man basket. I've unblocked drains at home, too. I've done simple plumbing. I'm far from weak, courtesy of regularly lifting heavy loads. I'm small but mighty! Thus, please don't tar all women with the same brush. Some of us don't mind doing jobs that involve hard physical labour!

Fab, I love getting stuck in! I've got my hgv, my ipaf and my work at sea medical too. I totally try to encourage more women into my job but sometimes the shifts are a barrier if you have kids or your partner is on similar shift pattern. It's a barrier.

HScully · 15/06/2025 20:12

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 19:08

When was the last time you had a female roofer, painter and decorator, someone to unblock the drains, the boiler engineer, the plumber, the window cleaner who attended you? Me. NEVER.

A female plumber replaced my boiler. 5 ft nothing slim blonde, well groomed. Did a cracking job too, I find women trade people tend to be more conscientious so actively seek them out now

Sodfathersday · 15/06/2025 20:12

My scaffoldervwas a woman. She was bloody gorgeous - and I say that as a happily married heterosexual woman.

ScarlettOYara · 15/06/2025 20:13

UpsideDownChairs · 15/06/2025 20:10

OK, so you don't hire women to do these jobs - I think you'll find that makes you the one with a problem with female tradies.

Yes. You may find you get a more efficient, punctual service and no "banter" to waste your time.

GuevarasBeret · 15/06/2025 20:13

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 19:12

Thats maybe because women don't want to do this kind of work. We all know that we can't beat men when it comes to sports as Navratilova said so why do we think we have the strength to clambour about on roofs or climb into sewage drains?

Maybe the fact it is physically demanding for men… and therefore even more difficult physically for women. Not wanting to do a job you are physically unsuited to would seem sensible rather than be a reason to denigrate someone, or deny them the vote.

Kelticgold · 15/06/2025 20:13

My DM is a fisherwoman.

TooSquaretobehip · 15/06/2025 20:14

You still haven't said what your point is. What is the point of your thread?

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

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Barnbrack · 15/06/2025 20:14

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:07

Why is this relevant? I've had roofing repairs, painting and decorating, boiler repairs, plumbing and new bathrooms put in. None of the people doing the work have EVER been women. Why is this "goady" or controversial? Just stating fact.

You say women don't do the heavy lifting because women won't do the heavy lifting

Yet the male dominated roles you lost are fairly well paid heavy lifting roles in 'trades'

Even the fact a brickie is a trade but a long term industrial cleaning operative is an unskilled worker is part of it.

Women do plenty of heavy lifting roles, 12 hour cleaning shifts with chemicals and hard physical labour for minimum wage, carers and nurses but carers earn less than brickies despite physical labour, I sociable hours and personal physical risk placed on them.
.you appear to be saying 'women wouldn't cope without big strong men's

But as mentioned previously the country didn't grind to a halt when men were sent to war women stepped into the roles left open.

During COVID when women in healthcare and other essential roles were working while men working in offices were furloughed many women were still home schooling while men brewed beer discovered themselves, baked sourdough, whatever else they got up to with their spare time.

Poor men, poor wee souls, undervalued, yet paid more for their physical labour.

Their i.portance is eroded yet they are paid more in traditionally male industries than amyone in a comparable female one

While we're at it historically men were 'artists' when they painted, yet when women wove intricate tapestries that was a 'craft' and they weren't worthy of note in themselves.

I can do this all day, mysogyny built the world, if you're sad about men having to be roofers please apply for a minimum wage carers role, they are crying out for men to clean those aging foreskins

queenmeadhbh · 15/06/2025 20:14

If all the men in the world disappeared tomorrow, do you think women would stare helplessly at blocked drains and dripping u bends, or do you think we’d probably work it out somehow?

i think we’d be alright.

as an aside, as many people have pointed out, women do the vast majority of low paid and unpaid physical care. How would that get done, if they went on strike?

ScarlettOYara · 15/06/2025 20:15

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

Whose fault was that?

EBearhug · 15/06/2025 20:15

BrickHare · 15/06/2025 20:08

No offence to anyone that does these kind of “heavy manual” jobs but from my experience all of the thick lads at school ended up in these trades. The ones that weren’t all went off to uni and ended up in professional jobs.

But there are also girls who aren't suited to university; they too can enter the trades.

Physical strength isn't as important as it once was. There are health and safety rules limiting what an individual worker should lift, there are power tools, harnesses for working at height and so on. And there always have been women doing heavy, physical work - it's just it's often been overlooked because it's been women doing it. (100 years ago, most housework was heavy physical work, too.)

Underthinker · 15/06/2025 20:16

AIBU to say most Olympic sprint gold medallists are adults? When was the last time a toddler broke the 10 second barrier?
Really makes you think doesn't it?
Oh no wait it doesn't.

Barnbrack · 15/06/2025 20:16

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

Men choose 'tough physical labour's because it's more pay for less training or why aren't more of them volunteering to hoist and bedbath bariatric patients with aggression causing mental health conditions?

queenmeadhbh · 15/06/2025 20:16

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

Gosh - women not safe in male dominated environments because of the permanent threat of sexual violence. I’m sure there is a school of sociopolitical thought that could explore that.

BrickHare · 15/06/2025 20:17

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

What about the women all over the world who did the men jobs during the first and Second World War? Millions of men died. You still haven’t replied to that?

Barnbrack · 15/06/2025 20:17

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

You seem to be implying it's wo.ens fault they were assaulted? Or that they should have been kept down the mines regardless or it's unfair? Which is it

Firefightress1 · 15/06/2025 20:17

pinkglitter12 · 15/06/2025 20:12

How many women do you know that even want to do these as a job, or are strong enough to do them?

Spoken like the stalwarts I met in my career 20 years ago.... we've moved on! I find this do offensive! A lot of Women lift more than men in the gym these days. You're not tall enough, strong enough, how will you rescue folk out a burning building.... I did it just fine and more often than my male colleagues.

Efrogwraig · 15/06/2025 20:17

Female plumber sorted my bathroom
Female builder now sorting kitchen.

We need more girls to train in these skilled trades.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:17

HScully · 15/06/2025 20:12

A female plumber replaced my boiler. 5 ft nothing slim blonde, well groomed. Did a cracking job too, I find women trade people tend to be more conscientious so actively seek them out now

Over the past 20 years in my property, not a single female in to repair the boiler.

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WhistlingalongtheMudFlats · 15/06/2025 20:17

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

How old were you in the 19th century?

More seriously 1. There are plenty of examples on this thread 2. You're not a schoolmarm/schoolmaster to ask us to show our working 3. The thinly disguised rape threat to women who encroach on men's territory doesn't succeed in sounding like faux concern

You might want to look into how class and ethnicity inflect labour choices/opportunities for women.

BrickHare · 15/06/2025 20:18

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:14

If you think men shouldn't compete in women's sports its for a reason. Similarly, men tend to choose "tough" kind of physical labour because they are men. If you think women deliberately choose tough physical labour and don't have to, I'd like to see some examples backed up with fact. I seem to recall, women working down the mines in the 19th century was banned because they were sexually assaulted down there.

A lot of men choose these “tough jobs” because they are too thick to do anything else. No “tough jobs” involves using your brain.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 15/06/2025 20:19

Why would you think a male is inferior when it comes to repairing or performing a job?

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brunettemic · 15/06/2025 20:19

oviraptor21 · 15/06/2025 19:05

Yes but what's your point?
Most child care and nursing care is done by women.
Maybe we should be working harder to overcome these unnecessary gender differences.

MN could really do with that, far too many posts on here whenever there’s a male nursery worker that assume he’s going to be up to no good.