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Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:34

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 19:27

I agree with one thing you've said there : "voices you wish to silence will be heard"

Perhaps you can come back when indeed, those voices are heard. See if you're still singing the same tune.

Glad you admit you want to silence voices.

When those muslim voices are heard it won't be me who will be pissed.

Thank you.

Singing what tune? What tune do you think I am singing?

Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:36

miraxxx · 18/06/2025 19:34

Which is why I don't engage but only mock these characters. I dont for a second believe that any of them actually cares for any victim of sexual violence at all. There is a better thread on FWR on this topic. I bet none of these characters will dare go on that one.

I have helped more victims than you will ever know. Sorry to piss on your parade.

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 19:37

Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:22

Nope absolutely not I am not saying that. I am talking about how no one can talk about certain gangs and when I bring up certain gangs you tell me I cannot talk about it.

I asked for your thoughts on the black gangs. You said you didn't want to talk about them. Nothing about that implied you are racist.

Yes you are the reason why we're in the mess. Telling certain groups they are only allowed to talk about certain things and trying to silence anyone who wants to talk about other elements. Just like the press did.

Edited

I can't reason with you. I just can't. You're impossible. I'm sorry to say this : but I'm finding you to be manipulative. You're twisting my words and firing them back at me in fragments that don't reflect the context they were put in

Ever thought about politics as a career ? You're extremely prudent at obfuscating, denying, blaming, switching roles of victim and perpetrator, I could go on... Or journalist? Sensationalism is proving to be a strong point.

miraxxx · 18/06/2025 19:38

Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:36

I have helped more victims than you will ever know. Sorry to piss on your parade.

I feel sorry for anyone whom you claim to have helped.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 19:38

I've gifted this article so anyone who wants to read this aren't paywalled out

www.telegraph.co.uk/gift/6434bc8f95c2a6c2

Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:39

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 19:37

I can't reason with you. I just can't. You're impossible. I'm sorry to say this : but I'm finding you to be manipulative. You're twisting my words and firing them back at me in fragments that don't reflect the context they were put in

Ever thought about politics as a career ? You're extremely prudent at obfuscating, denying, blaming, switching roles of victim and perpetrator, I could go on... Or journalist? Sensationalism is proving to be a strong point.

Nope you are the one doing that. You are misreading things and pretending they are about me saying you are racist when they are not.

I asked for a discussion on one thing and you got pissy.

Ever thought of a job as a social worker?

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 19:39

Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:34

Glad you admit you want to silence voices.

When those muslim voices are heard it won't be me who will be pissed.

Thank you.

Singing what tune? What tune do you think I am singing?

Edited

Please for the love of god : can someone explain to me how I've stated I wish to silence people ? I can't even engage with this poster anymore.

Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:39

miraxxx · 18/06/2025 19:38

I feel sorry for anyone whom you claim to have helped.

Because you don't want them to get help? Figures!

miraxxx · 18/06/2025 19:40

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 19:37

I can't reason with you. I just can't. You're impossible. I'm sorry to say this : but I'm finding you to be manipulative. You're twisting my words and firing them back at me in fragments that don't reflect the context they were put in

Ever thought about politics as a career ? You're extremely prudent at obfuscating, denying, blaming, switching roles of victim and perpetrator, I could go on... Or journalist? Sensationalism is proving to be a strong point.

She was like this from page 1. You were too kind. I don't give a flying fuck.

Fetaface · 18/06/2025 19:40

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 19:39

Please for the love of god : can someone explain to me how I've stated I wish to silence people ? I can't even engage with this poster anymore.

I asked you a question now have the balls to answer.

What tune am I meant to be singing?

Spit it out.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 19:41

Gosh this thread moves fast. For those who don't want to click on the link, it begins:

"The former chairman of Labour’s parliamentary party warned that drawing attention to the ethnicity of grooming gangs could harm the party’s electoral chances, the ex-MP for Rochdale has claimed.

Simon Danczuk, who represented the town from 2010 to 2017, said he was “threatened” by Tony Lloyd, who was campaigning to be the Greater Manchester police and crime commissioner at the time"

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 19:48

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 19:41

Gosh this thread moves fast. For those who don't want to click on the link, it begins:

"The former chairman of Labour’s parliamentary party warned that drawing attention to the ethnicity of grooming gangs could harm the party’s electoral chances, the ex-MP for Rochdale has claimed.

Simon Danczuk, who represented the town from 2010 to 2017, said he was “threatened” by Tony Lloyd, who was campaigning to be the Greater Manchester police and crime commissioner at the time"

It's this kind of interference, this prioritisation of social cohesion and political expediency over safeguarding that failed these girls. The inability to say what you see, Pakistani Muslim men grooming girls in the plain sight of social workers, teachers, councillors, the police and every other tactically blind fucker who covered their own arse first.

Noodledog · 18/06/2025 19:58

EasternStandard · 18/06/2025 18:30

Labour have a blind spot here. The standard response is ‘far right’.

It’s not working anymore.

They've made a huge tactical mistake, politically speaking. They've decided to align concerns about the gang rape of young girls with being far right. They're tacitly aligning lack of interest in the gang rape of young girls as part of their left wing thought.

Do they really see this ending well for Labour? Do they really want to be seen as the party that minimises and excuses child rape?

Kateluvscats1 · 18/06/2025 20:01

I remember the 90's in Huddersfield and Bradford, constantly being harassed by Pakistani men, told on my nursing college course that it was part of the culture and to ignore it. Told that if child abuse in home was reported to health visitor etc then it was to be ignored as it 'was their culture'. This has been going on for a very long time.

Noodledog · 18/06/2025 20:01

Meadowfinch · 18/06/2025 18:21

It's impossible he doesn't know. It's been going on for ever.

I went to uni in London in 1981. If a male friend walked me home from the tube to halls, there were Pakistani men in cars who would pull up beside us and offer him money to sleep with me. They were disgusting. And that was more than 40 years ago.

Sadiq Khan is sickening. He should be utterly ashamed of himself.

Edited

I experienced similar walking home from school (in my school uniform) in the 80s, through what was considered the local red light district.

Middle of the afternoon, obviously a schoolgirl, daily offers of money for sex, always the same ethnicity of men.

Noodledog · 18/06/2025 20:04

TheNuthatch · 18/06/2025 19:10

So start your own thread instead of hijacking this one.

Wouldn't that be great! Without all the thread's determined whatabouterers the thread would take a quarter of the time to read...and some actual discussion could take place.

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 20:04

Noodledog · 18/06/2025 19:58

They've made a huge tactical mistake, politically speaking. They've decided to align concerns about the gang rape of young girls with being far right. They're tacitly aligning lack of interest in the gang rape of young girls as part of their left wing thought.

Do they really see this ending well for Labour? Do they really want to be seen as the party that minimises and excuses child rape?

I agree. And the scary thing is people have well and truly drank the kool aid (as demonstrated by some die hard posters ) this is going to take a long time to balance back from this ridiculous extreme pendulum swing.

TheNuthatch · 18/06/2025 20:10

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 19:39

Please for the love of god : can someone explain to me how I've stated I wish to silence people ? I can't even engage with this poster anymore.

The only poster trying to silence anyone is the poster you're replying to. Your patience is phenomenal.

EasternStandard · 18/06/2025 20:16

Noodledog · 18/06/2025 19:58

They've made a huge tactical mistake, politically speaking. They've decided to align concerns about the gang rape of young girls with being far right. They're tacitly aligning lack of interest in the gang rape of young girls as part of their left wing thought.

Do they really see this ending well for Labour? Do they really want to be seen as the party that minimises and excuses child rape?

Yes ten to eleven months of this, actually they might be doubling down even now.

Noodledog · 18/06/2025 20:19

Would it be possible for Mumsnet to bring in an "ignore user" facility? I'm getting really concerned about potentially damaging the ligaments in my thumb with the amount of time I'm having to spend scrolling through the pointless, endless whataboutery posts.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 20:20

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 20:04

I agree. And the scary thing is people have well and truly drank the kool aid (as demonstrated by some die hard posters ) this is going to take a long time to balance back from this ridiculous extreme pendulum swing.

I'm hopeful that this might not be the case. The vast majority, 76 percent of people in the UK on yougov's last count, were for a national inquiry into the grooming gangs and recognised that the earlier investigations had either no teeth, were too limited or, in other cases such as the IICSA utterly failed the victims of this crime by bellyaching, diluting and minimising.

So, I think there is room for a proper national discussion based on Casey's inquiry that won't bow to the coward like sensibilities of those who think that this truth, of the disproportional representation of specific men in a specific crime should be filed under a sanitising 'we know best' gloss.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 18/06/2025 20:21

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 19:41

Gosh this thread moves fast. For those who don't want to click on the link, it begins:

"The former chairman of Labour’s parliamentary party warned that drawing attention to the ethnicity of grooming gangs could harm the party’s electoral chances, the ex-MP for Rochdale has claimed.

Simon Danczuk, who represented the town from 2010 to 2017, said he was “threatened” by Tony Lloyd, who was campaigning to be the Greater Manchester police and crime commissioner at the time"

I was already aware of this, ThePhantom, as anyone who's been involved with such politicians will be

Others who haven't, or who simply wish for scrutiny, frank discussion and even the truth to be avoided, will try to insist that what's happening isn't happening at all despite the increasing number who are speaking out, and as we're seeing they'll use the same tactics we've seen for decades

Fortunately this doesn't work any more, at least in the sense that more now recognise it for what it is, but whether that'll translate into anything actually being done about the ongoing abuse remains to be seen

SquashedMallow · 18/06/2025 20:22

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 20:20

I'm hopeful that this might not be the case. The vast majority, 76 percent of people in the UK on yougov's last count, were for a national inquiry into the grooming gangs and recognised that the earlier investigations had either no teeth, were too limited or, in other cases such as the IICSA utterly failed the victims of this crime by bellyaching, diluting and minimising.

So, I think there is room for a proper national discussion based on Casey's inquiry that won't bow to the coward like sensibilities of those who think that this truth, of the disproportional representation of specific men in a specific crime should be filed under a sanitising 'we know best' gloss.

This is very reassuring. Thanks for posting this

TheNuthatch · 18/06/2025 20:22

Noodledog · 18/06/2025 20:19

Would it be possible for Mumsnet to bring in an "ignore user" facility? I'm getting really concerned about potentially damaging the ligaments in my thumb with the amount of time I'm having to spend scrolling through the pointless, endless whataboutery posts.

That would be brilliant! There are pages and pages of it on this thread.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 18/06/2025 20:22

Puzzledandpissedoff · 18/06/2025 20:21

I was already aware of this, ThePhantom, as anyone who's been involved with such politicians will be

Others who haven't, or who simply wish for scrutiny, frank discussion and even the truth to be avoided, will try to insist that what's happening isn't happening at all despite the increasing number who are speaking out, and as we're seeing they'll use the same tactics we've seen for decades

Fortunately this doesn't work any more, at least in the sense that more now recognise it for what it is, but whether that'll translate into anything actually being done about the ongoing abuse remains to be seen

Totally misread your post with my Pollyanna complex 🫣.

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