New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

Other than sex yes all of those things are OK, yes it might be anti social but there is very little that can be done to stop these things, so folks should consider themselves a neighbour minding their business sunbathing

If I chose to sunbathe nude in my own garden and my new neighbour came over to have a word not only would I shut the door in their face I'd take my muffins and Welcome to the Neighbourhood card back. 😤

I suspect that after an initial giggle your kids will be completely unbothered. As is your husband.

Who does that leave? Only the woman dashing upstairs to be appalled.

I am not making anything up. If the man is deliberately exposing his genitals (which he seems to be doing, as he's parading about naked in open air, in view of his neighbours houses) and this is taking place in view of children, or in view of other non-consenting adults, this could be construed as indecent exposure.

Hopefully, a quick chat with the police would clarify the matter. A man's desire to lounge naked does not take precedence over the well-being and innocence of children. He might truly mean no harm, but his behaviour is inconsiderate and inappropriate. It is a matter for the police.

Where did the OP say she has to crane her neck? Why are people painting her as some kind of peeping Tom with binoculars? She can clearly see him out her bedroom window ffs - I wouldn’t like this either. If he wants to walk around fully naked he should live in a remote area with no neighbours!

That stands to reason but why? Knowing your neighbours can see you. Sounds like an exhibitionist

You're not making it up? 🤣

You've changed 'sunbathing' (which is what the OP said) to 'parading' (which is NOT what the OP said).

And you seem to have no idea what 'indecent exposure' means within law.

As amusing as you're being, you really do need to educate yourself before giving such silly 'advice'.

Maybe he doesn't care?

What's wrong with your children seeing a nude body lying in the sun?

Er no, actually none of these things are ok - they are all examples of statutory nuisance, a criminal offence. Apart from the one about having sex in your garden, which I think we both agree is not ok.

Yes, you have a right to do what you want in your own garden, but only up to the point at which it starts to interfere with your neighbour's enjoyment of their property.

Obviously he doesn’t. It’s a legitimate way to expose yourself with no questions asked. Would it be ok if he was naked in his front garden? His property at the end of the day… but cars going past with children in them? Is that still ok?

Are we talking a fit bloke with tackle to be proud of? If yes, YABU

If he's a pasty white, turning lobster red, football tattooed, teeny wrinkly dinky, then YANBU....😆

Oh my goodness, you're right!! How could I be so careless as to paraphrase on an internet forum?! Please forgive me, your honour. I shall pay penance immediately, will forty lashings suffice?

If you're such an expert, why don't you illuminate for us all the parameters of the legal definition of indecent exposure? I mean, you clearly think you're much more intelligent than anyone else here.

As I said before, if the OP is concerned, she would be well advised to have a chat with the police, who will be very well equipped to offer her advice, and if they seem it necessary to take any appropriate action.

I'm not your Google monkey 🤷‍♀️

Just Google 'Is it illegal to sunbathe naked in garden uk' and you'll realise you're posts are wrong.

And let's face it, you 'paraphrased' to try and make it look worse, didn't you?

They can still enjoy their garden. If they're in the garden they wouldn't see the naked neighbour. Their neighbours behaviour does not significantly impact them

No. There is actually a difference between the amount of privacy expected by a reasonable person standing in their front garden facing passing pedestrians and someone laying in their fenced back garden where someone would have to go upstairs in one particular house to a particular window to peer over the fence and see in. The law considers this difference.

Of course this wouldn't be okay. The fact is the neighbour is in his back garden and the OP had to go upstairs to look out the window. He isn't flashing himself etc

What if they live on a housing estate and there are several houses overlooking the garden? What if he decide to get rid of the fence.

I can just imagine the number of creepy pervs who would get a kick out of knowing their neighbours can see him and go inside for a wa*k 🤢. Horrid.

No but he knows it’s not private. Again, legally exposing himself 🤢

I'm absolutely sure that if I was naked on my patio. none of my lovely neighbours would be able to see me. But I just wouldn't.

Google monkey 😂 good heavens, I can't imagine how bored you must be tonight.

I can see there is no intelligent discussion to be had with you, so I shall take my leave now.

OP - I hope you see my previous messages, and keep it in mind that when you feel in your gut that you or your children have been violated or made to feel unsafe in any way, you must listen to your instincts.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with contacting the police and getting their advice. After all, they are the professionals. They will tell you very quickly whether or not your neighbour's actions could be considered an offence, and they will take whatever action is appropriate. I wish you the very best, and hope that the matter gets sorted out quickly for you all. Take care!

Don't worry OP it will be winter soon enough!

I voted that @ZooHannah was being unreasonable, but having given it more thought, I would understand if one of my neighbours were repulsed if they saw me or my husband sunbathing naked in our garden - which is surrounded by 6 foot fences. You see, at first I was imagining the OP's neighbour as being handsome, in his 30's, and with a nicely toned body 🙈 but then I thought, about my DH and me. I am in my late 60's, and morbidly obese, with lots of stretch marks as added decoration, my husband is in his 70's, also extremely overweight in his stomach area (so very unhealthy too), and very hairy aswell - now, ever since I saw the original King Kong film, I have had a thing for gorillas, so my DH suited me just fine - but I honestly don't think that anyone else should be subjected to him or me 🤣🤣🤣

NB: I know that I was being horrendously "ist" in my mind about the OP's neighbour, but as it was only in my own thoughts -until I shared it with you DMumsnetters - and as I only shared it with you for the sake of honest debate🤞 I decided that it was okay for me to be frank, or Bobby, or Dave, about it...

You are the peeping tom..like it or not, this neighbour can do what the hell he likes in his own garden. If you are so offended, you need to stop looking through the window at him Nosey neighbour.....

So if you had to go upstairs to get a good look, he can’t be seen from your garden or downstairs. So why wouldn’t you just not look? You chose to have a look 😂