New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

If the facts of the situation were significantly different then then answer would be different. Shocker, I know.

A person who removes their fence or has an unfenced yard and immediate neighbors does not have an expectation of privacy in that yard. But that's not actually relevant here, so why are you coming up with different hypotheticals?

@hcee19exactly this. OP you are the one in the wrong, if you were a man others would call you a peeping Tom. So by logic, you are a peeping Tina

It's not just their garden that statutory nuisance concerns itself with, but their whole property. They should be able to glance out of their windows, including the upstairs ones, without being offended by the sight of a neighbour's todger.

She chose to have a look because she wanted to check what her DH had said. She has kids, and naturally doesn't want them to see the neighbour's penis - and let's face it, most DC would definitely not "just not look" but would be looking at every opportunity!

@TheGr8Cornholioi have had a good chuckle at your posts here tonight. I genuinely think you are trolling and if not, you come across as very naive and seem to have massively inflated the OP’s issue.

@BadWoIfyou are making some assumptions there on behalf of the OP. Why would the kids be looking into a neighbours garden?

Meh, it wouldn't bother me. I used to sunbathe topless in our back garden. I know the neighbours could see me if they looked out their window 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well I'm sincerely saddened by this, because my advice to the OP has come with very best of intentions. I can assure you that I am not remotely trolling. I don't believe I have inflated anything, though it's quite possible that I may have misunderstood the original post.

I have simply tried put myself in the shoes of the OP, and as a mother myself, if my neighbour was sunbathing fully nude, with genitalia visible, in the garden with our upstairs windows overlooking said neighbouring garden, and my children saw this from our house, I would be concerned and would seek advice from the police. It genuinely baffles me that anyone would think it is okay for a neighbour to walk around outside with their private parts on display, and especially where children live in neighbouring houses.

It is possible I have read too much into the original post. That will have to be for the OP to decide.

Incredible how much hysteria there is about a naked human body… "Gross", "repulsive" etc? OP said he was sunbathing, not wanking. How is this going to harm any children exactly?

This ^

Rock out with your cock out...

Is he hot? As in, Brad Pitt hot?

If he is, then I'm also repulsed by this...please DM your address so I can pop round and discuss it with him, ideally from your window with the good view 👀

So we're constantly told the law is an ass, and,
this man is sunbathing his penis, and,
We know that penises often like asses, so,
Is it reasonable to assume that if you call in the law,
That he will get screwed !?

Answers on a postcard please, written from the privacy of your own home, with at least your knickers on! .....
After all, big sister could be watching you!!....

Legally it's ok on your own property. Not sure why you felt the need to go look that's more disturbing

Being able to see into your neighbour's garden from a bedroom window does not make you a peeping Tom.

Sunbathing naked per se isn't illegal, but if your neighbours tell you they can see you and it is causing them distress and you continue, it can become a harassment offence.

If he knows his garden isn’t completely private and that neighbours can see him it’s no different to sunbathing naked in the park.

Didn't OP say he could be see from her upstairs bedroom window? Doesn't sound like it's in view of children playing in the garden.

I'm amazed at how prudish some people on here can be. There was a ridiculous thread yesterday as well about being on a 2nd floor balcony in pants and a crop top.

Don't go to Dubrovnik in summer OP. It is not unusual to come across naked men sunbathing on public beaches. What would you do? Have a fit of the vapours?

In the UK it is not illegal to sunbathe naked in a private garden. Just stop standing on tiptoe, peering out of your window. MYOB

So... you teach your children that it's rude to go staring into other peoples gardens, either over the fence or by running upstairs to be a peeping tom out of the window.

He's doing nothing wrong, assuming he wasn't standing there helicoptering his todger at you, but you were having a nosey at him!

To see the naked man and have a laugh?

@TheGr8Cornholio The neighbour is perfectly entitled to sunbath discreetly in his own garden, as long as he is not outraging public decency. Quietly lying on a sun lounger behind a fence is perfectly legal. The OP did not have to look. That was her choice

In fact, a few years ago (2003) the govt of the day tried to make it illegal to have sex outside and were laughed out of parliament.

Learning to avert one's gaze is a useful skill in any number of situations.

If he can't be seen over or through fences, the only way the kids are going to know is if you keep running upstairs - "Roy's got his todger out again!"

Don't look and it won't bother you.

Just don't look! He's doing no harm and the idea that you are 'repulsed' by a naked body is ridiculous.

It's a bit weird. Of course, he's entitled to sunbathe bollock naked in his own garden but the fact that he knows you can see him, well... I can see why you feel uncomfortable op.

Some people are more relaxed than others about nudity. It’s skin and bones and there’s no shame in it. He is just enjoying the sun in his own home. He’s not flashing or wanking just lying in the sun. Don’t make an issue of it and just tell your kids he’s sunbathing nude. They will probably have a look and a giggle and then lose interest. Your kids aren’t going to be traumatised unless you are really uptight and make it weird or shameful