New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

I don’t care what clothes someone wears. Neither do I find it offensive. I find a
naked strange man in my eye sight when I’ve not been asked if it’s ok, very offensive. I don’t want to see his genitals.

Do you think I should have it forced upon me? Should woman just shut up and not be allowed to say actually that’s not for me?

Op still not been back again..

Let’s place a bet. Man probably looked around saw curtains closed or nobody staring out windows. No kid noise in garden and went yup it’s fine.

I know I only do it during school/working hours To be considerate but again it’s only a naked body. I’ve been out in the garden in a dress today and when the breeze has hit a neighbour could have seen my bare bottom at times if they where looking.

Naturists aren't just male. There are plenty of female naturists.

You are missing the point many times over though

It doesn't matter if YOU do or don't find something offensive, or anyone else, the law literally says its ok

You aren't being FORCED to look. If you keep staring then it's your own choice. You can simply go "Oh that's not for me" and STOP looking

Well as much as I’d love to keep discussing naked neighbours, I have stuff to do and places to be. Enjoy your discussion for the evening

I'm told they see worse.

What a wonderful flounce.

Nothing says "I've realised I've lost" like announcing you're leaving a thread

Finding naked people very offensive is no excuse.

@PITCHpink The OP didn't even notice the sunbathing man until her dh pointed him out. Then she chose to go and have a good look. His genitals were not originally in OP's eyesight, nor were they forced on her.

It's not quite the same, is it !

Given the level of comprehension here sometimes, thank heavens here are 12 people on a Jury.

😂 “Lost” WTF are you on about. How old are you?!

I looked at the time and thought what a saddo I am (and you) for spending hours wasting my time with a random on the internet about something that’s irrelevant to my life.

I think I’m right and you’re wrong and you think the opposite and you (delusionally) think the laws is always on the side of the performer. Couldnt disagree more but hey ho…

Im happy to debate but were literally going over then same shit back and forth. It’s pathetic and sad (and is at that about myself too but luckily I can take a bit of criticism- I suspect you can’t judging by your comment)

Anyway I don’t want to waste anymore of my time so I’ll say you’re totally right with everything you said. Now have a good night and I suggest you step away and live your real life.

Well you THINK you are right in opposition to the actual law...

Which I'm not delusional in pointing out is exactly what the law says

You go and enjoy your supposed little moral victory.

Because anyone who announces they are leaving a thread, insults the people in the thread and still acts all superior is obviously someone who realises they've lost but want to make it look like some kind of victory

Pse qualify "all"?

It's only against the law if done specifically to upset others!

It's only a problem to the person who can't deal with seeing a naked body and chooses to make a fuss about it.

This! it has to be the (nude person’s) intention to cause distress. Why are we still debating this? It’s the law. People can just look it up.

While you might be on your own property while in your garden. This means that even though you're not necessarily naked in public, you could still cause "distress or alarm" to your neighbours - although you're only breaking the law if you "intended" to do so. How can anyone prove that a neighbour is intending to either distress or harm you if he is lying there sunbathing as opposed to screaming like a banshee?

Just NIMBY?

There was a case on TV a few years ago on one of those neighbour problem programme.

Yes, it is generally legal to be a nudist in your own garden, as long as it doesn't cause distress or alarm to others. The key factor is whether your actions are considered indecent exposure, which typically involves intentional exposure that causes alarm or distress to others. If your garden is not visible to the public, or if your neighbors are not bothered by your nude activities, then it is unlikely to be a legal issue. However, if your actions cause a neighbor to complain, it could potentially lead to legal consequences.

Yes exactly. That’s what you would have to prove

Shut your eyes - look away - stay indoors?

It is legal to be naked in public as long as you're simply going about your business - going for a walk, popping to your car, going to a venue that permits naked people (because those are private businesses and have the right to refuse entry based on a variety of criteria including dress of course)...

If you want to claim that you're distressed and therefore an offence has been committed, you need to prove that distress is reasonable - simply being distressed because someone is naked is not reasonable.

If you want to claim that they're a perv, a wrong 'un, a pedo, an exhibitionist, you'll need some proof of that, simply being naked in public is not proof of any of those things.

If you want an analogy..

I find X's posts distressing. Despite telling X this, X keeps posting. I believe that X is getting a kick out of posting, knowing it causes me distress. I am also aware that people post nasty things online and suspect X's posting behaviour could escalate.

So X is committing an offence yes, because X know's it's distressing me and yet X keeps doing it?

Or, it's not an offence until X actually writes something illegal, and my distress is not reasonable and I should stop reading the posts?

Sorry Sir 😆

🤣

You’re back! Maybe time to take your own advice, step away and live your real life.