New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

Which isn't an offence
They'd be told to stop staring

It's not irrelevant and is literally the same thing...

Someone laying in their garden sunbathing is showing NO intent of trying to cause offence or distress....

She’s being sensible because she understands that it could be considered causing intentional distress and the consequences of such. Not worth it to continue, sensible idea.

Not true

Nothing of the sort

No she is making a decision because close minded, pearl clutchers like yourself would make her life difficult otherwise

There's nothing sexual, distressing or harassing about simply being naked

It is

It's making judgement calls on someone based purely on what they are (or aren't wearing)

If the neighbour is distressed then it is a problem.

Yes true

It's not illegal to be naked in the garden

It would be considered harassment and perversion to keep actively seeking out the chance to stare at their naked body and to keep threatening them with the law

Simply disliking someone else being naked and finding it personally distasteful isn't causing distress

Yeah because you have to be considerate to your neighbours. If you want to roam
around starkers then buy a house in the middle of nowhere-
problem solved!

The neighbour is distressed because she deliberately went upstairs to look at him!

“In some other cases, the conduct may be seen as (at most) amounting to an offence under the Public Order Act 1986 (POA) of using disorderly behaviour.

This requires that a person needs to have used disorderly behaviour within the hearing or sight of a person likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress. An act of public nudity is unlikely to constitute this offence unless members of the public were caused actual harassment, alarm or distress (as opposed to considering the likelihood of this happening or the complainant personally finding nudity distasteful or offensive).”

No it isn’t. I don’t want to walk down a street and come across a random fella with his cock out. I find it disgusting and disrespectful to the wider public.

Why?

When there is a legal allowance to be a naturist. Naturists consider their way of life to be more freeing, less constrained.

The law allows for it

They aren't something that needs to hide away like they should be ashamed

There would be no problem at all if the person covered up like most normal people.

That's you making a judgement call based on your own beliefs

A naturist would find it freeing and natural

It's just like saying a woman was "asking for it" if she wore a short skirt.

Some people find Burkas disrespectful or Men in Dresses disgusting. Those are also perfectly legal...

What makes you the decider of what is "normal"?

Most people wouldn’t put it to the test to see what could happen. If being naked is so important to someone (more so that potentially getting done for a sexual offence) then do you honestly think they should just keep putting it to the test? That’s very very risky

Shes allowed to look out of her window, after all that’s what they are for….A garden isn’t for the purpose of being naked in -
especially when you’re overlooked by neighbours!

They aren't "putting it to the test" and it's not "risky"

The law is literally on their side

Some people would find being openly gay "distasteful", find it personally offensive, make comments even about perversion and say "why do they have to be so open in public with it? If something happens it's their own fault..."

In designated areas/designated activities not in front of the general public who don’t want to see them.

A garden isn't there to be stared at out of a window

If she went into the actual garden then she wouldn't even have to see it

No

The law literally allows you to be naked in public and not have to confine it to "designated" areas