Newborns come in all shapes and sizes. Some are high needs and really tricky (therefore hard to enjoy). Some are unicorns who sleep and nap well (easier to enjoy).
I'm a mum of 3.
I have endured the high needs variety of newborn that you appear to have. That was extremely hard and gave me PND: partly due to expectations vs reality (and just how damn hard it was) and partly due to thinking that my parenting was failing/that I was failing to cope when everyone else seems to sail through. I had no idea (because I had no experience to compare to) that my baby was much more "difficult" than most newborns and that I honestly wasn't doing anything wrong at all. I literally couldn't put him down and he had to sleep on me/touching me at all times. He wouldn't happily be held by anyone else, even DH. I had very little break and it felt like torture even though I loved him (such conflicting emotions). I always wanted a close gap between my babies but there's a longer gap than anticipated because I just couldn't face being pregnant/having a newborn again so soon.
I've also had a pretty average baby. That experience was much easier/enjoyable and actually very healing, because I could see that it wasn't anything that I did with the first baby, it was simply luck of the draw. There's a smaller gap between my last two children, because it was easier!
My final baby was some kind of magical enjoyable unicorn baby. My maternity leave was genuinely enjoyable at every stage. Incredibly content, slept pretty well (not through the night, but easy to settle), napped well, an absolute dream.
My parenting approach with all 3 babies has been exactly the same (albeit adapted to individual needs/personality). People have said that my last baby must have been easier due to experience/being relaxed because I know what I'm doing, but I think that's a load of nonsense. Of course I was relaxed due to knowing what I was doing/what to expect... but that won't affect personality or the type of baby you get. My babies were all very clearly different in personality/needs right from the get go, without external influence. If I had experienced my final "unicorn" baby (or even my average baby) first, it would have been a game changer. Similarly, if I had experienced my first baby last, it would have been a huge shock.
I'm basically including these experiences because I wanted to highlight that every newborn and every experience, even if the mother is the same, is totally different. Some people genuinely do find the newborn days amazing and enjoy them, but others don't, for many reasons/factors, and that's ok. You're not missing something or failing. Not all newborns are the same (and not all mothers are the same!). I made myself miserable comparing my experience with others and thinking I was failing with my first, when I can see now that I wasn't comparing "like with like"; my newborn was simply really hard to deal with compared with friends babies.
Tips and tricks...
Sod the housework, get a cleaner if your budget allows. If your budget doesn't allow, just drop your standards. This phase won't last forever and you need to prioritise where you spend your energy.
Get out of the house. Prioritise seeing people for your sanity (if that's what helps you). Don't become too "nap trapped" (either now or down the line)... routines and naps are somewhat important, but so is balancing your mental health and making sure you're doing what you need so that you can recharge enough to give your baby what they need. If that means you sometimes end up waking baby to go to a group/for coffee with someone, that's ok.
Prioritise activities that you like doing. E.g. if you don't like baby sensory (I hated it), that's fine (if you love it and you both enjoy it, great!). Babies get all the excitement and stimulation they need from you/daily activities. I really liked baby massage, mother and baby yoga, plus traditional village hall style playgroups where you could have a cuppa and chat.
I also liked just doing my own thing. Coffee shops, cinema (baby friendly screenings), shopping, meals/pub with friends, National Trust outings, walks... Once you're actually out of the house, the day often seems easier because there are distractions for both you and baby (caveat, you're still in the extremely early days, so give it time for it to feel easier to be out of the house... for now, binge watching TV might be easier, but I promise there's a point where it shifts).
I'll echo everyone else who has said to "lean in" to accepting that this newborn phase is incredibly hard. Go much, much easier on yourself. It might help if you compare it to being unwell and seeing it as a period of recuperation. Your body is recovering, hormones out of whack, you're sleep deprived and learning how to parent a tiny baby. No wonder it's physically and emotionally hard! Prioritise yourself and whatever you need to get through it until it gets easier (which it will).