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Would this piss you off? DP comment on day out

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JadeJ91 · 12/06/2025 07:30

Day out yesterday, historical seaside town with various lovely view points. DP a bit grumpy all day and not paying a lot of interest to anything. Anyway, at one particular location I asked him what he thought of the view and he said ‘not great really….hang on, it’s just got a lot better now’ just as an attractive woman walked past, and he joked about her bum being the highlight of his day so far.

A bit disrespectful, surely? I told him to shut up and he said I should lighten up and ‘have a laugh’

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Sleepynose · 12/06/2025 07:32

Oh OP, why? Just why?

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 12/06/2025 07:33

This can’t be the first time he’s behaved like a dick head?

Yellowflowerr · 12/06/2025 07:33

How do people get with these kinds of men ??

Sleepynose · 12/06/2025 07:33

Yellowflowerr · 12/06/2025 07:33

How do people get with these kinds of men ??

Because they think being with anyone is better than actually being happy

Sleepynose · 12/06/2025 07:34

It’s the kids I always feel most sorry for

any involved OP?

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 12/06/2025 07:35

You shouldn't really be partnering up with immature schoolboys.

Bigoldtable · 12/06/2025 07:35

Very disrespectful. I’d be so tempted to go with “sorry Darling, what was that, I didn’t hear you. I was too busy looking at than man’s large package. Ding fucking dong! Must be lovely to have a man with a bit of girth”.
I wouldn’t though, because it wouldn’t help. I would however tell him to fuck off and stop being such a rancid twat.

MushMonster · 12/06/2025 07:43

Oh well, what a nice company he is!
Were you alone or with your children?
I would consider not taking this idiot to any outing, ever again. Or going to anything, supposely so much superior, that he suggests. Did you choose this location? Is this why he was trying to put you down? Even resourcing to other female loud admiring?
I bet you:

  • He is an insecure arsehole who wants to keep you in your station, because he does not think himself capable of keeping your interest otherwise
  • You chose this location
  • There was someone with you he was trying to humilate you in front of. Either your childre, or friends, or family
  • He did not manage to put a cloud on your day with his grumpiness, so he upped it to admiring bums

He is a loser. Treat him like a loser.

TheAutumnCrow · 12/06/2025 07:44

I’d worry about his parents getting fined because he’s missing school.

Allschoolsareartschools · 12/06/2025 07:47

Just no. Bad enough that you were having to try & jolly him along on a day out. I'm old & grumpy now but I decided ages ago it was not my problem if someone else had decided not to enjoy themselves.
As for the comment! Well you need to quietly dump him don't you?

Sparticle · 12/06/2025 07:53

MushMonster · 12/06/2025 07:43

Oh well, what a nice company he is!
Were you alone or with your children?
I would consider not taking this idiot to any outing, ever again. Or going to anything, supposely so much superior, that he suggests. Did you choose this location? Is this why he was trying to put you down? Even resourcing to other female loud admiring?
I bet you:

  • He is an insecure arsehole who wants to keep you in your station, because he does not think himself capable of keeping your interest otherwise
  • You chose this location
  • There was someone with you he was trying to humilate you in front of. Either your childre, or friends, or family
  • He did not manage to put a cloud on your day with his grumpiness, so he upped it to admiring bums

He is a loser. Treat him like a loser.

Good comment.

OP you say DP not DH so why are you with this twat?

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JadeJ91 · 12/06/2025 07:54

There haven’t been any issues up until the last month or so. I think I’ve a decision to make sadly.

Edited to add that it was just us two.

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Swiftie1878 · 12/06/2025 07:56

JadeJ91 · 12/06/2025 07:54

There haven’t been any issues up until the last month or so. I think I’ve a decision to make sadly.

Edited to add that it was just us two.

Edited

Make the right decision. That’s just vile.

OccultGnuNew · 12/06/2025 07:59

TheAutumnCrow · 12/06/2025 07:44

I’d worry about his parents getting fined because he’s missing school.

Oh I do like that as a response!

PinkyFlamingo · 12/06/2025 08:02

Lovely man. 🙄

Sleepynose · 12/06/2025 08:03

JadeJ91 · 12/06/2025 07:54

There haven’t been any issues up until the last month or so. I think I’ve a decision to make sadly.

Edited to add that it was just us two.

Edited

and no children together?

no issues up to a month together? How long have you been together?

and someone who says something like this won’t just have been behaving like this for a few weeks

Dryshampoofordays · 12/06/2025 08:04

I might feel pissed off on the surface but underneath that feeling I’d probably feel hurt, humiliated, judged, disrespected, worried about what his views of on me and women in general, disgusted and put off by his immaturity. Even deeper than that if part of me was trying to push away my feelings of minimise his behaviour I’d have to reflect on what that means for my self esteem and self worth. Then I’d decide what I could do to improve those things going forward (e.g. dump him and enjoy your lovely days out without that dickhead bringing you down)

5128gap · 12/06/2025 08:06

I think this relationship is in its death throes OP. He is 'playing you up' on purpose because he's no longer bothered. Possibly trying to prompt a row so you break up with him.

whitewineandsun · 12/06/2025 08:08

He wants out but doesn't have the balls to be a grown up about it. That's my guess.

Sevenamcoffee · 12/06/2025 08:11

If this is a sudden change he could be trying to get you to dump him so he can be the good guy. Or he’s an abusive twat whose true colours are only now showing. He sounds horrible anyway. How long have you been together?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 12/06/2025 08:14

Honestly I don't think that would bother me much, it's just a lame joke. I do get not every would agree and it could be annoying. That said the reaction here is completely OTT, why does everyone assume he is a vile man over 1 comment. If he was grumpy I'd assume he was tired or stressed, his comment was childish but I don't agree this is a damaged relationship unless there is other real issues going on.

Nobel · 12/06/2025 08:15

How could you have ended up with such a sleazy scumbag. How disgusting that he even thinks this, let alone says it!

Pricelessadvice · 12/06/2025 08:16

Honestly, I’d have laughed!
Thats quite witty really (I appreciate I have an odd sense of humour!).
Him being grumpy all day would have annoyed me, but I couldn’t get worked up about the comment about the attractive woman.

Sleepynose · 12/06/2025 08:16

Dontlletmedownbruce · 12/06/2025 08:14

Honestly I don't think that would bother me much, it's just a lame joke. I do get not every would agree and it could be annoying. That said the reaction here is completely OTT, why does everyone assume he is a vile man over 1 comment. If he was grumpy I'd assume he was tired or stressed, his comment was childish but I don't agree this is a damaged relationship unless there is other real issues going on.

Goodness, we have different benchmarks

Nobel · 12/06/2025 08:18

Pricelessadvice · 12/06/2025 08:16

Honestly, I’d have laughed!
Thats quite witty really (I appreciate I have an odd sense of humour!).
Him being grumpy all day would have annoyed me, but I couldn’t get worked up about the comment about the attractive woman.

Have some self respect. He’s sleazy creep. There are good men out there. He is not one of them.

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