Would this piss you off? DP comment on day out

[JadeJ91]

Day out yesterday, historical seaside town with various lovely view points. DP a bit grumpy all day and not paying a lot of interest to anything. Anyway, at one particular location I asked him what he thought of the view and he said ‘not great really….hang on, it’s just got a lot better now’ just as an attractive woman walked past, and he joked about her bum being the highlight of his day so far.

A bit disrespectful, surely? I told him to shut up and he said I should lighten up and ‘have a laugh’

I have plenty of self respect thanks. I have chosen not to have a relationship because I’m happy on my own. I just don’t find this kind of thing as traumatic as most other women do. Not everybody gets riled up about men making daft comments.

I have chosen not to have a relationship because I’m happy on my own.

stick like this, if your benchmark is so low

😆 😆

This was my first thought too.

Oh bore off you fool 🤣

oooh pick me, pick me!!

Disrespecting women by commenting on their bodies is a real issue, not to mention how it also disrespects OP.

Good men don't disrespect women.

Yes, good call to remain single
although who knows…. It might not change even if you were to have a change of heart!

Yuck 🤢

I agree. It’s a grim comment but I don’t know anyone who would be this hysterical about it in real life.

Being ‘cool’ with shit things men do/say doesn’t make you better than everyone else.

Because he’d been acting off all day, ruined their day out and then made a lewd comment about another woman’s body in front of his partner.

What an idiotic statement. Many of them wait until you're tied down by marriage, pregnancy, baby and then they allow their true personalities to seep out. You can't always see it coming.

It wouldn’t bother me and I would like to know why you went on a trip somewhere he clearly wasn’t interested in

actually I find it very amusing how women find it “disrespectful “ that men comment on their bodies
first because plenty of women comment on men’s bodies and partly because of the effort women in particular go to look good

oh I know it’s “just for myself “ but covid showed what a load of bollocks that was as no one wanted to get dressed up and made up just for themselves when they weren’t out and about

womenS whole idea of looking good is essentially about looking sexually reproductive but too many can’t face up to their own nature

thats why looking young and slim is so important, that’s why you dress to highlight you best features , why a decent bra that gives a perky shape is so favored , why clothes revelling your body shape are more common in women than men

innate subconscious

Grim. Utterly grim.

I became single about five years ago and my timeline has been this - dating desperate to get a man again, built a single life, love a single life, now one step further to feeling desperately sorry for and so so grateful and privileged that I’m free from grim men.

Urgh! Time to move on.

What a dick! Go visit some place by yourself next time, you'll enjoy it 100 times more.

Really?
Your dp thinks an attractive woman, not you, is the highlight of the day when you’re stood there.

I wouldn’t be leaving dh if he said this but I’d absolutely call him out on the disrespect.

He couldn’t be bothered to make an effort all day and then made a disrespectful comment about someone’s body to make you feel insecure. To top it all, he made out it was a ‘joke’ and you haven’t a sense of humour!
You deserve better than having to jolly along someone who is deliberately trying to spoil your day because he’s not doing something he would prefer and then making a comment on another woman’s body in the hope you will get upset and pretending it was just banter.
He is going out his way to make you feel miserable.

Hate the grumpy thing… We went on a holiday day trip once.
DH carried on like Kevin The Teenager the moment we arrived.

I enjoyed breakfast, tea & cake, ice cream, browsing boutiques, pottering in the town, sea swimming. Marvellous!

He had a lovely cooked breakfast. Offers to go to the pub. Same nice cafes as me. Nope! Didn’t look at any arses, though…

Yeah, fuck lame jokes at the expense of women, zero tolerance for that shit anymore! He managed to be both misogynistic by objectifying that other woman, and deeply hurtful to OP's self-esteem by completely devaluing their time together. Nice one!

I always think this when I read these. Surely she must of seen he was a dick when dating him?

What a fuss over a stupid immature comment. I think posters on here get some sort of pleasure from being judgemental. There are far worse things to worry about and to suggest that the poster dumps her partner on the strength of this is ludicrous. It was a silly and immature comment and should be treated as such.
There are lots of hysterical women on here just waiting for something to bitch about. The sort who loved to sit by the guillotine and watch the hangings! These women should get a life!

You say DP rather than DH - phew.

I would spend the next month pointing out every hot man you see whilst out with him or on the telly. When he complains, tell him to lighten up.

It was a shit comment but why the mood. Was it just not his thing? I can go and look at views, my dh can't. It would bore him senseless, that's just how he is. Ok he wouldn't make that comment but I also wouldn't take him out looking at views. Are the 2 of you really compatible?