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Being labelled unreliable as a working mum

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Positivegirl · 11/06/2025 14:32

I am absolutely working as hard as I can. Because I have to pick my child up from school I am now labelled as unreliable. I work extremely hard and I see colleagues at work completely slack, turn up late and not meet deadlines. I have been labelled as unreliable because I am a working mum. I don’t have another choice but to work, I let work know it’s half term but I still go hard I work 200% while my child is in half term and never miss a meeting or deadline. I do school drop off/pick up and run back to work. I travel for away days at work I run back to get my child and run back to the desk.

it’s never enough I’m doin the best I can and it’s heartbreaking to have people who don’t have children to tell me I’m not doing enough and that I am not reliable when I know I’m performing more than others. My project manger is always late, canceling meeting last minute and not meeting deadlines for us as a team to continue working. But I am unreliable as I leave to go pick my child up (in the hour that would be my lunch break as I don’t bother having lunch)

I feel like giving up I work for me and my child to give us a good life but I’m not doing enough there. Then in motherhood I’m working to hard.

im drained to the bone with judgment from both sides from people I know could not juggle what I do as a working single mum. Im fed up

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DancefloorAcrobatics · 16/06/2025 18:06

Matronic6 · 16/06/2025 16:30

Clearly they don't matter that much as the CEO and HR have supported OP.

The company promotes flexible work, and has approved OP's work situation. If the manager can't accommodate that kind of work then they need to raise with their manager. But I can't see the entire company ethos changing to suit one person.

The issue is, her line manager has picked up on it. The line manager is the first point of contact if there are any issues.

CEO and HR will listen to both, employee & their manager if issues continue. Then they try and put things in place ...

Personally from OP'S posts, I gather she's new to the role and still has the protection of being new ... but if she turns out to be difficult to manage then I wonder who would loose their job ... OP or their manager?

CantHoldMeDown · 16/06/2025 18:08

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DancefloorAcrobatics · 16/06/2025 18:29

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But not in the current role.

Matronic6 · 16/06/2025 18:38

DancefloorAcrobatics · 16/06/2025 18:29

But not in the current role.

You mean the current role she got promoted to? I'm not sure how things work in other peoples companies but promotion tend to come from good performance.

OP has been with company 2 years.
Has been promoted in that time
Has had no issues with clients, colleague, PM, HR and the CEO
The LM has literally been told to back off by their bosses

Maybe, just maybe the line manager is the problem.

CantHoldMeDown · 16/06/2025 18:48

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SmokyWood · 16/06/2025 19:10

I don't understand why so many people have been so scathing and judgemental.

I think it’s because OP has been defensive, deliberately vague and gives stupid ‘boss girl’ type responses instead of answering questions when people are trying to help her. She’s not painting herself in a good light on the thread so it’s not unreasonable to wonder what she’s like at work.

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