Partner spent my money and lied

[Lilly1812]

So i gave some money to my partner to keep in his savings account as he has a higher interest. I tried to open the same account but was denied. This is an inheritance given to my children by their late grandmother. I finally opened an account in their names and asked for the money back. He gave me different stories for a week. At first he said he has put some in a fixed term account so I said log in on ur app and let me see . He said no! Meanwhile he allowed me to see just a week before. This got me thinking that he has perhaps used some of the money. I asked him to tell me the truth but he insisted the money is there but he will transfer it when he's ready and he won't let me see his app either. After some back and forth and him making me very upset, he transferred some of the money. It is left with £5000. I asked him why he can't complete the transfer but he said he will do it. I persuaded him to just let me check to make sure he hasn't used it. He finally opened the app and I only saw £2000. I confronted him and he said he gave £3000 to his friend to invest in something and he should get it back by the end of the month. I'm so disappointed he lied to me for so long and also used my money without asking me. What can I do if I don't get the money back? I'm not talking to him as of now .

Why on Earth have you let this happen? If this can’t be resolved between the 2 of you small claims court will be your only option. But you are going to have to provide some sort of evidence. Do you have that? Also, how much money did you actually give him?

I don't know if there is anything you can do. You gave him the money, he could say it was a gift unless you have something in writing. If you end the relationship you will not get the money back. I would negotiate a payment plan if you can and when he's paid you back dump him.

Moral of the story....do not give money to someone to store in a bank account only they have access to.

This is theft. Give him to end of week to give you all the monies plus interest or report to police and go to small claims court. Oh, and dump him too

This.

Presuming there wasn’t any written agreement you haven’t got a leg to stand on really.

Tell him to repay the money or you will go to the police. Also, you have done an extremely stupid thing

Wow. You’re not seeing that again

Unless you can flog something of his or push him to take out a loan, you're fucked really.

Either play the long game and stay together until you can siphon it back or split and consider it an expensive lesson.

You gave him your kids money, you didn’t lend it to him. I doubt you’ll get any success in a small claims court and the police won’t give a shit.

How much was it in total?

And get the 2k out now.

OMG. You’ve been rl scammed.
Who is this person and why did you give him your kids’ money?!?

Can we stop the pile on? "You've been stupid" etc. This narrative is exactly why victims keep quiet.

Her "stupid" doesn't excuse his theft.

does he gamble? He may have lost it all.

Don't dump him yet. This is really important as he will think he doesn't have to pay anything once he's gone. Take whatever you can now. When does he get paid? How much does he actually owe now? How much does he get paid?

Get the £2000 out now.

You also know he’s not given £3000 to a ‘friend’ don’t you? He’s spent it.

Tell him he’s got until the end of the week to give you back the rest of the money, he can take out a loan if needed (most companies will give you the money the day you apply), otherwise you’ll take him to the small claims court and inform the police.

Once you know what you need to do by the end of the week, dump him.

That is theft.

And what a betrayal of trust by your partner.

I think you need to go to the small claims court OP. Don't let him get away with this.

Get your own savings account/isa with high interest and stop giving him money. Nothing you can do if he can’t or won’t give you the money back. You had no legal agreement.

For those suggesting it’s a police/ court issue and theft. It is not theft in the eyes of the law, OP gave partner that money willingly and he could easily say that to the law. I presume as OP hasn’t mentioned it there’s no written agreement drawn up between them that he will pay it back.

she has no evidence for small claims.

The partner has done nothing wrong. So unless he coughs up, OP won’t be getting that money back.

OP this is serious.

You have given away your children’s inheritance - not sure of the terms of the will, but I am assuming it was given to you by the Executor, for you to keep for your children. You have given it away.

You need to get the £2000 back immediately. You need to get your partner to set up a standing order to transfer, say £300/month on that day he is paid, every month for the next 10 months.

And you need to start saving yourself, as if he doesn’t repay the money, YOU have effectively done to his children, what he did to you, and you need to replace that money for them ASAP.

so many questions...
have you been with him long?
do you live together?
do either of you own your home?
do you have any shared bank accounts?
or any shared expenses?
does he have any other savings, or assets?
does he own a car/ motorbike (or anything else that a bailiff could conceivable seize in order to get your money back if you were forced to pursue this through the courts)?
is he already in debt of any kind?
or have a bad credit rating that you know of?
did he explicitly agree to give the £ back at a certain point (eg once you'd opened a new account) or date?
who is this 'friend'?

have you ever met them?
what evidence is there that this £ has been loaned to them?
and is there any kind of written loan agreement?
what would happen if this 'friend' didn't pay it back?
what are you being told they're investing in?
what will the return be on this 'investment'?
(and will you be given any of it?)
is he planning to give you any of the 'high interest' he's enjoyed as a result of you putting this £ in his account?

(hopefully if you ever receive huge amounts of £ again, you'll just keep it in your own account before transferring it, rather than giving it to someone so untrustworthy - sorry that he's turned out to be such a jerk)

I expect she was trying to hide it from UC.

OP were you trying to hide the money from the authorities?

I don't think you are going to see that money again. What on earth possessed you to hand over your kids inheritence to some random man you're dating?

that was bloody stupid - i wouldn't even give money like that to my Husband! trust nobody op